How to un"GAY" a Gay ?!?!

  • iconforus

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    Nov 03, 2011 7:07 PM GMT
    Guys i know this guy he is about 23, cute nice, friendly, and yes he turns me on. He is an kinda EMO and yes he likes JBeber

    I"m gay, aren't we all...but I feel he also is not gay in a way.[not 100% sure ]

    Now I'm not a pervert uknow, i don't get into anyone's pants unless both of us agree , but i once tried to find out what he'd be like if i tried to do a little Q&A, doctor-doctor with him and find out, it seems he likes hot guys a lot more than he likes girls, now what worries me is his father is a icon_evil.gif , i mean a real MF and so is his mom , and his elder brother icon_eek.gif. sorta like the adams family

    So i'm pretty sure , and looking at the way that guy glances at goodlookin guys i'd say he'd be locking lips with some one [male] pretty soon.

    If His pops finds out about his possible gay nature, he's gonna be kicking him further than Macaulay Culkin's father landed in MJ's i would like some wise ass here to tell me

    1. Is there any SOLID way to find out that he's gonna be or has become a gay in a way

    2. Can he be unGAYed, i mean , can he be some how told not to look at men in that way or to invite attention in such a way

    3. Is there a way , or a book that advices young men [not the bible pls] how to cope with family , friends who are not supportive or might try to kill you , knowing that you're a gay

    Pls dont take this in a funny way, i know there might be one or two wise-men here in this group who can shed light on this topic

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    Nov 03, 2011 7:59 PM GMT
    Life sucks to be abnormal. People think being different also means involving crimes, diseases, perverting,...

    It's very unlucky for him to have such strongly unsupporting family, but sadly i have never heard of a case where u could convert a gay back to straight. I have heard about therapies, hypnotizing, watever weird stuffs trying to make you think you're a normal man. But no, it's all about lying to your brain, trying to lock down the beast inside you. And that also means, the beast will break free one day...

    For it's impossible to ungay him, i suggest you stay by his side when the truth comes out. It's gonna be tough but since he's having such a friend like you, it's gonna help a lot even tho' he is surrounded by creepy homophobes.
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    Nov 03, 2011 10:40 PM GMT
    So you don't know if he's gay.

    As a bisexual, he's likely to be ogling all sorts of people, regardless of gender. If he only ogles guys, there's nothing wrong with that, and I wouldn't discourage it unless he asks you if you think it's creepy.

    Does he know you're gay? If you haven't told him, what's stopping you? If he knows and hasn't made the moves on you, leave him the f*ck alone.

    His family is only a problem for him, not you. Has he said he needs help with his family? Again, unless he asks, it's none of your business. A constructive thing to mention is that if things ever get bad with his family he's welcome to crash at your place. Other than that, what can you do?
  • flahotstuff

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    Nov 03, 2011 10:43 PM GMT
    Let people live stop trying to UN anything....look inward
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    Nov 03, 2011 11:24 PM GMT
    Here's how you UN-gay. Totally works.

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    Nov 03, 2011 11:35 PM GMT
    PFLAG is a VERY good resource for families that have a hard time dealing with the coming out process. But it sounds like you aren't sure if he's even gay, or bi. I think you should straight up ask him, if he's a good friend of yours then he probably won't mind you asking. If he isn't, you both can just laugh about it hopefully. lol but if he is, be as supportive as possible. Help him with coming out to his parents, and let him know about PFLAG. It isn't just for parents though, the two of you can go and talk to people about how it was like when their kids came out. I've been to a few meetings with a friend of mine and there are a couple of queer kids that go just to talk about how it's going with their coming out process, and what it's like to be in a house that does not fully accept them for who they are.

    I hope this helped.
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    Nov 04, 2011 12:39 AM GMT
    iconforus saidHe is an kinda EMO and yes he likes JBeber
    There is a difference between gay and pedo.
  • waccamatt

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    Nov 05, 2011 5:27 AM GMT
    We should be encouraging him to be more comfortable with who he IS, rather than trying to "un" anything. It's great to be gay and if the Op doesn't know that yet, it would behoove him to recognize that fact.