Does the way you treat a guy depend on his hotness?

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    Oct 31, 2011 11:01 PM GMT
    Let's be serious.

    If somebody you don't find cute constantly messages you, you might be polite at first, then give short responses to make it clear you're not interested and maybe cease communication altogether.

    Now if he was ridiuclously beautiful and you couldn't believe he was talking to you/responded, would your response be different?

    I learned in psychology that we associate attractiveness with positivity, so we might put up with more with so called "beautiful" people, as we equate beauty with good.

    I sometimes find myself being drawn to one's personality, but treat everyone the same. I'm not easily phased by attractiveness, as the guy could have his pick and is probably stroking his ego dealing with me. Life of a cynical average looking guy haha

    Have you regretted writing someone off because they weren't physically what you pictured Mr. Right as....?
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    Oct 31, 2011 11:08 PM GMT
    Regrettably, yes. I do it on the internet.

    So many random IM boxes popping up, emails, messages, etc...

    While I don't ignore anyone, I do tend to strike a more genuine conversation with the guys that pique my interest faster. This is usually an attractiveness thing. Inversely, I tend to create dead-ends in conversation with guys I don't find very attractive.

    Things like common interest will keep me talking... Or complete idiocy.

    Some of it is subconscious, and some is a very conscious effort. I guess we are animals deep-down. Sex, sex, sex.

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    Oct 31, 2011 11:22 PM GMT
    I'll admit it does with me. Not just online but in person as well. A guy I find attractive could probably get away with a lot more than an ugly guy. But even that can only get you so far. Some hot guys I've had to be rude with if they get on my nerves. icon_confused.gif
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    Oct 31, 2011 11:24 PM GMT
    I don't know... beautiful people don't talk to me.
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    Oct 31, 2011 11:38 PM GMT
    I treat everyone I like or at least don't know with respect. But it's true, those guys I find attractive sometimes get most of my attention. But I go through this phase when I realize who the guy really is, and that determines if he keeps my attention.
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    Nov 01, 2011 12:18 AM GMT
    who doesn't?

    i'm usually responsive unless the person is being ridiculous, but i certainly don't try to lead people on (no use, it's online)
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    Nov 01, 2011 12:19 AM GMT
    I'm nice to everyone.
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    Nov 01, 2011 12:20 AM GMT
    This is true with me
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    Nov 01, 2011 12:21 AM GMT
    Shamefully i do. I try no too, because i was raised better the judge people. I know to an extent judging people by there looks is a natural response, but i try to not let it impact giving that person a chance. Inside trumps outside, but outside sets the first impression.
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    Nov 01, 2011 12:27 AM GMT
    This behavior is so predictable I use it as very efficient gaydar:

    - pretty woman who treats me well = lesbian
    - pretty man who treats me well = straight
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    Nov 01, 2011 12:32 AM GMT
    bachian saidThis behavior is so predictable I use it as very efficient gaydar:

    - pretty woman who treats me well = lesbian
    - pretty man who treats me well = straight



    LOL.


    Actually, when I was in grad school I was just coming out and getting gay friends, but I also continued with church friends. One of my gay friends met my church friends in a class (they didn't know they had me as a mutual acquaintance until gay friend checked FB). He came to me after, "OMG so-and-so is so cute and was so nice to me...is he family?" "No. He's just evangelical."
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    Nov 01, 2011 12:36 AM GMT
    Oh my God I feel bad but yes.

    I know I know. But I'm human.

    But I don't think it's that much of a difference.

    Like I don't throw myself over a puddle so they can step on me and not get their feet wet.

    I prolly just smile more.

    God I feel bad now.

    -_-!

    Shame on me. Lol jk.
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    Nov 01, 2011 12:36 AM GMT
    I try not to let it because I have sensed that's been done to me, even when I was not looking for anything sexual/romantic. Pretty people (or those who see themselves as such) tend to think that's all anybody could possibly want from them.

    I don't get messaged on here that much (shocker!) but in general I give everybody the benefit of the doubt unless they are getting inappropriate or graphic.

    I read about studies like that that too, WaitWhat. Good-looking defendants are more likely to be presumed innocent, too.
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    Nov 01, 2011 12:52 AM GMT
    stfu yea. its frowned upon i know, but we men are very visual creatures!
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    Nov 01, 2011 12:54 AM GMT
    I treat my friends nicer than my family, my boyfriends nicer than my friends. Although I'm an ass to them all despite how they look like.
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    Nov 01, 2011 1:05 AM GMT
    WaitWhat saidLet's be serious.

    If somebody you don't find cute constantly messages you, you might be polite at first, then give short responses to make it clear you're not interested and maybe cease communication altogether.

    Now if he was ridiuclously beautiful and you couldn't believe he was talking to you/responded, would your response be different?



    When you're interested in someone, you reciprocate interest. When you're not interested in someone you reciprocate (ideally) with curt politeness. When you get a message you have two things to gauge if you're interested, whatever message you receive and the picture of the individual. Humans are evolutionarily programmed to be interested in attractive people. It's not really rocket science or a psychological chimera.
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    Nov 01, 2011 1:09 AM GMT
    I think we all do... around good looking people i get intimidated and kinda shut down.
  • wellwell

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    Nov 01, 2011 1:17 AM GMT
    I hope not !
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    Nov 01, 2011 1:18 AM GMT
    It depends on what they say, honestly.
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    Nov 01, 2011 1:19 AM GMT
    In complete honesty. . . .yeah.
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    Nov 01, 2011 1:30 AM GMT
    i treat everyone the same..and im almost always cordial and respectful. This is due to the fact that everyone have a different view of what beauty and attractiveness is like to them. To some guys im very attractive and to others im almost relative to shrek. Like i can be attractive to someone who sees a dark or evened skin toned as attractive..i can be seen as attractive because of my nose or lips. So it varies...The difference is there are guys out there who are def dead on very attractive and normally they usually have that ego that accompany their vanity which let them behave a certain way..however negative it can be and thus they only limit themselves to get to know a certain group of men who they find personally to be cute, handsome or attractive. But by doing so they show themselves to not being per se a worthy person to get to know. that's just my opinion.
  • BCSwimmer

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    Nov 01, 2011 1:42 AM GMT
    It depends on what the intention of the communication is for.

    Since this question is in the Dating & Relationships section then I would say: Yes, there has to be some degree of physical attraction. While I attempt to be polite in all replies I do respond differently to someone I don't find physically attractive so as not to "lead them on". In that regard I may not ask too many leading questions nor make sexual innuendo.

    On the other hand if it was for conversation then it doesn't really matter so much to me what the person looks like.

    On another website my profile includes this wording:

    BCSwimmer
    Naturally for friendly communication your appearance is irrelevant, however for anything else I appreciate people who are fit, well-propotioned, well-groomed, clean and...
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    Nov 01, 2011 1:45 AM GMT
    I'd like to think that I treat everyone equally, if we're just talking about casual conversation. I'm interested in meeting new friends anyway. I don't assume that everyone who talks to me is looking for a boyfriend. If we're talking about conversations with potential dates, then yes, attractiveness is going to play a role.
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    Nov 01, 2011 2:08 AM GMT
    Everyone has a personal formula.
    looks do factor in a lot!
  • davidsticky69

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    Nov 01, 2011 8:52 AM GMT
    Hot + Arrogance = Douchebag = Instant Major Turn-off

    Sadly I have seen many of these cases in real life icon_lol.gif