Who lives alone and wish they could change it? Or loves it?

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    Nov 08, 2011 7:30 PM GMT
    No this isn't a I'm lonely thread LOL. Well, that's a small percentage of why I don't like living alone sometimes...but being lonely also is a big plus of it too. I hate when people tell me to clean up after myself. Shit, I do so when I'm ready and when guests come in they always seen my place clean. I've even been called OCD.

    But my main thing is the fact that 'doing it all' seems like most of my expenses wind up on rent/bills etc. Not to mention having a car. It's like I'm comfortable, e.g. I have cable/internet (which I'm thinking of tossing cable now that the holidays are coming around and Jersey Shore season is over). I still have play money as well but I just feel like going to the mall and spending hundreds of dollars on new outfits but I can't because it's set aside for a bill icon_sad.gif

    So I don't know. Sometimes I like living alone, other times I feel I could be doing slightly better if I didn't. Unfortunately it's only in my imagination because I couldn't live with anyone right now anyway. There was only one time I was able to successfully live with someone not related to me, and he was my best friend and it was only for 2 months.

    But who knows, the opportunity may very well present itself in the near future they way I see it now. But personally I'd rather keep my place while staying with said person, but just get rid of all the bills and pay like $20 a month on electricity LOL. So that way I can go home and breathe in the event I need to, or have company.





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    Nov 08, 2011 11:34 PM GMT
    Between 1976 and 1998 I lived as a single person in my own apartment. Generally I enjoyed it. The independence, doing my own thing, going to different places at will, preparing and eating food of my own choice, no squabbling over TV channels, staying on the computer until 2.00am, not bothering to tidy up if I was not in the mood, likewise no criticism over a pile of unwashed dishes in the kitchen...
    Yes, there were times I got lonely or bored, but there again, show me a person whose life, single or otherwise, was perfect.
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    Nov 08, 2011 11:36 PM GMT
    I liked living by myself. I didn't have to worry about people telling me to clean up ro do this or that...you that shit. The best part was getting to do whatever I wanted to do when I wanted to do it. I am living with a family member right now since going back to school and I feel like I can't really do a whole lot anymore. I am ready to be on my own again. Although I did get lonely at times
  • CityGuy2007

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    Nov 08, 2011 11:40 PM GMT
    I've lived alone since I was 18 and I can honest-to-god say I enjoy the independence kick I get out of it. It's not like it's perpertual solitude - friends come visit, house warmings, post nightclub drinks with friends, and being able to do whatever the hell I want makes it cool. People at work tell me they'd go insane but I'm like, why would you go insane in your own company, that says a lot about you icon_biggrin.gif Of course, there are a few times in the year when you feel a little more inclined towards company (birthdays, Christmas, and the fuss made about Valentine's Day) but apart from that it's all good. I always say any situation is what you make it, so it'll rock when you make it rock icon_smile.gif
  • creature

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    Nov 08, 2011 11:43 PM GMT
    I'm tired of being lonely, too. However, I know I'm not ready to be in a relationship. I want to be more secured in life before I ask another man to be a part of it.
  • FriscoJansen

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    Nov 08, 2011 11:45 PM GMT
    I've been living alone since 2003. No problems living alone as I'm not the lonely type.
  • waccamatt

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    Nov 09, 2011 12:07 AM GMT
    I don't mind loving alone - it's a lot less stressful than having a roommate, though the extra money would be nice. I would like to be in a relationship, but won't get in one unless it's the right situation.
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    Nov 09, 2011 1:27 AM GMT
    I live alone and enjoy my own solitude/company. Being alone isn't the same as being lonely, I'm definitely not under the latter heading.

    I've lived alone from the age of 16, and I've always been VERY independent. I have shared properties with people I didn't know previously, and those were awkward living environments, thus, I prefer to have my own pad.

    However, I've never shared a property with any of my pre-established friends. I'm sure that would be a different experience altogether, and one i'm sure i'd like to an extent, but, I 'd still need my alone time too, I can't be around others 24/7. Being alone is refreshing and calibrates my equilibrium.
  • XiongWei

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    Nov 09, 2011 1:40 AM GMT
    I live at home with my parents when I'm not studying at university, but they both work away 5 days of the week, so the only time they are there is at the weekend. Where I live in Wales is remote enough that i'm not just alone in my house (with the exception of the cat) , I'm alone for miles around. It can be quite nice sometimes, I mean I can walk around naked as much as I like, but I'm also kinda trapped there when I don't have the car , which has been for a long time so yeah. I personally don't like it. But I also hate living with other people because they piss me off. I've lived with some proper wankers in the past few years...
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    Nov 13, 2011 7:12 AM GMT
    tryintofindme saidI liked living by myself. I didn't have to worry about people telling me to clean up ro do this or that...you that shit.


    Exactly...I stayed with a guy the other day for 3 DAYS, just for the weekend holiday...and this mother fucker was telling me the 3rd day, "why don't you clean up after yourself?"

    That resonated with me in a very bad way, especially when he came over to my place 3 times and seen I keep things squeaky clean.

    It's like just because I leave a cup or 2 in the sink doesn't mean I don't look after myself. Dumb ass.

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    Nov 13, 2011 7:17 AM GMT
    I'm an only child, so it's very important to me to have my own space and time. Even though I've had some good roommates, my living experience has been far better on my own since I have certain ways of doing things. I feel like very few people would live up to my cleaning standards and know how to use a kitchen with care.

    Plus I can't hang out in my underwear all I want icon_cool.gif
  • Syphon

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    Nov 13, 2011 7:37 AM GMT
    I live alone, have been for nearly five months now, and fucking loving it.

    Rommates are more trouble than they're worth. The constant fighting over things not getting done/who is going to do them. Issues with who's going to buy the house hold staples, issues with people coming over that you don't feel comfortable with or are there at an inconvenient time. I feel like I don't have total privacy, especially in a small place. Roommates that steal your shit or go through your personal belongings... yeah no. I've had good roommates and bad roommates, but even with the good ones I still wanted to live by myself.

    Sometimes it can be really isolating and lonely, but when I think of all the reasons I chose to live alone, I'm reminded that it could be and has been a lot worse.

    The only thing I really miss is having money to spend on myself. Now it all goes to food, rent, and bills. icon_sad.gif
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    Nov 13, 2011 7:55 AM GMT
    I would love to live alone, in complete and utter solitude.
  • Diceroll

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    Nov 13, 2011 8:02 AM GMT
    Like a lot of the above posters, I love living alone because o can do things on MY schedule. I hear so many bad stories about people living with roomates they don't like it's not even funny.

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    Nov 13, 2011 8:06 AM GMT
    Living on your own sure is more expensive, but I'd rather fork out more $$ on rent and utilities for myself if it means staying mentally sane and free of roommate drama. Sounds worth it to me!
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    Nov 13, 2011 8:07 AM GMT
    After 9yrs of marriage, i will now be living alone for the first time in my life. I am a mixture of excited,and scared shitless. Its gonna be an adventure for sure, but im a very social person and being alone for any extended period really gets to me. I guess ima have to start gettin used to it.
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    Nov 13, 2011 9:53 AM GMT
    gemini503 saidAfter 9yrs of marriage, i will now be living alone for the first time in my life. I am a mixture of excited,and scared shitless. Its gonna be an adventure for sure,


    Living alone isn't scary nor adventurous. It's pretty dull and boring. Only thing scary is the 1st of the month icon_eek.gif
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    Nov 13, 2011 2:39 PM GMT
    mochamuscle said
    gemini503 saidAfter 9yrs of marriage, i will now be living alone for the first time in my life. I am a mixture of excited,and scared shitless. Its gonna be an adventure for sure,


    Living alone isn't scary nor adventurous. It's pretty dull and boring. Only thing scary is the 1st of the month icon_eek.gif


    It's only dull and boring if the person themselves is so (i.e. is dependent upon others to feel happy/entertained)....Just sayin'
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    Nov 13, 2011 2:43 PM GMT
    I live alone it feels good
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    Nov 13, 2011 2:46 PM GMT
    I often consider that it will or would be difficult for me to live with another or others ever again. I hated it growing up, I didn't like it when it was a lover, and I cringe at the idea of a nursing home in my twilight years. Meaning it's good health+independence or bust for me.
  • HndsmKansan

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    Nov 13, 2011 2:50 PM GMT
    It has its pluses and minuses..... I have an amazing home I had built 6 years ago and really love it. Like my private time when I'm not busy with work and the extracurricular stuff, but since I have a long distance relationship, I don't get a chance to really share it with my partner the way I'd like. It is "our" house
    and I always miss him when he isn't here on a weekend. I do feel very fortunate, however.
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    Nov 13, 2011 3:15 PM GMT
    It's the only way to fly! icon_smile.gif You keep your own sleep schedule, never have to wait for the bathroom to be available, clean house or not as you like, and be social when it suits you. Loneliness is impossible when all you have to do is pick up the phone or walk out the door.

    The years with roommates had their good moments. Some lasting friendships grew out of those times. But then there was also the bestial embezzler, the alcoholic closet bi who alternated between twinks and trolls for hookups, the perpetually hysterical rad-fem lesbian, still another closeted bi who somehow thought that by only having fag-haggy obnoxious female friends his "secret" was safe, AND...a high school teacher, with kids of his own, who inflated his male students' grades in exchange for drugs and/or the chance to smoke their teen weenies. icon_rolleyes.gif

    Ain' nothin' wrong with being a middle-aging bachelor with a cat and a cluttered living space!
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    Nov 13, 2011 4:26 PM GMT
    i live alone, i love it, and i'm totally not lonely.
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    Nov 13, 2011 4:30 PM GMT
    closer85 saidi live alone, i love it, and i'm totally not lonely.


    times eleventybillion
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    Nov 13, 2011 4:32 PM GMT
    I like to live alone for sometime .. but i cant do it forever .. i gotta talk to people eventually