When did you have your first serious relationship :)

  • hng90

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    Nov 06, 2011 8:05 PM GMT
    I just turn 21 last October and never had a serious relationship before. I've been gone on dates so many times previously but they never worked out. Many of my friends are like you are young, don't rush, don't try to look, it'll come whenever the time is right. I've been enjoying my single life and stuffs but now going to the bars n clubs and seeing people together kissing each other sometimes makes me feel lonely icon_sad.gif It just makes me wonder if there is sth wrong w me that I can't even find myself a boyfriend or am I too picky icon_neutral.gif So, I just wanna ask u guys here when did you have ur first serious relationship icon_biggrin.gif
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    Nov 06, 2011 9:20 PM GMT
    22 going on 23. Just entered my first serious relationship.

    Started this relationship while i was in the closet... weird.

    I put myself out there and everything kinda fell into place soooo maybe the same thing can happen with you. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Nov 06, 2011 11:07 PM GMT
    My first relationship happened when I was 17. I dated a guy 10 years older than myself and it lasted about 2 years.
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    Nov 06, 2011 11:20 PM GMT
    21
  • sbwlguy

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    Nov 06, 2011 11:44 PM GMT
    31 and never had a boyfriend.

    Cos I'm an independent woman y'all!
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    Nov 06, 2011 11:45 PM GMT
    sbwlguy said31 and never had a boyfriend.

    Cos I'm an independent woman y'all!


    lmao icon_razz.gif
  • CityGuy2007

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    Nov 06, 2011 11:55 PM GMT
    21 is very young and you have nothing to worry about, seriously just enjoy the path you're on and when it's time it will be time. It's like everything else in life - when you actively look for something, anything, you'll never find it. It's when you are not looking for it that you're pleasantly surprised. So if you want one I guess the hard part is not wanting it too much and let it find you, if that makes any sense.
    If it's any consolation I've never had a proper relationship either despite approaching 30 but I still whole-heartedly believe in my own philosophy, just gotta focus on the positives that you do have and not develop a complex about it icon_smile.gif
  • chrisjb626

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    Nov 06, 2011 11:59 PM GMT
    Still waiting....:/
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    Nov 07, 2011 12:08 AM GMT
    I was 21 when I had my first real boyfriend. The relationship lasted 5 months, and I learned a great deal from it. It was nice to get my first test of romance and how to deal with various relationship issues.

  • NHLFAN

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    Nov 07, 2011 12:09 AM GMT
    27 before I had a real relationship.
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    Nov 07, 2011 12:13 AM GMT
    My first committed relationship was with a girl. It started when I was about 18, and ended when I was 21. My second serious relationship was with a guy. It started when I was 22, and it ended nine years later (a few months ago).

    Not to annoy you, but you are young. Don't stress out about it.
  • kennyj08

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    Nov 07, 2011 12:17 AM GMT
    Um, when I actually have my first, you'll be the first to know icon_biggrin.gif

    and i agree with you on seeing other gay couples together. It's like "ah i want that" but then it kind of gets annoying seeing it 5 feet away from me and that feeling of "i want that" just completely goes away.

    Eventually, we will meet someone that we can make others annoyed of seeing together,making out.
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    Nov 07, 2011 12:23 AM GMT
    havent had it yet. Hoping to soon though.
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    Nov 07, 2011 12:25 AM GMT
    Never, and not crying about it either! I prefer it over settling at the moment.
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    Nov 07, 2011 12:27 AM GMT
    Never been in one
  • hng90

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    Nov 07, 2011 2:29 AM GMT
    kennyj08 saidUm, when I actually have my first, you'll be the first to know icon_biggrin.gif

    and i agree with you on seeing other gay couples together. It's like "ah i want that" but then it kind of gets annoying seeing it 5 feet away from me and that feeling of "i want that" just completely goes away.

    Eventually, we will meet someone that we can make others annoyed of seeing together,making out.


    OMG yea lol u feel me hahaha
  • hng90

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    Nov 07, 2011 2:30 AM GMT
    CityGuy2007 said21 is very young and you have nothing to worry about, seriously just enjoy the path you're on and when it's time it will be time. It's like everything else in life - when you actively look for something, anything, you'll never find it. It's when you are not looking for it that you're pleasantly surprised. So if you want one I guess the hard part is not wanting it too much and let it find you, if that makes any sense.
    If it's any consolation I've never had a proper relationship either despite approaching 30 but I still whole-heartedly believe in my own philosophy, just gotta focus on the positives that you do have and not develop a complex about it icon_smile.gif


    awee thank you ^_^ and yeap just let it go and it'll find u
  • whatatrouble

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    Nov 08, 2011 10:19 AM GMT
    23 and that is my first one.

    So you really don't have to rush. It comes when it comes. It's just that you have to be serious urself in order to get one, in my opinion.
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    Nov 08, 2011 2:37 PM GMT
    Any day now icon_smile.gif
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    Nov 08, 2011 2:45 PM GMT
    to the OP, i'm about four years ahead of you and going through the same emotional things. Of course, I've never even dated before so you're ahead of me on that. Your friends who are telling you to take your time are right. There's no reason to rush into a relationship just for the sake of being in one. I too have a big problem with watching couples in bars/clubs/my kitchen (i'm about to kill my roommate). Its like a constant reminder that they have what you don't. My solution? Stop going out to bars and clubs. Find other stuff to do and friends to do it with. Friends who know how uncomfortable you get when folks are making out around you. I've discovered alot of my friends totally respect the fact that I am painfully aware of my singleness and are fine with being hands-off when they're around me (just like the ones who smoke know to smoke downwind). Bottom line? Most guys your age aren't interested in an LTR from my experience. They usually don't have the maturity or position in life to allow for one either. Give it a few years. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Nov 08, 2011 3:14 PM GMT
    25 never been in a relationship and never really had a successful date yet lol.

    It's definitely starting to get to me. Bit watever its videogames season now, so I doubt any guy could put up with me. I will have work, gym, gaming and very little time for much else : )
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    Nov 08, 2011 3:24 PM GMT
    I had boyfriends before, but my first "serious" relationship (i.e., I was sooooo in love) was at 23.
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    Nov 08, 2011 4:22 PM GMT
    Well yes, I am 24 and still didn't have serious relationship... But still have hope that things will get better soon even though I am very picky.
    Sometimes I start thinking that I would not be able to be in relationship with someone because I lived alone to long.
  • hng90

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    Nov 08, 2011 11:13 PM GMT
    wow seems like not just only me who is struggling in finding someone serious... I guess it is common in a our community since guys usually don't want to be in sth that is serious
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    Nov 11, 2011 5:08 PM GMT
    22 , it done