Question to all the the buff muscle men

  • dantheman88

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    Nov 08, 2011 2:56 AM GMT
    Would you guys date a man with an avg bod with maybe a little belly? Probably one waist size higher than they should be?
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    Nov 08, 2011 2:58 AM GMT
    Question to all "average" guys with low self-esteem:

    Would you work to create a better body image so that you didn't feel like less of a person than the "Buff" men, and maybe the sane ones will want you? (Notice I didn't say this "work" has to be in a gym. It's in your head, too)
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    Nov 08, 2011 3:17 AM GMT
    ThePenIsMyTier saidQuestion to all "average" guys with low self-esteem:

    Would you work to create a better body image so that you didn't feel like less of a person than the "Buff" men, and maybe the sane ones will want you? (Notice I didn't say this "work" has to be in a gym. It's in your head, too)


    Win.
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    Nov 08, 2011 3:19 AM GMT
    I think a hot body will only go as far as one month then it will come down to comfort, common hobbies and personality. Now that does not mean looks won't mean anything.
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    Nov 08, 2011 5:34 AM GMT
    dantheman88 saidQuestion to all the buff muscle men. Would you guys date a man with an avg bod with maybe a little belly? Probably one waist size higher than they should be?

    Question to all "average" guys who get upset when they're rejected by buff muscle men. How come it's okay for you to be interested in only muscular guys?
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    Nov 08, 2011 3:59 PM GMT
    JakeGHK said
    eagermuscle said
    dantheman88 saidQuestion to all the buff muscle men. Would you guys date a man with an avg bod with maybe a little belly? Probably one waist size higher than they should be?

    Question to all "average" guys who get upset when they're rejected by buff muscle men. How come it's okay for you to be interested in only muscular guys?


    Because its their preference. Or is that wrong?

    I'm responding to the subtext of the OP's question. The point is that it's hypocritical of "average" guys interested in muscular guys for their bodies to complain about "muscular" ones having the same preference. It's not the preference but the hypocrisy that's wrong.
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    Nov 08, 2011 4:01 PM GMT
    Question to all men out there... Would you buy my Toyota Camery with a couple of big dents in it for the same price as an undentated?
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    Nov 08, 2011 4:04 PM GMT
    MsclDrew saidQuestion to all men out there... Would you buy my Toyota Camery with a couple of big dents in it for the same price as an undentated?


    Umm...no. But then again I'd never buy a camry, period, lol.
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    Nov 08, 2011 4:15 PM GMT
    Question to all the average guys with a little belly and a waist size higher than they should be.

    Would you date a man who was obese and had several rolls of belly? Probably 15-20 waist sizes larger than they should be?
  • DrewbieDoo

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    Nov 08, 2011 4:20 PM GMT
    shits getting real in here


    Im in agreement with ricky1987
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    Nov 08, 2011 4:35 PM GMT
    eagermuscle said
    JakeGHK said
    eagermuscle said
    dantheman88 saidQuestion to all the buff muscle men. Would you guys date a man with an avg bod with maybe a little belly? Probably one waist size higher than they should be?

    Question to all "average" guys who get upset when they're rejected by buff muscle men. How come it's okay for you to be interested in only muscular guys?


    Because its their preference. Or is that wrong?

    I'm responding to the subtext of the OP's question. The point is that it's hypocritical of "average" guys interested in muscular guys for their bodies to complain about "muscular" ones having the same preference. It's not the preference but the hypocrisy that's wrong.


    I can see your point but i think you are being too harsh on the thread creator. He did not say that muscled men should not date other muscled beefs. He was merely asking would you date a guy who isn't as muscular you are.
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    Nov 08, 2011 4:37 PM GMT
    To OP, I think you've got your answer. It's a resounding no. I believe you were only interested in the absolute answer and not the justifications that everyone is offering?
  • gymnewby1983

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    Nov 08, 2011 4:50 PM GMT
    ThePenIsMyTier saidQuestion to all "average" guys with low self-esteem:

    Would you work to create a better body image so that you didn't feel like less of a person than the "Buff" men, and maybe the sane ones will want you? (Notice I didn't say this "work" has to be in a gym. It's in your head, too)


    Best answer !

    I'm on the skinnier side but still working toward the more muscular look (as far as my own genetics will allow). It makes me feel good and on the bonus side, I get noticed by some of those "buff men" we're talking about...
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    Nov 08, 2011 5:05 PM GMT
    dantheman88 saidWould you guys date a man with an avg bod with maybe a little belly? Probably one waist size higher than they should be?


    Part of being buff or simply not having a belly is being in shape. I am definitely neither, but working on being a stronger person for an advantage in sports and well, it looks good. There isn't wrong with someone who has a belly. They are date-able.

    Not being healthy means a shorter life. You want to date someone that voluntarily lowers their life span?
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    Nov 08, 2011 5:09 PM GMT
    Sorry OP,

    If you can't and don't like or love you for you then you seriously can't expect anyone else to. That's simple logic.
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    Nov 08, 2011 5:13 PM GMT
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    dantheman88 saidWould you guys date a man with an avg bod with maybe a little belly? Probably one waist size higher than they should be?


    Part of being buff or simply not having a belly is being in shape. I am definitely neither, but working on being a stronger person for an advantage in sports and well, it looks good. There isn't wrong with someone who has a belly. They are date-able.

    Not being healthy means a shorter life. You want to date someone that voluntarily lowers their life span?


    No offense but your life could end tomorrow for reasons unknown or because you got hit by a car or whatever so please don't equate fitness with a longer lifespan.

    I'm sure everyone here has heard of the perfect man with perfect health who literally dropped dead one day.
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    Nov 08, 2011 5:13 PM GMT
    I hate saying this like this, but one of the reasons I started working out was because I wanted to attract guys that attracted me -- muscular guys.
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    Nov 08, 2011 5:25 PM GMT
    ^^ This.

    It's the same for all those threads bemoaning "Why can't I find Mr Right!?" You resolve to be the man you want to meet - physically, emotionally, spiritually - and you'll meet him. He's looking for the same thing 9 times out of 10.
  • Bowyn_Aerrow

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    Nov 08, 2011 5:32 PM GMT
    I have known a few muscle (bears, bodybuilders, athletic) guys who preferred to date 'average'. Those are pretty rare. Most of those who work to have muscle are interested in muscle and guys 'into' muscle.

    Chances are if you seek to date a guy who spends time in the gym, you will find that his interests in 'bodily pursuits' are not going to match your own interests. Muscle is not just the workout, its a whole lifestyle from diet to exercise to a mind set. More likely than not an 'average' guy is not going to want to sit at the gym watching them, nor spend excessive amount of time carefully planning out the meals, and sit there and listen to goals, routines, and pursue other sports type interests.

    It is difficult for a guy into fitness to 'relate' to the 'couch potato' on many levels beyond physical image. It is difficult for an 'average' guy to relate to the needs of the whole lifestyle of fitness.

    Again, they do exist. However the reasons why they are attracted to 'average' usually (not always) is based on self image issues. They feel 'better than' and have a ruler to measure their 'worth' against, that ruler being your average-ness to their 'greatness'.

    I only know one 'mixed' couple (an average and a muscle bear) who have actually worked their lifestyles to meet the need of the other in a healthy way. there was a little give and take, for instance the average fellow gave up fatty foods, excessive sugar and actually eats a proper diet in support of his man. They have been together oh 15-16 years and have had a wonderful, monogamous relationship.

    Other long term couples I know share a lot of commonalities, either they are both into fitness and sports or they both are not.







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    Nov 08, 2011 5:34 PM GMT
    Just outside of the topic but it is funny how being muscular is equated to be being fit. They are two distinct terms.
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    Nov 08, 2011 5:36 PM GMT
    Guy101 said
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    dantheman88 saidWould you guys date a man with an avg bod with maybe a little belly? Probably one waist size higher than they should be?


    Part of being buff or simply not having a belly is being in shape. I am definitely neither, but working on being a stronger person for an advantage in sports and well, it looks good. There isn't wrong with someone who has a belly. They are date-able.

    Not being healthy means a shorter life. You want to date someone that voluntarily lowers their life span?


    No offense but your life could end tomorrow for reasons unknown or because you got hit by a car or whatever so please don't equate fitness with a longer lifespan.

    I'm sure everyone here has heard of the perfect man with perfect health who literally dropped dead one day.


    Yeah, you are also right on that.
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    Nov 08, 2011 5:57 PM GMT
    Larkin_PLR saidIt's the same for all those threads bemoaning "Why can't I find Mr Right!?" You resolve to be the man you want to meet - physically, emotionally, spiritually - and you'll meet him. He's looking for the same thing 9 times out of 10.

    Keep that post handy. This answers the same question most of us have.
    There is a huge percentage of formerly fat guys on this system.
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    Nov 08, 2011 6:00 PM GMT
    Bowyn_Aerrow saidI have known a few muscle (bears, bodybuilders, athletic) guys who preferred to date 'average'. Those are pretty rare. Most of those who work to have muscle are interested in muscle and guys 'into' muscle.

    Does it make sense that it depends on whether you feel comfortable in your own skin?

    Or, used to be out of shape?
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    Nov 08, 2011 6:02 PM GMT
    Meh - kinda giving up on "average" guys. Being self-concious about your body is not really conducive to good sex. Off course there must be some that aren't but I think those might be the guys that I clash with personality-wise.

    So basically I want the guy who is self-concious about his body after he's gotten rid of his hang-ups.

    I think I may have figured out why I'm still single.
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    Nov 08, 2011 6:04 PM GMT
    RobertF64 said
    Bowyn_Aerrow saidI have known a few muscle (bears, bodybuilders, athletic) guys who preferred to date 'average'. Those are pretty rare. Most of those who work to have muscle are interested in muscle and guys 'into' muscle.

    Does it make sense that it depends on whether you feel comfortable in your own skin?

    Or, used to be out of shape?


    Wasn't everyone a little skinny and/or fat boy at one point?