I'm fucking missing my ex!

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    Nov 06, 2011 6:53 AM GMT
    I just miss him with all my fucking soul! it's over 4 months, does this take soo long?
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    Nov 06, 2011 6:58 AM GMT
    They say wounds heal with time. They just never specify how much time is needed.

    Well, if you were with your ex a long time, understandably it could take a while to move on. I have lingered a while on an ex myself. It sucked. He and I were no longer on speaking terms, so I started writing unsent letters to him expressing my frustration and how much I missed him. It felt good to get those feelings out even if he never received them. After about four letters, I was finally able to start letting him go. However, I wasn't able to let him go completely until I met someone else. Now I no longer feel sad about that experience. Quite a lesson that was.
  • Hokenshi

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    Nov 06, 2011 1:04 PM GMT
    It happened for me in stages;
    after 4 months he wasn't on my mind all the time,
    after 8 I felt like I was really starting to move on with my life and doing what I wanted to, rather than just coasting,
    after a year I was over all the anger and feelings of betrayal,
    and
    now, 18 months on, I have absolutely no feelings for him, good or bad.

    I look back on what we had with fondness and know that there were lessons to be learnt from our time together...I just hope I actually did learn them.
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    Nov 06, 2011 1:31 PM GMT
    best way to get over your ex is to get under (or on top of) his best friend...

    and some fried chicken/mac n cheese

    Thats how i do it
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    Nov 06, 2011 1:33 PM GMT
    There's a reason why he's your ex. Think about that. Has anything with that situation changed? If not, then you're wasting your life if you pine away "missing him". If something in the situation has changed, then open a conversation and perhaps reconcile.
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    Nov 06, 2011 1:42 PM GMT
    Totally off topic, but in fairness, my first read of the post title was a bit different than the actual wording:

    I recently fucked my ex who I didn't really miss all that much. ಠ_ಠ

    Probably not the brightest move on my part in retrospect, but I guess I'll deal with whatever outcomes fall my way.

    Plus he is hella talented as a bottom.
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    Nov 06, 2011 1:52 PM GMT
    alphatrigger saidTotally off topic, but in fairness, my first read of the post title was a bit different than the actual wording:

    I recently fucked my ex who I didn't really miss all that much. ಠ_ಠ

    Probably not the brightest move on my part in retrospect, but I guess I'll deal with whatever outcomes fall my way.

    Plus he is hella talented as a bottom.


    I was going to say (but thought to be more helpful)...

    "I'm fucking missing my ex!" = I'm in the act of fucking another guy, I have a smile on my face, and I'm thinking about what my ex is missing out on.

    P.S. Plus, I'm sure you're a hella tallented top. icon_twisted.gif
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    Nov 06, 2011 1:56 PM GMT
    GAMRican said
    alphatrigger saidTotally off topic, but in fairness, my first read of the post title was a bit different than the actual wording:

    I recently fucked my ex who I didn't really miss all that much. ಠ_ಠ

    Probably not the brightest move on my part in retrospect, but I guess I'll deal with whatever outcomes fall my way.

    Plus he is hella talented as a bottom.


    I was going to say (but thought to be more helpful)...

    "I'm fucking missing my ex!" = I'm in the act of fucking another guy, I have a smile on my face, and I'm thinking about what my ex is missing out on.

    P.S. Plus, I'm sure you're a hella tallented top. icon_twisted.gif
    Or you could read it dyslexically: "I'm missing fucking my ex!"
  • Ironman4U

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    Nov 06, 2011 2:20 PM GMT
    A breakup can be hard...but moving on with your life is the best way to get over the past. Remember, he's an ex for a reason and no good comes from "wishing for something that is over." It doesn't do you any good. And the process of getting over an ex does NOT have to be a long, drawn-out process unless you allow it to be. Your heartache can end when you decide...how about today?

    Focus on you...focus on friends or family, focus on dating other guys., focus on work...focus on whatever you need to do to get enjoyment out of your life. And stop obsessing over what was and start creating what is and what can be.

    I would suggest the book, The Power of Now. A great read for living in the moment and not being pulled into the emotional pain of your past.
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    Nov 06, 2011 2:24 PM GMT
    paulflexes said
    GAMRican said
    alphatrigger saidTotally off topic, but in fairness, my first read of the post title was a bit different than the actual wording:

    I recently fucked my ex who I didn't really miss all that much. ಠ_ಠ

    Probably not the brightest move on my part in retrospect, but I guess I'll deal with whatever outcomes fall my way.

    Plus he is hella talented as a bottom.


    I was going to say (but thought to be more helpful)...

    "I'm fucking missing my ex!" = I'm in the act of fucking another guy, I have a smile on my face, and I'm thinking about what my ex is missing out on.

    P.S. Plus, I'm sure you're a hella tallented top. icon_twisted.gif
    Or you could read it dyslexically: "I'm missing fucking my ex!"


    Yeah, I still beat off thinking about my last ex who gave great head and was one of the most delightful and pleasing bottoms I have ever met.

    Too bad the schizophrenia set in. I do not miss that part of fucking my ex.
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    Nov 06, 2011 2:28 PM GMT
    Italolatinguy saidI just miss him with all my fucking soul! it's over 4 months, does this take soo long?

    Sometimes, even longer. I subscribe to the belief that a good way to forget an old love is with a new love. Have you found a new love yet?

    Naturally be wary of the rebound effect, picking a guy for the bad reason of revenge, or mere reflexive reaction to a break-up. Begin dating again as if nothing had happened previously, if you can manage that. Once you become truly interested in a new guy, the old one will fade into history. I think that's how most of us do it. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Nov 06, 2011 3:41 PM GMT
    alphatrigger saidTotally off topic, but in fairness, my first read of the post title was a bit different than the actual wording:

    I recently fucked my ex who I didn't really miss all that much. ಠ_ಠ

    Probably not the brightest move on my part in retrospect, but I guess I'll deal with whatever outcomes fall my way.

    Plus he is hella talented as a bottom.


    You made my day dude !hahahahahahaha

    pd. if id put just like "im missing my ex" i bet u wouldnt comment any shit! LOL
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    Nov 06, 2011 4:01 PM GMT
    It just takes time dude, it really does... more than a year to get completely over someone you really loved ...


    I disagree with comments up here that to get over an old one, you need a new one... unless Im over an old one, Im not even interested in a new one... you have to be ready first
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    Nov 06, 2011 8:18 PM GMT
    GreenHopper saidIt just takes time dude, it really does... more than a year to get completely over someone you really loved ...


    I disagree with comments up here that to get over an old one, you need a new one... unless Im over an old one, Im not even interested in a new one... you have to be ready first


    Sometimes yes, sometimes no. I'd been broken up with my first boyfriend for about 3 weeks before I had my first date with my second boyfriend. And I loved my second boyfriend from the roots of my soul icon_smile.gif.