I met this really cute guy... but he stutters.

  • EricPrado

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    May 28, 2008 7:59 PM GMT
    I went to a party this past Friday with some friends (it was mostly a gay party i guess you could say) and i happened to run into this really cute guy. We kept looking at each other throughout the whole night until i finally went over to say hi. I asked what his name was and he said
    "Br-Br-Brandon what's your na-na-name?"
    and i just felt so bad because it took him a while to finally finish his sentence. Maybe he was just nervous?

    We exchanged phone numbers but idk if i should call him because... idk. We might have trouble talking to each other?
    He seemed like a really nice guy though. He suggested we should go see The Strangers. Btw is anyone going to go see that?
    Anyways, right before we left the party one of my friends asked if i was going to call him and when i said i didn't know he just gave me this mean look and said "you're fucked"

    What should i do?
    What would you do?
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    May 28, 2008 8:07 PM GMT
    Call him I say...for all u know, the stutter might just be nerves and once he gets comfy with u, it may disappear. If not then maybe you can look past it or work with it. I find a bit of a nervous stutter to be kinda cute.icon_biggrin.gif
  • phill

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    May 28, 2008 8:09 PM GMT
    +1 on the cute.

    Usually someone who stutters has alot more interesting things to say because it cost them more to say it. pay attention you might learn something.
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    May 28, 2008 8:09 PM GMT
    Stuttering is often a chronic condition, but is often triggered by certain things -- like nervousness. I had a roommate once who stammered and stuttered so badly he could hardly get a word out when I first met him, but as we got to know each other and become more comfortable around each other, the stuttering pretty much melted away.

    If he seemed like a nice guy, I wouldn't let it get in the way of getting to know him more, and I wouldn't judge him for it.
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    May 28, 2008 8:13 PM GMT
    call him, you pussy.
  • MikePhilPerez

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    May 28, 2008 8:15 PM GMT
    CALL HIM!!!!!!!!!

    No offence, but don't be a ass. So he stutters, big deal. That does not make him who he is.

    Would he embarrass you?

    I'm sure you are better than to let his stutter embarrass you.

    He was probably nervous, and that make it much worse.

    Give him a call icon_wink.gif
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    May 28, 2008 8:23 PM GMT
    I knew this absolutely adorable boy once who had a stutter. I would have dated him in a heartbeat if I had been his type!
  • MikePhilPerez

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    May 28, 2008 8:26 PM GMT
    nysexy saidCall him I say...for all u know, the stutter might just be nerves and once he gets comfy with u, it may disappear. If not then maybe you can look past it or work with it. I find a bit of a nervous stutter to be kinda cute.icon_biggrin.gif


    My partner has told me that I have a nervous stutter icon_redface.gif

    Not sure if he thinks it is cute, but he makes fun of it icon_confused.gif
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    May 28, 2008 8:50 PM GMT
    ...and there you have it.

    Welcome to the wonderful world of the shallow gay man.
  • auryn

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    May 28, 2008 9:00 PM GMT
    Since he stutters, doesn't that mean that he has an over-active tongue and lips?
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    May 28, 2008 9:03 PM GMT
    You should call him. You never know where it may lead or what might happen. Life is full of chances and this might be one you regret not taking. You have nothing to lose.
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    May 28, 2008 9:04 PM GMT
    Call him for sure. He is probably very aware of his stutter issue, prob insecure about it, and it probably acts up when he least needs it ie. when talking to someone for the first time and is nervous.

    Give the boy a fair chance. Let us know how the date went!!!!!!

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    May 28, 2008 9:10 PM GMT
    Call him, no questions asked. This is just my opinion, but here is how I see it.

    If you guys really click, and you have a good time with him, I doubt that the stutter will prevent you from progressing with him, be it a relationship or whatnot.

    If you don't click, as long as you approached him with an open mind as you would any guy, then the stutter should have no weight in your decision not to date him.

    And as several guys have stated already, it may be triggered by nervousness; so give him a shot icon_smile.gif
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    May 28, 2008 9:16 PM GMT
    smalltownboy said...and there you have it.

    Welcome to the wonderful world of the shallow gay man.


    Exactly.
    Change 'he stutters' to 'he wears brown shoes' and you'll see what the answer is. At least, I HOPE you'll see.
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    May 28, 2008 9:22 PM GMT
    that shouldn't even be a concern. i actually think its kinda cute, haha. call him
  • HereNBoston

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    May 28, 2008 9:22 PM GMT
    give the guy a break. definitely call him. I'm one of those guys that gets pretty nervous talking to a cute guy... it'll probably go away the more comfortable he gets.

    haha i'm in a relationship and i still get intimidated talking to this cute surgical resident at my work about work stuff!

    call the boy and report back.
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    May 28, 2008 9:24 PM GMT
    You should call him. Speech impediments can be cute and some stutterers I've know often stutter less once they are relaxed around someone. You also have to ask yourself what bothers you most, the fact that he stutters or that you're worried about your friends might think.
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    May 28, 2008 9:39 PM GMT
    He stutters, OMG, how horrible! Hopefully, you've had your cootie shots or you might fall victim to the same fate. Oh, how awful, I'm gonna go vomit.
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    May 28, 2008 9:43 PM GMT
    call him. even though you were thrown off by the fact that he stutters, he probably doesn't even think about it anymore, especially if it's a chronic condition. it's like a dog that's born with three legs - you feel bad for it, but at the same time, that's all it's ever known and it's gotten along pretty well thus far
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    May 28, 2008 9:46 PM GMT
    Maybe you shouldn't call him. There are heaps of guys who would have called him without thinking, it'd be a shame to waste him if he's both cute and nice.
  • EricPrado

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    May 28, 2008 9:50 PM GMT
    McGay saidHe stutters, OMG, how horrible! Hopefully, you've had your cootie shots or you might fall victim to the same fate. Oh, how awful, I'm gonna go vomit.








    I am really getting tired of your stupid sarcastic remarks on everything i post. If you don't like it then simply don't read them. It's that easy
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    May 28, 2008 10:01 PM GMT
    If you don't want me to read them, don't post them.

    The next time you talk to a stutterer, ask if he can lend you his sense of humor.

    And don't call the stutterer you're talking about in this thread. You obviously don't deserve such a nice guy.
  • ShawnTX

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    May 28, 2008 10:14 PM GMT
    Call him, there are worse things than a stutter. If you don't call him over such a small issue, you're not allowed to post any 'Poor me, why can't I find a guy' threads. icon_biggrin.gif
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    May 28, 2008 10:14 PM GMT
    Stuttering can be fixed. You should call him. When I get too excited I tend to talk fast and stutter. If someone decided not to talk to me because of this....that is there loss.

  • May 28, 2008 10:21 PM GMT
    as a guy who use to stutter so bad i couldn't even hold a conversation, and now can perform on stage without a problem, i say give the guy a chance. like most have said, it's nerves that is playing a big part in his stutter. Many times, the stutter will dissappear once he gets comfortable with his surroundings and the people he is with. I know when i first meet a guy i tend to stutter more often. It could also be that he was tired too. When a stutterer is tired, the brain has to think extra hard to talk, and therefore stutters more. It's an interesting phenom how the brain works in both people who stutter and those who don't. I bet if he sings the stutter goes away.

    what it boils down to, is don't worry about the stutter, it's not what makes the man. What maters is what's inside, and you wont beable to experience that if you dont give him a chance.

    best of luck,
    mike