Frustrated!!!

  • aat72

    Posts: 6

    May 28, 2008 1:18 PM GMT
    Hey all...I need everyone's opinion on what to do...

    I need to set things up a bit, so please bear with me.

    So about two years ago I dated this guy for a bit and it didn't work out. He kinda flaked out on me after about 5 dates and I didn't hear from him for a bit. Then after a few months we kinda started talking again...he called me one day telling me he had a dream about me and how I fucked him and he wanted to make it come true...yeah..I know...nutty.

    So of course I said sure, and he ended up flaking out again and I didn't hear from him for a month. Once again we reconnected and he apologized for everything and we ended up becoming really good friends.

    So for the past year, we've slowly learned more about one another and I have to say I totally have enjoyed and loved his friendship. I've never wanted anything else, and never even thought about it.

    Then in the past few weeks, he started sending all these signals that he wanted to hookup. At first they were very slight and I just ignored them, until about two weeks ago when he pretty much wrestled me to the ground and wanted to take my pants off!!! I kept resisting saying that this would ruin our friendship and he would end up freaking out again.

    So last monday he came over my place and he was intent on Blowing me, and me Fucking him. Well...once again I kept saying no...until I finally gave in and against my better judgement I let him blow me. Well...since then he's freaking out again.

    I used to talk to him everyday, sometimes 3 times a day. Now I've maybe talked to him twice for a total of 30 minutes. Finally yesterday I texted him asking him what was going on and that I was worried about him because he wasn't returning my calls. I asked him if he was freaking out and he said that he was "trying not to"

    What the fuck? So I replied back saying that all I wanted was my freind back. No expectations or freaking out. I miss him and his friendship. We always had so much fun together....

    So I keep second guessing myself. I know I can't push him, cuz he'll run away. He's known for doing that and we've talked about all his past relationships. But honestly, I don't want to have sex with him or be in a relationship...I just want my friend back!!!

    The sensible part of me says that I should just let him be and he will come back...but another part of me thinks that he may be so freaked out that he won't ever talk to me again....What do I do??? Help!!!
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    May 28, 2008 2:02 PM GMT
    Let him be. He's is messing around with your head probably because he's messed up himself.

  • auryn

    Posts: 2061

    May 28, 2008 9:37 PM GMT
    He needs help and you can do better. I'd remove his number and not contact him. You're too attractive, and from the little info your post and profile give, you've too good of a heart for his drama.

    If he calls again and wants to play, decide how you feel about it and act accordingly, but realise, he's not worthy of your full attention.

    That's the advice I've given myself in similar situations, and it's worked. Friends have stayed friends, fucks have stayed fucks, and I've grown stronger.