33 year old virgin (sorta)

  • guyindc78

    Posts: 24

    Nov 06, 2011 11:00 AM GMT
    I am starting to feel that at 33, I'm getting a little too old and that I need to get more sexual encounters.

    It's not like I just came out..... I just never get sex! I know it's frustrating. I had a whole esteem issue going on for awhile, thinking that people think I'm unattractive, then a race chip on my shoulder: because I'm Asian. But that's besides the point.

    I don't even know if I'm a top or bottom because I haven't done it enough to decide.

    I just had an encounter this evening. Long story short, it was a 3 way. I just absolutely didn't know what to do, and the other 2 guys, younger than me, just went at it like rabbits. I got nervous, lost my hardon and literally was so awkward in the situation.

    Any similar stories or thoughts you guys can share?
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    Nov 06, 2011 11:53 AM GMT
    It could be that you just don't enjoy anal sex. It's more common than you may think.
  • guyindc78

    Posts: 24

    Nov 06, 2011 12:25 PM GMT
    paulflexes saidIt could be that you just don't enjoy anal sex. It's more common than you may think.


    Thank you for your response Paul. I thought gay sex always had to involve penetration or one party or the other will not be happy. And you're right, when I think about it, I totally can do without the anal part. Everything else is fine. I guess I just myself into a lousy shady situation last night. icon_sad.gif
  • guyindc78

    Posts: 24

    Nov 06, 2011 8:25 PM GMT
    I'd like to bump this back up to get more opinions. I hope I'm not breaking any RJ rules here.....
  • Suetonius

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    Nov 06, 2011 10:10 PM GMT
    Possibilities:
    Rent a bunch of gay porn dvds, and see what activities turn you on.

    Have more sex - without preconceptions about what you have to do. Try meeting guys in bars instead of online - where you are not expected to declare in advance what you will do in bed.
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    Nov 06, 2011 11:05 PM GMT
    Lots of guys aren't into anal. Just meet a guy where you know there is no expectation of anal sex. Once you are more "broken in" to the oral sex part, then decide what you might like to try...