helion26 said...is there a difference w/ home test and doing it at a clinic? any advice on where i should go in nyc?
If you want the surest results, have a blood draw from a clinic, hospital or doctor's office. Mouth swabs give the quickest results but are a little less reliable. That's what most free clinics and other agencies offer.
"Confidential" is a relative term. It may be confidential that you were tested, but positive results must often be reported by name to the State Health Department (or equivalent). So it's really not confidential at all, a product of mostly Republican state legislatures & Governors wanting to keep lists of all the positive gays during the early days of the AIDS crisis, with an eye towards isolating HIV infected persons from the general population. Those requirements remain on the books in many places, although imposing HIV quarantining remains only a Republican dream that has never been implemented.
I used to have that in a State in which I lived, but their lax local procedures allowed me to provide an alias and false address, with no ID check. They gave your results in person, so the phony mailing address wasn't a problem.
Verify with providers in New York what happens if you get a positive result. You may want to stay with a home test, rather than be entered into a government data base.