Are you into fitness to be fit and healthy or just to have a body built for sex?

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    Nov 02, 2011 1:42 PM GMT
    I spent last Friday night with a now former friend who is a hardcore sex pig. All the discussions about sport and fitness focused on sex and the guys who I ended up talking with, who in fact bored me to death with the sex obsessions, admitted they only went into fitness to have a super hot body and only part participated in sport (e.g. wrestling) for the erotic attraction.

    Now this is against my morals of why one should partake in a healthy active lifestyle and engage in sport.

    Yes sex is natural and happens in sport cultures, yet it's not the sole focus of why people engage in sport.

    I'm just wondering what other guys opinions on this are?

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    Nov 02, 2011 4:19 PM GMT
    especially during teens and early adulthood, the desire for sex actually is at the root of a disturbingly larger percentage of the things people do. I would imagine that for many gay men, it is an extremely important reason to go to the gym everyday.
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    Nov 02, 2011 4:23 PM GMT
    YES.
  • SoDakGuy

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    Nov 02, 2011 4:43 PM GMT
    Both.
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    Nov 02, 2011 4:49 PM GMT
    I have to admit, when I started working out it was mainly because I wasn't happy with the way my body looked and I didn't think I'd be able to attract the guys I was into. I was a pretty skinny dude, and I was more attracted to muscular guys. So yeah, it was kind of sex/dating driven to start. I figured... if that's the kind of dude I want to be with, well... then that's the kind of dude I need to be myself. It was good motivation. Haha.

    That said, the reason I keep working out now is because I've realized over the years that there are very few things as important to me as my physical/mental health (and I think working out, sports, really any form of exercise addresses both of those). It's just become a way of life for me. The focus has definitely shifted from "get a ripped body" to "live a healthy lifestyle"... and I think that's a good thing.
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    Nov 02, 2011 4:58 PM GMT
    I just like to be able to show that lawn mower who's boss and get the tops off of pickle jars. Guys are usually just interested in my package anyway, and I was born with that....no gym effort required.
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    Nov 02, 2011 4:58 PM GMT
    rbdude79 saidI have to admit, when I started working out it was mainly because I wasn't happy with the way my body looked and I didn't think I'd be able to attract the guys I was into. I was a pretty skinny dude, and I was more attracted to muscular guys. So yeah, it was kind of sex/dating driven to start. I figured... if that's the kind of dude I want to be with, well... then that's the kind of dude I need to be myself. It was good motivation. Haha.

    That said, the reason I keep working out now is because I've realized over the years that there are very few things as important to me as my physical/mental health (and I think working out, sports, really any form of exercise addresses both of those). It's just become a way of life for me. The focus has definitely shifted from "get a ripped body" to "live a healthy lifestyle"... and I think that's a good thing.


    This. The prospect of hot sex got me in the gym door, but the enjoyability of fitness kept me there.
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    Nov 02, 2011 5:02 PM GMT
    I work out because it makes me feel good about myself. The endorphines that get pumped from the gym and the feeling of being sore the next day are amazing. Plus it is like a game, figuring out how much you need to eat to reach goals and what not, so yea, its all fun times with weapons and such.
  • DanOmatic

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    Nov 02, 2011 5:02 PM GMT
    While having a good physique does go hand in hand with feeling confident, I think for a lot of gay men that the end goal is just to have a nice body, even if they're not really very fit in the true sense of the word.

    For me, being active and physical is part of what I do every day. I just do what I like to do, and my physique is the by-product of having an athletic and balanced lifestyle, not an end in itself.
  • jonwaltglat

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    Nov 02, 2011 5:05 PM GMT
    I'm for both. I have always been an active individual, but I will honestly say that it was the sex appeal and the "want of a hot body" that put me into the gym and onto the weights. Again, I've always been active so I've always been pushing to live a healthy lifestyle.
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    Nov 02, 2011 5:11 PM GMT
    Healthy and slim. I'll admit the reality of reciprocated physical attraction plays into it but lots of sex is not on my list of reasons.
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    Nov 02, 2011 5:12 PM GMT
    rbdude79 saidI have to admit, when I started working out it was mainly because I wasn't happy with the way my body looked and I didn't think I'd be able to attract the guys I was into. I was a pretty skinny dude, and I was more attracted to muscular guys. So yeah, it was kind of sex/dating driven to start. I figured... if that's the kind of dude I want to be with, well... then that's the kind of dude I need to be myself. It was good motivation. Haha.

    This
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    Nov 02, 2011 5:13 PM GMT
    I don't want to look like all the fat Polynesians in my family...AND a bod built to be a lasting sex demon.
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    Nov 02, 2011 5:13 PM GMT
    I do it mainly so that I have an excuse to participate in fitness websites.
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    Nov 02, 2011 5:15 PM GMT
    Cash saidI do it mainly so that I have an excuse to participate in fitness websites.


    Thats why I do it too. I dont want to end up like FriendsrButtre or his demon spawn likewatuc. I actually like being (somewhat) accepted here.
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    Nov 02, 2011 5:19 PM GMT
    For me its become more about wellness more than anything else --
    physical, mental, moral, social -- since I so rarely have any contact
    with the gay environments or social scenes I frequented years ago.
    In my present milieu, hours spent in the gym are considered "vain"
    and wanting to look and feel great is considered "horribly modern".

    Basically, its about living up to an ideal of well-rounded wholeness
    and having the experience and knowledge to better enable others.
    Plus its a necessity in order for me to keep to regular sleep cycles.

    If someone approaches me and their first comment is about how
    yummy I look, or how good we'd look together, my upper lip curls.
    So mass appeal surely isn't my prime motivation -- more a bonus.
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    Nov 02, 2011 5:31 PM GMT
    MrAsh77 saidI spent last Friday night with a now former friend who is a hardcore sex pig. All the discussions about sport and fitness focused on sex and the guys who I ended up talking with, who in fact bored me to death with the sex obsessions, admitted they only went into fitness to have a super hot body and only part participated in sport (e.g. wrestling) for the erotic attraction.

    Now this is TOTALLY against my morals of why one should partake in a healthy active lifestyle and engage in sport.

    Yes sex is natural and happens in sport cultures, yet it's not the sole focus of why people engage in sport.

    I'm just wondering what other guys opinions on this are?


    If that's the reason the friend is now 'former', I think you need to be less judgemental and lighten up a bit.
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    Nov 02, 2011 5:32 PM GMT
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    MrAsh77 saidI spent last Friday night with a now former friend who is a hardcore sex pig. All the discussions about sport and fitness focused on sex and the guys who I ended up talking with, who in fact bored me to death with the sex obsessions, admitted they only went into fitness to have a super hot body and only part participated in sport (e.g. wrestling) for the erotic attraction.

    Now this is TOTALLY against my morals of why one should partake in a healthy active lifestyle and engage in sport.

    Yes sex is natural and happens in sport cultures, yet it's not the sole focus of why people engage in sport.

    I'm just wondering what other guys opinions on this are?


    If that's the reason the friend is now 'former', I think you need to be less judgemental and lighten up a bit.


    Agree with this. I mean, yes if all he cares about is sex and cant have any hobbies sure, but for a one time incident? Come the fuck on.

    He couldnt have been laid for a month hence going cray cray on the ding dong on ya.
  • 1man

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    Nov 02, 2011 5:38 PM GMT
    both
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    Nov 02, 2011 5:44 PM GMT
    Both...

    But in terms of sex, its To get my body where I find it attractive. I was able to get pretty muscular guys before I started working out, (cuz guys that like hairy... really like hairy lol). So its more for me, so that I think I'm as hot as can be. My vain ass wants to b muscular grrrr.

    I do love being better, faster, stronger, harder tho. I used to always lose at anything physical and now I'm either in first or second at any given physical activity out of my friends.
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    Nov 02, 2011 5:45 PM GMT
    wolverinecub86 saidBoth...

    But in terms of sex, its To get my body where I find it attractive. I was able to get pretty muscular guys before I started working out, (cuz guys that like hairy... really like hairy lol). So its more for me, so that I think I'm as hot as can be. My vain ass wants to b muscular grrrr.

    I do love being better, faster, stronger, harder tho. I used to always lose at anything physical and now I'm either in first or second at any given physical activity out of my friends.


    Yes, get stronger wolfie. You cant have sex with a guy like me unless you can move my furniture around!
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    Nov 02, 2011 5:51 PM GMT
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    wolverinecub86 saidBoth...

    But in terms of sex, its To get my body where I find it attractive. I was able to get pretty muscular guys before I started working out, (cuz guys that like hairy... really like hairy lol). So its more for me, so that I think I'm as hot as can be. My vain ass wants to b muscular grrrr.

    I do love being better, faster, stronger, harder tho. I used to always lose at anything physical and now I'm either in first or second at any given physical activity out of my friends.


    Yes, get stronger wolfie. You cant have sex with a guy like me unless you can move my furniture around!


    Well when I started lifting 15 months ago I could barely squat with just the bar. Now I can squat over 2 plates on each side 10x. So slowly but surely getting stronger.
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    Nov 02, 2011 5:52 PM GMT
    Both. One begets the other.

    The healthier I feel, the more I feel like sex.
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    Nov 02, 2011 5:54 PM GMT
    wolverinecub86 said
    Chainers said
    wolverinecub86 saidBoth...

    But in terms of sex, its To get my body where I find it attractive. I was able to get pretty muscular guys before I started working out, (cuz guys that like hairy... really like hairy lol). So its more for me, so that I think I'm as hot as can be. My vain ass wants to b muscular grrrr.

    I do love being better, faster, stronger, harder tho. I used to always lose at anything physical and now I'm either in first or second at any given physical activity out of my friends.


    Yes, get stronger wolfie. You cant have sex with a guy like me unless you can move my furniture around!


    Well when I started lifting 15 months ago I could barely squat with just the bar. Now I can squat over 2 plates on each side 10x. So slowly but surely getting stronger.


    I just started squatting and I never realized how strong my legs are til now. I can do 45s on each side of the bar.
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    Nov 02, 2011 5:55 PM GMT
    I workout because I can't sleep if I don't do something active during the day to tire myself out. It's also a lot of fun and I've met most of my friends at the gym. Crossfit is a great community.

    I don't get the whole "I like muscular guys so I have to be muscular" thing. Where does it say muscular guys only like other muscular guys. Not that I'm all jacked, but I'm much more attracted to tall, lean guys than guys with big muscles. And those guys always seem to think I wouldn't be interested since they're not muscular enough.