abuse - emotionally and mentally.

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    Nov 08, 2011 4:39 AM GMT
    People may see abuse as, physical abuse & not the rest that surrounds the word 'abuse'. Abuse can come in sooo many different ways its disgusting. As a person whos been abuse emotionally and mentally, I know these signs, and its real. People view Domestic Violence as, 'oh its whatever, a man slapping his wife.. oh nothings wrong'... she may deserve it or the other way around. Getting slapped from a loved one isnt right, if they really do 'love' you, that they wouldnt abuse you/ hityou. and same with emotionally and mentally. This also happens alot in the GLBT community too. Like I said before i've been though it before. ITS REAL && IT NEEDS TO STOP!

    I was abuse mentally and emotionally for 4 months, the length i was dating my ex (first bf) at the time.I had no idea what was going on to me, i was soo caught up in him, it wasn't even funny. As I look back i was the one who was being battered. He was in control/controling....his way or the highway, He used me for sex... didnt see that at all. ONLY wanted sex, he would do whatever he did so it was his way (not sexual), with everything, it was his way && only his way.

    As i look back he didnt give a shit about me or what i had to say, he used me for my looks/dick. & not once did i notice this. Like i said before he was my first bf... i had all those emotions for him and everything, gave that motherfucker everything i could give him && i was blind to see the kinds of shit he did to me... its be 2 months since we broke up, i will never forget that night, i ended up being in the hospital for 4 days = mental hospital... you heard me correctly mental. I tryed to commit sucide because i thought this was the end. He controled me that much and thought my life would never be the same.. but i am here to tell you, im back and feeling better, i get a little bit stronger (sara evans).

    im just saying that shit happens, and its life and it gets to the best of us. all im saying is please dont ever abuse anyone, mentally, emotionally or physically, you may never know who you may hurt... i know this may be random but i just wanted to bring it out there,

    If you EVER wanna talk, hit me up

    thanks guys,

    Lars (lsje92)
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    Nov 08, 2011 7:41 AM GMT
    Lsje92 saidPeople may see abuse as, physical abuse & not the rest that surrounds the word 'abuse'. Abuse can come in sooo many different ways its disgusting. As a person whos been abuse emotionally and mentally, I know these signs, and its real. People view Domestic Violence as, 'oh its whatever, a man slapping his wife.. oh nothings wrong'... she may deserve it or the other way around. Getting slapped from a loved one isnt right, if they really do 'love' you, that they wouldnt abuse you/ hityou. and same with emotionally and mentally. This also happens alot in the GLBT community too. Like I said before i've been though it before. ITS REAL && IT NEEDS TO STOP!

    I was abuse mentally and emotionally for 4 months, the length i was dating my ex (first bf) at the time.I had no idea what was going on to me, i was soo caught up in him, it wasn't even funny. As I look back i was the one who was being battered. He was in control/controling....his way or the highway, He used me for sex... didnt see that at all. ONLY wanted sex, he would do whatever he did so it was his way (not sexual), with everything, it was his way && only his way.

    As i look back he didnt give a shit about me or what i had to say, he used me for my looks/dick. & not once did i notice this. Like i said before he was my first bf... i had all those emotions for him and everything, gave that motherfucker everything i could give him && i was blind to see the kinds of shit he did to me... its be 2 months since we broke up, i will never forget that night, i ended up being in the hospital for 4 days = mental hospital... you heard me correctly mental. I tryed to commit sucide because i thought this was the end. He controled me that much and thought my life would never be the same.. but i am here to tell you, im back and feeling better, i get a little bit stronger (sara evans).

    im just saying that shit happens, and its life and it gets to the best of us. all im saying is please dont ever abuse anyone, mentally, emotionally or physically, you may never know who you may hurt... i know this may be random but i just wanted to bring it out there,

    If you EVER wanna talk, hit me up

    thanks guys,

    Lars (lsje92)



    Welcome back icon_biggrin.gif I experienced something similar, though not as intense. I nonetheless realize it is one hell of an experience that teaches you what not to put up with in your future relationships. Good thing is that once you've been broken that way by someone, you become much stronger and learn to value yourself. Congrats man
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    Nov 08, 2011 3:17 PM GMT
    ahhh thanks man icon_smile.gif
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    Nov 08, 2011 3:37 PM GMT
    I've got a decade of psycho-emotional abuse under my belt at the hands of my grade school classmates and twenty years from my control freak nutter of a father. My dad once told me the only reason people were nice to me was because they felt sorry for me. He called the cops on me one time (I've never done anything wrong except slack on my schoolwork) Used to be violent too, chased me through the neighborhood with his belt screaming in the middle of the night, even threw a heavy metal stool at me once when I wouldn't shut up. Treats me to this day like a stupid child, just can't bring himself to accept me as I am.
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    Nov 08, 2011 3:39 PM GMT
    RoadsterRacer87 saidI've got a decade of psycho-emotional abuse under my belt at the hands of my grade school classmates and twenty years from my control freak nutter of a father. My dad once told me the only reason people were nice to me was because they felt sorry for me. He called the cops on me one time (I've never done anything wrong except slack on my schoolwork) Used to be violent too, chased me through the neighborhood with his belt screaming in the middle of the night, even threw a heavy metal stool at me once when I wouldn't shut up. Treats me to this day like a stupid child, just can't bring himself to accept me as I am.


    Your dad sounds a lot like mine. There has to be a reason for it all. Depression maybe?
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    Nov 08, 2011 3:43 PM GMT
    RoadsterRacer87 saidI've got a decade of psycho-emotional abuse under my belt at the hands of my grade school classmates and twenty years from my control freak nutter of a father. My dad once told me the only reason people were nice to me was because they felt sorry for me. He called the cops on me one time (I've never done anything wrong except slack on my schoolwork) Used to be violent too, chased me through the neighborhood with his belt screaming in the middle of the night, even threw a heavy metal stool at me once when I wouldn't shut up. Treats me to this day like a stupid child, just can't bring himself to accept me as I am.
    de ja vu
    The day my dad died was one of the happiest days of my life.
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    Nov 08, 2011 3:48 PM GMT
    paulflexes saidde ja vu
    The day my dad died was one of the happiest days of my life.


    Be careful...there are some on here who will say that you are "gloating".
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    Nov 08, 2011 3:49 PM GMT
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    RoadsterRacer87 saidI've got a decade of psycho-emotional abuse under my belt at the hands of my grade school classmates and twenty years from my control freak nutter of a father. My dad once told me the only reason people were nice to me was because they felt sorry for me. He called the cops on me one time (I've never done anything wrong except slack on my schoolwork) Used to be violent too, chased me through the neighborhood with his belt screaming in the middle of the night, even threw a heavy metal stool at me once when I wouldn't shut up. Treats me to this day like a stupid child, just can't bring himself to accept me as I am.


    Your dad sounds a lot like mine. There has to be a reason for it all. Depression maybe?


    His family has a history of lousy fathers and a genetic disposition for it to be passed on. I share a lot of traits with my dad but Unlike him I recognize, detest and suppress the bad ones as best I can. I attribute it to not really being raised by him, instead having been cared for by my female relatives while the rents were off building their social and professional careers. My mom often tells me she "would never have spoken to her father the way" I do, but I remember her dad. He was nothing like my dad. And I wish he were still around.