Is it just me thinking this, or is a gay bar just another kind of sewing circle of shit talkers?

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    Nov 02, 2011 11:35 PM GMT
    I swear if one isn't talking shit about the other they're talking shit about somebody else. I try not to judge myself but I'm only human. I've only been on the scene for about 4 years. Pretty boring most of the time but I like it better than the straight clubs i go to sometimes so act like you know still going to remain cordial with everybody at the clubs over here as long as i can enjoy my corona with lime and some good musica.icon_wink.gif
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    Nov 02, 2011 11:48 PM GMT
    People still enjoy Corona in the 2010's?

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    Nov 02, 2011 11:50 PM GMT
    And a straight bar is different how?
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    Nov 02, 2011 11:50 PM GMT
    Um, what?
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    Nov 02, 2011 11:53 PM GMT
    bigbrother4alexander saidI swear if one isn't talking shit about the other they're talking shit about somebody else. I try not to judge myself but I'm only human. I've only been on the scene for about 4 years. Pretty boring most of the time but I like it better than the straight clubs i go to sometimes so act like you know still going to remain cordial with everybody at the clubs over here as long as i can enjoy my corona with lime and some good musica.icon_wink.gif


    Gee honey, you sound just about as bad as the people you're complaining about!

    Just something to think about there.
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    Nov 03, 2011 12:15 AM GMT
    Honestly, I haven't been to every gay and straight bar and I'm only speaking from experience as little as that may be to some OGs on here.Speaking about shit talking isn't really talking shit at all but more of a speculation on the fact of shit talking. icon_lol.gif so yea... don't get it twisted.
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    Nov 03, 2011 12:17 AM GMT
    bachian saidPeople still enjoy Corona in the 2010's?



    icon_cool.gif I love it. niceicon_lol.gif
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    Nov 03, 2011 2:09 AM GMT
    Yeah, good luck trying to find somebody to admit that gay men are talking shit about each other and somebody else. It is true. Not all of them, but quite a few catty, Mean Girls standing around or walking around talking shit.
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    Nov 03, 2011 5:22 AM GMT
    Balljunkie saidYeah, good luck trying to find somebody to admit that gay men are talking shit about each other and somebody else. It is true. Not all of them, but quite a few catty, Mean Girls standing around or walking around talking shit.


    Yup.. Girls....
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    Nov 03, 2011 9:42 AM GMT
    bigbrother4alexander saidI swear if one isn't talking shit about the other they're talking shit about somebody else. I try not to judge myself but I'm only human. I've only been on the scene for about 4 years. Pretty boring most of the time but I like it better than the straight clubs i go to sometimes so act like you know still going to remain cordial with everybody at the clubs over here as long as i can enjoy my corona with lime and some good musica.icon_wink.gif


    Not always. Drama is only there is you make yourself a part of it. Ignoring your friends when they start gossiping at you is a way to make sure you're excluded.
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    Nov 03, 2011 10:16 AM GMT
    That's exactly what it is, I went to my first pride parade this year I brought my boyfriend that is 15 years older than me and was told I was diigusting by the people I thought were my friends and it was the kind of shit talking that's not said directly to you but loud enough to hear them say it. And I know I didn't do anything for them to even be upset with me. I'm not saying that all guys are little bitches that just gather and talk shit. But a a lot are making me believe otherwise. But I'm happy and that's all that matters I don't even give them the time of day.
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    Nov 03, 2011 12:49 PM GMT
    LJay saidAnd a straight bar is different how?

    That was my thought, too. A lot of it may have to do with the group dynamic and the individual personalities, because you might see it at one moment in a bar or club, and not there at another time. And depending upon the clientele you might get different kinds of shit talking.

    For instance, I have to laugh at the "angry old men" all hunched over their drinks at the bar, bitching & moaning about everything, from politics to other recent news items to really almost anything & anyone. Everything displeases them.

    Then there are the "experts" though often only one in the group asserts himself as being the most knowledgeable on every subject. Which of course he never is, and it's very tempting to want to yell across the bar at him that he doesn't know what the fuck he's talking about. But then that would make you just like him.

    Sports talkers are another group I avoid if I can, and carry along ear plugs in case I can't. Those also help with the off-duty drag queens, who seem to think they're still doing their loud stage monologue in exaggerated voices even when not in costume. And so it goes.

    Are gay men a bit more catty than their straight bar counterparts? Perhaps, but you're really just trading one kind of shit talk for another. My solution is to cultivate friends who rarely gossip, who talk real-world, meaningful things, and who almost always keep conversations on a positive note. (Like me! icon_rolleyes.gif )
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    Nov 03, 2011 4:46 PM GMT
    Gossip is gossip, no matter where it happens.
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    Nov 03, 2011 4:53 PM GMT
    I kinda thought clubs were just a conglomeration of strangers other than the friends you went with. In that case, trash talking would be limited to stuff like...

    guy #1: "OMG look at the pants she's wearing". [gestures towards guy in tight pants]
    #2: "All creatures great and small, those pants could crack a flea!"
    #3: "Tru dat. I'd tap it".

    No harm. No foul.
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    Nov 03, 2011 7:17 PM GMT
    bachian saidPeople still enjoy Corona in the 2010's?



    I prefer the Spanish version...icon_lol.gif (Ritmo de la Noche really is "Rhythm of the Night" in Spanish)



    it's like a drag queen's LSD trip