Homophobia - Still an issue?

  • MuscleHung

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    Nov 05, 2011 12:29 AM GMT
    So I'm living in Ireland and I'm a closet guy, so I always get the 'straight view' on a subject.. Now, I don't think any of my close friends have an issue with gay/bi people, but I've heard some people say really homophobic stuff, and they aren't even joking.. This is probably one of the main reasons I'm not out.. Is it just because Ireland isn't really as multicultural in some areas as the rest of the world, or does everyone have the same problem as me?

    What are your views and/or experiences?
  • barriehomeboy

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    Nov 05, 2011 1:30 AM GMT
    I live in the gayest country on the planet. I live in the gayest city in that country. A gang of girls drove past me as I was going into my office, and one of them yelled FAG at me. I am not flammy or dressed funny. I am a pretty butch handsome guy. Unless you are Santa, you are going to have to deal with gay crap from st8 people, which so far in my case is from chics, not guys.
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    Nov 05, 2011 1:43 AM GMT
    I drive a miata (MX-5 to you) and at least once a month someone yells "faggot" at me as I drive by (stupid stereotype claims it's a "chick" or "hairdresser" car. I live in the southern united states so were still a little "behind the times" you might say. I've been spat on a few times (only found out later I could've pressed charges, damn) and called the f word by a guy who just assumed cuz I was wearing a multicolored sweater my gran gave to me. No matter where you go, there are always a few old moldy apples at the bottom of every barrel of shiny fresh red ones. We don't really have a gay "district" here (contrary to popular belief) so there's nowhere in the city truly "safe" for gays to be fully open about who they are.
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    Nov 05, 2011 2:00 AM GMT
    Any country with strong religious presence for a long time will have homophobia. After all, we know that religion and forwarding looking society does not go hand in hand.
  • LJay

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    Nov 05, 2011 2:21 AM GMT
    I run into it constantly right here in the USA. I hang out with a great guy and his friends. They are all young and, for the most part, would say gay is OK if questioned, but slurs are built into the culture and they do surface.

    I fear that the homophobic language and habits are with us for a long time yet. I prefer not to be as rude as they are in return. It doesn't do anything other than dig the trench deeper.
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    Nov 05, 2011 2:34 AM GMT
    I fucking love Irish guys... the accent can be either adorable or rugged and HAWT!!!

    It makes me sad to know that all those hothothothot Irish guys are struggling icon_sad.gif

    For me to get a better grasp on your turmoil, could you record a few minutes of your accent and play it here?
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    Nov 05, 2011 2:40 AM GMT
    MuscleHung saidSo I'm living in Ireland and I'm a closet guy, so I always get the 'straight view' on a subject.. Now, I don't think any of my close friends have an issue with gay/bi people, but I've heard some people say really homophobic stuff, and they aren't even joking.. This is probably one of the main reasons I'm not out.. Is it just because Ireland isn't really as multicultural in some areas as the rest of the world, or does everyone have the same problem as me?

    What are your views and/or experiences?


    well fuck the bigots, choose your battles, stick up for yourself. chances are if that hate homos, they hate many things/and people.you just made their short list and that sucks.
    as far as you being in the closet,,,make it pretty.
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    Nov 05, 2011 2:42 AM GMT
    Nope, it's not just Ireland. We see this quite a lot in Asian countries too, where mindsets are starting to evolve to become more open and accepting - yet at the same time individuals are still somewhat guarded against complete acceptance of homosexuals and the "gay lifestyle" they associate it with.

    And I've noted how easy it is for people to say that they are okay with gays in general, but once they start talking about people they know who are really gay, a disapproving tone might creep in. Well it depends on which guy they're talking about, but that's also one of the reasons why I'm not out either.
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    Nov 05, 2011 3:31 AM GMT
    It's probably where you live. Not Ireland itself, but your city or town. In general though, homophobia is everywhere. It's everywhere because the majority of people are straight, and they use that privilege without even knowing it. If you want to be out and be able to hold your partner's hand now or in the future, I would move to a more accepting community. I don't know about Ireland, but I always thought it was pretty liberal when it came to LGBT-related issues.
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    Nov 05, 2011 3:33 AM GMT
    homophobia exists everywhere....i live in a tiny little town 50 miles away from a big town....it is full of bigots...you know what man? it's okay if they don't accept me...i don't accept them either...it is okay if bigots don't accept you.....WE accept you. Eddie13......USA