Oct 31, 2011 8:15 PM GMT
So my boyfriend and I have been dating for over two years. And it has been growing great... until we moved to New York. We both went to school together and lived together after I finished law school for a year after in the town where we both went to school for a year before moving to NYC. The problem is his TWO weirdly possessive and clingy faghags. They live in New York. They are lonely. They don't like each other very much and are very much frenemies. They compete and lobby for his attention. They always want him to come over on the weekends and party with them all night. If he spends time with one of them, the other will immediately demand an equal amount of time with him or he can expect a snippy text along the lines of "thanks for inviting me" if we are hanging out with the other one. If we try to go home after a night of partying with them, they lobby us hard to stay the night and spend all of the next day with them. Often I say no, sometimes he feels guilty and goes and hangs out with them because they are his closest friends in NYC, but they often use him as their default +1 when they need a "boyfriend" for a party, which usually means I'm on my own. I'm starting to feel like I'm a third wheel in my own relationship! He knows how I feel about them, but is wary of cutting them off because they are his closest friends and I don't want to make that kind of ultimatum. It's gotten to the point where if I want to hang out with him over the weekend, they include themselves and it means if I want to see my friends, I go alone because they have usually lobbied to have him go out with one of them weeks in advance. For example, last weekend one of them sent a detailed itinerary of what we were going to do for Halloween. This weekend one is hosting a two-part, two-day 25th birthday bash. Am I doomed? I'd try to find them boyfriends, but, you know, that's just not going to work.