Piercing the Romantic Illusion

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    May 30, 2008 3:43 AM GMT
    I just wanted to throw out a few ideas from controversial teacher Andrew Cohen and see what people think on some important subjects.


    Piercing the Romantic Illusion

    How can people find real and lasting happiness in the romantic and sexual embrace? The romantic and sexual experience is one of the most confusing areas of human life—especially for those who aspire to evolve at the level of consciousness. In this unenlightened world, we are deeply conditioned to believe that happiness and contentment lie somewhere outside our own self, in the arms of some perfect other. The revelation of enlightenment reveals to us directly the perennial truth that real happiness and contentment lie within us as the nature of consciousness itself, as our own natural state, already full and complete as it is. So if we sincerely want to evolve, we need to have the courage to abandon the illusory promise of perfect happiness and blissful fulfillment inherent in the romantic and sexual fantasy. Only then will we be in a position to discover that lasting contentment that will only be ours when we finally stop looking for it anywhere outside of our own self.

    When you have the courage to abandon the biggest illusion that there is, you will come upon a love that is not personal, a fullness that is empty of attachment and free from the conviction that anything fundamental is missing. And it is this liberating discovery alone that makes it possible for human beings to come together in personal intimacy and sexual communion in a way that is free from the disillusionment, complexity, and unending confusion that are usually such an inherent part of this arena of life.

    Andrew Cohen
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    May 30, 2008 6:22 AM GMT
    Sounds mainly like he's strung a bunch of abstract concepts and unprovable assertions together in a couple paragraphs that add up to nothing more than, "Don't count on others to make you happy."
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    May 30, 2008 11:22 AM GMT
    Yep, I totally agree as well. It works guys.
    Find yourself first and then and only then will love find you , but only when you stop looking for it.
    This illusion of love is really a dis-illusion of only what the world , ads, tv, and what I call the "Hollywood Syndrome" that gives , tells and directs us all what to do and how to be. WHen you are only your true self as this life knows you to be, then you sir, set yourself free and all will come to you as it needs to be and even in the right time. Sometimes , yes it is the last hour, and or last minute or second, but it comes. FOr the romantic notion of love, real love has its problems. We all grow , change and mature. The matter of focus here is the underlying emotional effect of the truth and trust we have inside ourselves and for oursevles first. This is my theme , Sporting The PRoduction of Self (first) & then and only then will your life be the way it is needed to be. THanks to all you Sexee Guys. Be Real. Coach Damon Harper From Soul Strength Productions at www.DrSporty.com Siesta Key ISland FL USA
    "Sporting The PRoduction of Self & Life"
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    May 30, 2008 11:27 AM GMT
    Squarejaw saidSounds mainly like he's strung a bunch of abstract concepts and unprovable assertions together in a couple paragraphs that add up to nothing more than, "Don't count on others to make you happy."


    Have you considered a job as condenser? icon_wink.gif
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    May 30, 2008 11:52 AM GMT
    To build on this slightly and hopefully squarejaw won't need to condense it:
    Be happy without someone first.
    Choose to be with someone that you accept as they are, not what you hope they'll become.
    Be happy for them when they change in a direction they choose.
    Earn the love and respect you want, but never expect it.
    Don't confuse your taste with fact.
    Demonstrate, by action, what you believe to be good, don't proselytise.
    If you do something for someone you love, you shouldn't expect any payback other than the hope that you've made him happy.
    If he doesn't make you happy, then find your error in why you chose him.
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    May 30, 2008 1:53 PM GMT
    I never had the illusion that finding Mr. Right would make me blissfully happy. I knew though that a good relationship would make me happier then being single.

    I came from a family in which psychodramas were common and people were finding the opposite from happiness, misery. Any romantic illusions I had died very early.
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    May 31, 2008 10:00 PM GMT
    I don't think that this dude is saying anything that is original. His statements just remind me of childhood proverbs like:
    "Happiness and love exist but can only be seen when it is mutually shared."
    "Fall in love with what is, not for what you want."
    "Let you be your first lover."

    Or my personal favorite.

    "Expectation is a Motherf**cker."
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    May 31, 2008 10:22 PM GMT
    Who writes like that? Put the Krishnamutri down.
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    Jun 01, 2008 7:24 AM GMT
    LESdude said
    "Expectation is a Motherf**cker."


    LOL I like that one. icon_biggrin.gif