honestly i rarely go on gay.com, it's about 1% content and 99% blatant in your face adverts. and if it's not that, then it's the perverts. it's hard to enjoy spending time chatting with friends on there.
and if we are looking for a friend to get fancy with, it's not a "hi, wanna fuck?" - i've never appreciated that come-on. i know it's cool for a lot of people to just blatantly do that, but we like to get to know someone and start off as friends.
the gay.com chat channels are usually awful. i haven't been there in a while so my judgement may be historic. but back then, they were filled with about 80% spam bots, 15% perverts, and 2% idlers. leaving a 2% of the remaining to be either drama queens or guys afraid to say something lest the perverts zero in on him.
gay.com are horrible about dealing with spam and spammers. i used to report them all the time and got a response once in a great while long after the fact and usually to the effect of "we don't see anything wrong"
i would never pay for an account there either. their interface is not very easy to navigate and requires popups for a lot of things. even if you ignore them, every page has that lame warning banner at the top telling you that gay.com requires popups.
but i digress far too much.