Any awkward moments with Boss?

  • metalxracr

    Posts: 761

    May 30, 2008 4:10 AM GMT
    Have you ever had an awkward moment with your boss? Those make me really uncomfortable, but I act like I'm not phased at all and just smile! icon_biggrin.gif

    Today, was a weird one. My first one with this boss.

    He came up to me and said, "Wow, I really like your beard, how long has it been since you've shaved?"

    "eh, Just a bit over a week now, I hate it, but I'm just too lazy to shave right now, I plan on shaving it tonight before I go to bed"

    "Oh, Well it looks really nice I like it a lot"

    and then.. he reaches out and starts running his fingers through my facial hair and caressing my face and says, " I love it, it's so soft, but so thick. you're so manly!"

    I had no idea how to respond to that I just continued smiling and said "thank you!"

    One of my coworkers was right there just staring at us with blank stare and then when it didn't stop it turned to a confused look. It was so hilarious, I just bit my lip to keep from laughing.


    I think he's gay, almost no doubt about it, but of course I have no reason or care to ask him, but I just thought it was hilarious, but so awkward!
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    May 30, 2008 4:51 AM GMT
    That is awkward and a personal invasion on your space too.

    I've had awkward moments with my boss or should I say bosses. Sometimes they pull a quick one over on me and act way out of character and it makes me feel uncomfortable sometimes because I don't know if they are being serious or trying to reach out and be funny.

    Also there's this one boss of mine who rarily ever smiles or laughs and one day he just busted out laughing at someone elses misfortune and my co-workers and I felt very uneasy about it. I was also invited over to one of my bosses house for dinner and I was thinking he invited some other co-workers as well. He said he did but I was the only one who showed up. I ate dinner we talked a bit and had some rather personal discussions (things I didn't feel comfortable talking about with him) and then I left.

    I know how you feel.

  • metalxracr

    Posts: 761

    May 30, 2008 5:17 AM GMT
    Perhaps it was personal invasion, but I don't really care.

    He's a nice guy, but I just sometimes feel weird when I get too comfortable with my Bosses. I never get close the them. It's something I'm not used to, and this guy and I have gotten really close.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    May 30, 2008 5:20 AM GMT
    Is it close enough to where you think you might end up in bed with him?
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    May 30, 2008 5:24 AM GMT
    Yeah, my manager thinks I'm straight, and is gay himself, and acts like he's trying to hint to me that he likes me and wants me to return a flirt or sign or something?... It's fun not being out at working and watching people act as ackwardly as they would towards more hetero guys. Lol, I almost feel bad about... no, wait, I don't.
  • metalxracr

    Posts: 761

    May 30, 2008 5:25 AM GMT
    negative! I wouldn't sleep with him. I've just never become friends with a boss. This guy and I just have so much in common, and we always get yelled at everyday by the other coworkers for sitting around and just talking about stupid shit all the time.

    But he is the boss, so we just laugh it off and say "Oh yeah sorry."
  • metalxracr

    Posts: 761

    May 30, 2008 5:27 AM GMT
    boiwunderkind1984 .. his gaydar may detect you! But that's funny about not feeling bad! lol!!
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    May 30, 2008 5:27 AM GMT
    Understood. Some my might view that as favortisim which is your co-workers might have a problem with it.
    it doesn't seem that farfetched.

    Well I hope you boss doens't get too friendly with you. LOL.
  • metalxracr

    Posts: 761

    May 30, 2008 5:39 AM GMT
    yeah I think so.

    One girl told me once when I first started there... "you can tell when he really gets along with someone, because when so and so is here, they never shut the fuck up!"

    not long after we started getting along. I bet she talks shit about me now! lol

    But I would hate for him to hit on me further though. He's attractive, but my boss! weird!
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    May 30, 2008 6:46 AM GMT
    Hrm, can't say for certain how I would react if someone started rubbing my chin stubble. Probably go wide eyed with 'WTF!' crashing through my neurons.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    May 30, 2008 1:06 PM GMT
    Lucky him that you don't really care, especially in the land of frivolous labor lawsuits, California. His actions have sexual harrassment written all over them, at least in California language.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    May 30, 2008 1:10 PM GMT
    take it as aq compliment....enjoy it......do nothing...be proud....and count your blessings
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    May 30, 2008 2:36 PM GMT
    Guy101 saidUnderstood. Some my might view that as favortisim which is your co-workers might have a problem with it.
    it doesn't seem that farfetched.

    Well I hope you boss doens't get too friendly with you. LOL.


    It won't turn into favoratism if you don't want it too ( but maybe you really want it too).....You have control over the situation....you are not a victim. Do your job well...take the compliments....set clear limits (unless you really do want to flirt and show everyone how sexy you are)......be a professional.

    What's this shit about being offended, sexual harrassment etc.? There are worse things in life than people finding you attractive. Get over it and be a professional.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    May 30, 2008 3:55 PM GMT
    I generally feel it is inappropriate to caress at work. Though my last boss used to pinch my ass a lot when he walked by. He was totally straight, but a walking HR violation. I guess he thought it was ironic. I didn't mind cause he was just that weird and funny. We would also mutter really inappropriate things to each other during meetings, because we knew that it would take a lot to offend us.I know the women I worked with were not as amused by his off color remarks. In fact, I had to deal with a direct report who was not please with getting her butt pinched. I thinkhe got fired eventually. Which is a shame since I know he meant know harm in it. I guess people should lighten up and get real about stuff. It is not a bad thing to have someone be complementary to you.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    May 30, 2008 3:59 PM GMT
    My boss, my best friend and I were all invited to a pool party for another friend's 60th b-day. The other guests (middle-aged suburban ladies and younger gays) were joking about going skinny dipping. Next thing I know I see my 64 year old boss (and just after, my best friend) slink naked into the pool. They ended up being the only ones.

    It's okay, because later I got sick and uncharacteristically belligerent due to the toxic alcoholic sludge coming out of the margarita machine.

    We all embarassed ourselves that night.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    May 30, 2008 4:07 PM GMT
    My boss and I were talking on the phone and when we were saying our goodbyes I started to say to her, "I love you" but luckily I stopped myself. It reminded me of the Onion article, "Man Accidentally Ends Business Call with 'I Love You.'"

  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    May 30, 2008 4:10 PM GMT
    I've had very a very awkward incident with a superior when I was in the service. He didnt have much of a sense of humor never laughed or kid with anyone. I knew he was married with two kids from talking with others on the boat. Well one day while passing me he smacked my ass, in a playful manner, turned smiled and started to walk away. Well I tend to be fast on my feet and before he completely turned away I told him he would have to wine and dine me first before we went there. He blushed and continued on his way. Nothing ever happened like that again with him.

    Another incident took place while working in the hospital. I had a car with random CT plates ending in TOP. Well one day I dropped something on the ground bent over to pick it up and while getting back up one of the doctors made the comment "Dont back or you may not be a top much longer." Kinda didnt know what to say there.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    May 30, 2008 4:25 PM GMT
    McGay saidLucky him that you don't really care, especially in the land of frivolous labor lawsuits, California. His actions have sexual harrassment written all over them, at least in California language.


    The actions have sexual harassment written all over it no matter where you are. I'd watch out and know who you can talk to if it makes you nervous. Best would be to let this guy know that you would rather not have that type of attention.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    May 30, 2008 4:30 PM GMT
    "The actions have sexual harassment written all over it no matter where you are"

    True. I singled out CA, though, as my experience with ex-employees over the last 3 years has shown that CA judges tend to side with the employee and are apt to automatically assume an employer is in the wrong. The trick there is to move your case to federal court where the judges aren't simply EOE hires. In CA if you said you were sexually harrassed by a piece of whole wheat bread, the judge would hold all bakeries liable.
  • Timbales

    Posts: 13993

    May 30, 2008 4:35 PM GMT
    My boss just thought it was odd I don't like shrimp or red wine.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    May 30, 2008 6:17 PM GMT
    I say sleep your way up the corporate ladder!
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    May 30, 2008 6:26 PM GMT
    metalxracr saidnegative! I wouldn't sleep with him. I've just never become friends with a boss. This guy and I just have so much in common, and we always get yelled at everyday by the other coworkers for sitting around and just talking about stupid shit all the time.

    But he is the boss, so we just laugh it off and say "Oh yeah sorry."


    metalxracr saidboiwunderkind1984 .. his gaydar may detect you! But that's funny about not feeling bad! lol!!


    I think I left out the part where he looks really funny and has long since broken hooked nose, is balding and just not attractive in any way on any level. Aside for my own personal codes of conduct that keep me from fucking my friends and coworkers. But than again, even if I wasn't working there, I'd never even think of talking to the guy. Gross!
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    May 30, 2008 6:48 PM GMT
    It was a quiet Friday afternoon and I had only been on the job for one week. My boss, her assistant and I were the only people in the office when my boss comes to my desk and asks if I'm gay. I didn't know what to say so I told the truth. The three of us ended-up spending the afternoon gossiping about people we knew, the orientation of another coworker and guys my boss could set me up with. To this day she is still a good friend even though I no longer work for her.
  • irishboxers

    Posts: 357

    May 30, 2008 7:12 PM GMT
    McGay is correct, as usual. icon_biggrin.gif My first reaction when I read the post was "WHAT? RED FILE!" (our terminology for a harassment investigation). You may not have felt uncomfortable, but those around you who felt awkward would be within their rights to file a third-party harassment suit and exclaim a skiived-out "Ewww!" at the groping of the beard. Creepy. Inappropriate. And if you hadn't guessed, I work in HR/Training in California. icon_twisted.gif

    I've got nothing on that when it comes to my boss. The only awkwardness I have with my boss, who is also gay, is that I'm into sports and he hates sports and, therefore, thinks he and I are unable to relate (something about his father being a super-jock). It freaks him out that I walk down the hall taking about the NFL with one of the finance guys and then stop at the opening team area (the other hive of gayness in our office) and chat about whatever fabulous topic has come up recently...and then ask him if he's heard the new Coldplay single yet. I have to go out of my way to ask about movies and music (our common interests) to remind him we can actually have non-work conversations. I've never made such a blatant attempt to suck up simply in the name of having a normal working relationship. In the grand scheme of things, no big deal at all.

    The beard thing, on the other hand...
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    May 30, 2008 7:59 PM GMT
    ok, ya, this is kind of awkward:

    I went to this gay "gym" in vegas when I was there for a conference. I went and worked out and there were some hot guys in the weight room. One guy was really hot though and we kept glancing at each other.

    After my workout, I noticed that he went into the locker room. I went in after him, of course. He got naked and went into the steam room.

    I figured...wtf? so I went in too. It was very dark and very steamy. I sat down next to the guy and kind of pulled my towel so it was loose. He reached over and touched my leg. I didnt stop him.

    Well, one thing led to another and pretty soon it got xrated.

    Then some guy came in and flipped on the lights and I realzied that the guy who was holding my junk wasn't the guy from the weight room at all. IT WAS MY BOSS!

    whoa...how awkward is that?

    ahh, well...we laugh about it now....good times....good times.