For those who travel internationally...

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    Nov 02, 2011 4:01 AM GMT
    So, right now I am majoring in International Business but want to get into marketing/sales. I want to work for an international company so many times they require you to either:

    A. Travel a lot
    B. Relocate semi-often
    C. Both.

    I understand that is the nature of the job but the downside is that it would be hard finding/keeping a boyfriend. I know I am probably over thinking it and would take a bit for me to get into that position of work to travel but I am just a bit worried.

    So my question for you guys, for those who travel internationally for work, do you find it is difficult finding/keeping a boyfriend? To those who have a boyfriend, how do you guys make it work?

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    Nov 02, 2011 4:22 AM GMT
    I think things will be fine as long as it doesn't become a long distance relationship, or shall I say 'overseas'.

    I don't do international travel, but doing national travel it's hard enough. But if you're only gone for a week or 2, and then come home for a week or 2 then I can't see it being a deal breaker for someone.

    People in the military deal with it often I think. But then again, military men make terrible boyfriends. I've dated military men and their transient future tends to make them less reliable in the long run. Unless they are straight with kids back home to go to.
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    Nov 02, 2011 5:09 AM GMT
    mochamuscle saidI think things will be fine as long as it doesn't become a long distance relationship, or shall I say 'overseas'.

    I don't do international travel, but doing national travel it's hard enough. But if you're only gone for a week or 2, and then come home for a week or 2 then I can't see it being a deal breaker for someone.

    People in the military deal with it often I think. But then again, military men make terrible boyfriends. I've dated military men and their transient future tends to make them less reliable in the long run. Unless they are straight with kids back home to go to.


    Thanks Mocha,

    I love traveling...I really do. It is a passion of mine but lets say if i was to move every 2 years or so...would be hard to establish something serious.
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    Nov 02, 2011 11:48 AM GMT
    I have a wonderful guy... and we make it work. it makes me miss him even more when I am gone. The chats we get to have in the morning and night. I"ll be going overseas this weekend for a week and then back home on the next weekend.

    You can make it work.
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    Nov 02, 2011 12:13 PM GMT
    It's hard to sustain any type of relationship when you're away for work all the time. It will usually take time and a lot of trust between both people in order for it to work. People do it all the time. Being in the military, it's a double-edged sword. I'm always gone and even when I get back, I don't know when I'll be gone again. I'll say one thing, though, I'd still prefer being in a relationship than being single. Just the thought of someone waiting for you back home is enough to make it through some tough times when you're away.
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    Nov 02, 2011 12:36 PM GMT
    AlexanderB,
    I think it's important to keep a couple of things in mind.

    Not everyone will make the ideal boyfriend. You'll meet plenty of people who want someone who's around to spend more time with them. There are some who hate being in a relationship and still being alone on the weekend. But there are more than enough others who have their own group of friends, and social and personal activities that they can bridge the times when you're away.

    If you're doing something you love, it'll show in your attitude and behavior, and that increases your chances of meeting someone special who's right for you. And when you're lucky enough to meet someone incredibly well suited to you (I found mine at 28 cycling across Germany), you'll find that some of the things that had top priority before just aren't as important anymore.

    Do what you love, listen to your inner voice - and listen to your partner, too. Despite the many fun forums on this site, in reality almost no situation is only 2 potential resolutions. By listening to my husband, I've come to realize there are sometimes dozens of options.

    By the way, I also studied International Business with a concentration on marketing. Small world.
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    Nov 02, 2011 6:56 PM GMT
    AlexanderB saidbut lets say if i was to move every 2 years or so...would be hard to establish something serious.


    drypin saidAlexanderB,
    I think it's important to keep a couple of things in mind.

    Not everyone will make the ideal boyfriend.


    and to add to that, i think in situations you just have to do what's best for you and better yourself. People want things perfect, but it's no telling that 6 or 8 months from now (or 6 or 8 days) that person will not change their mind.

    I don't believe staying in 1 place as the only way to meet someone. I believe rather that, you can meet someone relationship material just about anywhere you go.

    I've moved often, in fact about 3 or 4 times in the past 12 months; although I've settled in one place all this year, but never has there been a time I stayed because I was afraid moving would ruin the relationship.

    What I'm saying is, you can't put your life on hold especially on the premise of there being a 'prospect' of a relationship. Gay men just aren't that reliable to wait up for them.



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    Nov 03, 2011 7:39 PM GMT
    I fit into that category, except I am far from a business man. Enjoy your time traveling, meet lots of people, experience the world, and enjoy the opportunity!
  • Iakona

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    Nov 03, 2011 9:47 PM GMT
    I was traveling for work internationally for about 13 year and I did find it really hard to maintain a relationship. The only one that ever worked out was with my husband, and we traveled the last 3 years for work.... We were in the same shows....
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    Nov 03, 2011 9:59 PM GMT
    If I was 20 and being offered jobs to travel the world, I wouldn't want a boyfriend!

    You have the rest of your life to be domesticated. Go be a rockstar.
  • flahotstuff

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    Nov 03, 2011 10:15 PM GMT

    you have a hot boyfriend in each city- it is quite easy to do and satisfying.....Enjoy the ride
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    Nov 03, 2011 10:16 PM GMT
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  • calibro

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    Nov 03, 2011 10:18 PM GMT
    no offense, but you're 20. and you don't actually have this job... or the requirements of travel that it calls for. hope about getting through school and landing the job in this economy before you play the what if game?
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    Nov 04, 2011 12:29 AM GMT
    calibro saidno offense, but you're 20. and you don't actually have this job... or the requirements of travel that it calls for. hope about getting through school and landing the job in this economy before you play the what if game?


    Just wanted input with people who are actually in that profession, that so wrong?

    I am working on finishing school and have two internships under my belt as a junior and currently working on getting another for this summer. So as of now, I am not worrying about having a relationship and don't really want one until I have established myself.

    Was just a simple question for future reference.

    For all that actually gave me solid advice, I appreciate it ^^

  • calibro

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    Nov 04, 2011 9:06 AM GMT
    AlexanderB said
    calibro saidno offense, but you're 20. and you don't actually have this job... or the requirements of travel that it calls for. hope about getting through school and landing the job in this economy before you play the what if game?


    Just wanted input with people who are actually in that profession, that so wrong?

    I am working on finishing school and have two internships under my belt as a junior and currently working on getting another for this summer. So as of now, I am not worrying about having a relationship and don't really want one until I have established myself.

    Was just a simple question for future reference.

    For all that actually gave me solid advice, I appreciate it ^^



    and you sound exactly like your age, which is to say you should do a better job at reading between the lines.
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    Nov 04, 2011 10:41 AM GMT
    I travel all the time... I spend half of the year in Austria, Czech Republic and Germany.

    Yeah, I guess it would be hard to keep a stable relationship, but for me it is not a problem, because I do not have one. But I can't imagine having a LTR and do the same job at the same time... no way
  • whatatrouble

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    Nov 08, 2011 10:13 AM GMT
    It only depends on how much the guy loves you.

    I was with a guy for four years and during those years I was not home for almost 70% of the time, for work. But we were together happily, and I could feel that he really loved me.

    We broke up for some other reason. However, I (maybe I should say "we") didn't think LTR was a problem.