Love and Pain...

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    Nov 07, 2011 4:51 PM GMT
    Hey guys... .. thought of sharing wid u some of the very dark and sad side of love... when u love someone very truly and from the bottom of your heart and u find that the person is not even bothered to c whether ur alive or dead..

    It Hurts... n the pain is unbearable and uncurable... what to say ... so m going thru the same pain... just pray HIM that he preven people from falling in love wid such guyz.. atleast save them from breaking down...
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    Nov 08, 2011 5:15 AM GMT
    i just wanna say : i understand your felling . icon_cry.gif
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    Nov 08, 2011 1:26 PM GMT
    mihir saidHey guys... .. thought of sharing wid u some of the very dark and sad side of love... when u love someone very truly and from the bottom of your heart and u find that the person is not even bothered to c whether ur alive or dead..

    It Hurts... n the pain is unbearable and uncurable... what to say ... so m going thru the same pain... just pray HIM that he preven people from falling in love wid such guyz.. atleast save them from breaking down...
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    i didnt think that one day i would fall in love with someone on realjock .

    but guess what . this happened , i met one of the best guys i have ever seen in my life, i love him , how? i dont know . i love him deeply but he live in south africa while i am in a working residency in kuwait . i am suffering and i am always in pain thinking about him ,. as we cant satisfy each others as we are apart by distance but i am freaked out once i think that i can lose him at anytime ,

    but for your case. you are completely wrong , go over this baster he doesnt even deserve your feelings towards him ,. just forget the whole think and find someone who really would appreciate your kind lovely heart .

    kareem
  • 1232121d

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    Nov 13, 2011 6:11 AM GMT
    that is sad. I suppose a lot of us have encountered this sort of situation. I don't know how do deal with it, perhaps, I would just wish him the best. That is lame, but what else could we do? icon_confused.gif
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    Nov 13, 2011 6:18 AM GMT
    "It Hurts... n the pain is unbearable and uncurable..."

    mihir, I think it feels that way because it is an indicator of how deeply you loved. If you did not love that guy (which is a wonderful thing to be able to do) you would not feel like this now. This makes it bearable, eh? icon_wink.gif

    As for uncurable, it is I think, and it isn't. Uncurable as I always found it better to love and if it failed, the ache I felt told me a good thing about me. I would not want to be cured of that. Curable because there are good men out there and you will meet them if you too are out there.

    kindly,

    -Doug
  • newral

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    Nov 13, 2011 6:21 AM GMT
    Although it may be bittersweet, it's better to have loved than nothing at all.
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    Nov 13, 2011 10:17 PM GMT
    You remember me of what a girl on TV (I know stupid, but hey) said.
    It was something like this:"Als ich ihm gesagt habe, dass ich ihn liebe, habe ich im prinzip nichts anderes gesagt als: Hier hast du mein Herz, bitte mach es zu Hackfleisch"

    Which approximately means:"When I told him I love him, all I really said was: Here you've got my heart, please mangle it"
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    Nov 13, 2011 10:19 PM GMT
    newral saidAlthough it may be bittersweet, it's better to have loved than nothing at all.

    Definitely. Use him for gym motivation if nothing else...in case there's a chance.

    Sigh.
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    Nov 13, 2011 10:21 PM GMT
    mihir saidHey guys... .. thought of sharing wid u some of the very dark and sad side of love... when u love someone very truly and from the bottom of your heart and u find that the person is not even bothered to c whether ur alive or dead..

    It Hurts... n the pain is unbearable and uncurable... what to say ... so m going thru the same pain... just pray HIM that he preven people from falling in love wid such guyz.. atleast save them from breaking down...
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    sorry to hear you got your heart broke. it gets better
  • Tomz

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    Nov 14, 2011 12:44 AM GMT
    I know pain

    I deal through crying
    I cry a lot
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    Nov 14, 2011 5:11 AM GMT
    When love isn't reciprocated, it can be a very sad/painful thing indeed.

    What I have learned is that life is worth living when you can experience emotions, both the bad and the good.
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    Nov 14, 2011 5:12 AM GMT
    mihir saidHey guys... .. thought of sharing wid u some of the very dark and sad side of love... when u love someone very truly and from the bottom of your heart and u find that the person is not even bothered to c whether ur alive or dead..

    It Hurts... n the pain is unbearable and uncurable... what to say ... so m going thru the same pain... just pray HIM that he preven people from falling in love wid such guyz.. atleast save them from breaking down...
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    soooo true.
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    Nov 14, 2011 5:37 AM GMT
    mihir saidHey guys... .. thought of sharing wid u some of the very dark and sad side of love... when u love someone very truly and from the bottom of your heart and u find that the person is not even bothered to c whether ur alive or dead..

    It Hurts... n the pain is unbearable and uncurable... what to say ... so m going thru the same pain... just pray HIM that he preven people from falling in love wid such guyz.. atleast save them from breaking down...
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    here is what you need to do, stop wasting your time with that person and move on, there are more fishes in the sea, way better fishesicon_biggrin.gif
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    Nov 14, 2011 5:39 AM GMT
    newral saidAlthough it may be bittersweet, it's better to have loved than nothing at all.


    no
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    Nov 14, 2011 9:06 PM GMT
    You know I read all the ones about distance relationships and it kind of got to me a bit. I lost my fiance on 9-11-01. We had been together almost 7 years and were looking forward to be graduating form high school, me going to college and coming out to my parents, and us getting married. It never made it that far because of obvious events. Mike was very smart and very talented. I'm lucky to have had him in my life and never did I think I would lose him like I did or that one day he would be then and then go the next. I think that's why for so long I didn't want to date anyone. That fear of losing them again. Two boyfriends later (first one of 4 yrs, latest one 3 months) it's gotten easier to deal with thoes feelings that I could loose them. They have been distant but that's cause of work, school, and other things. Honestly, I did it for Mike because I loved him and we saw each other when we could and were always on web cam if not on the phone. I think it just depends on how you feel about the person and what you are willing to put forth. I always made sure to have a contact within the family or a close friend of my bf's to let me know if somethin was up so I never was to out of the loop. Maybe that's you guys can consider. Either way, my advice is never hold out on having a relationship with someone because you are scared you'll lose them. The only one losing out is you. Take the risk and love that person you want to. I miss Mike greatly but when I think about it, I'm happy knowing that he knew I loved him and I'm sure he had me on his mind too... what would I do and how I would handle this. I feel like at differnt times I let him down but I'm getting back on track and Im very greatful to have him as my guardian angel.