Confidence

  • 93eric

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    Nov 07, 2011 4:34 AM GMT
    I am starting to realize just how shitty my life has been for a number of years because of how little confidence I've had. I'm tired of living a sheltered life over dumb little things that lower my self esteem to absoulutley nothing. I constantly think I'm not good enough or that I will never become anything important and it's a very depressing way to live. I've avoided socialization and just look back on all the opportunities I've missed. I'm learning not to settle and trying to stop convincing myself I'm not worth it. I really need to relax and start to enjoy life instead of hiding, even though I am out of the closet.
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    Nov 07, 2011 4:48 AM GMT
    You are young, it will all come with age. Believe me, 99% of guys get insecure at times. It's just how you handle it. When I was a young'n I never thought I would find a life partner and have a home and two dogs by 26, but I do.

    And my bf is a very, very good looking guy. I feel insecrure next to him, but my personality isn't the kind that likes the limelight like he does. And he does actual legit modeling and has been in a few beefcake calendars & gay magazines. But trust me, even he has insecurity issues. More so than me. Calling Dr. Phil!!! So that hot guy you see the club has his own hang ups and secrets.

    Don't fret. You will meet someone one day and realize you are just two peas in a pod. Someday someone close to you will hurt you and you will probably end up hurting someone too. So just learn to brush off the insults and keep close the people who love you...
  • KissTheSky

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    Nov 07, 2011 4:53 AM GMT
    jmusmc85 saidYou are young, it will all come with age. Believe me, 99% of guys get insecure at times. It's just how you handle it. When I was a young'n I never thought I would find a life partner and have a home and two dogs by 26, but I do.

    And my bf is a very, very good looking guy. I feel insecrure next to him, but my personality isn't the kind that likes the limelight like he does. And he does actual legit modeling and has been in a few beefcake calendars & gay magazines. But trust me, even he has insecurity issues. More so than me. Calling Dr. Phil!!! So that hot guy you see the club has his own hang ups and secrets.

    Don't fret. You will meet someone one day and realize you are just two peas in a pod. Someday someone close to you will hurt you and you will probably end up hurting someone too. So just learn to brush off the insults and keep close the people who love you...


    Yeah, this is all good advice. I think everyone feels like you do at your age.
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    Nov 07, 2011 6:51 AM GMT
    Try this exercise

    (It helps if you have a guitar case and a straw hat when you're doing it)
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    Nov 07, 2011 6:55 AM GMT
    Ermine saidTry this exercise

    (It helps if you have a guitar case and a straw hat when you're doing it)


    ^ works everytime.
    Just be yourself and think less about what others think of you! Because 1. Most people don't think a lot about others 2. They move on after a few minutes and 3. What you think about yourself is more important icon_smile.gif
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    Nov 11, 2011 8:31 PM GMT
    I think you're good enough.
  • tuffguyndc

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    Nov 11, 2011 8:35 PM GMT
    lastchance93 saidI am starting to realize just how shitty my life has been for a number of years because of how little confidence I've had. I'm tired of living a sheltered life over dumb little things that lower my self esteem to absoulutley nothing. I constantly think I'm not good enough or that I will never become anything important and it's a very depressing way to live. I've avoided socialization and just look back on all the opportunities I've missed. I'm learning not to settle and trying to stop convincing myself I'm not worth it. I really need to relax and start to enjoy life instead of hiding, even though I am out of the closet.
    believe it or not most men have there moments of insecurity. that's why we have friends to keep us in check. plus, you are young like someone stated before. things will change for you in life professionally,socially, and mentally. when it does do not let yourself go back to that place. always remember the positive things in your life
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    Nov 12, 2011 4:29 PM GMT
    don't beat up on yourself. as others stated, everyone feels low self-esteem at some pt in their life. try moving out of your comfort zone; little steps lead 2 bigger steps. so what if you mess up? honestly, as also stated, no one cares except you. it's not your successes (or, yeah, failures) that build confidence, it's the courage to try.

    the best advice i ever got: fake it til u make it. act confident--head up, shoulders back, eye contact, etc--and your mind starts believing it. it works, try it.