Not Going All the Way

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    May 30, 2008 1:23 PM GMT
    Someimes I just feel like kissing, cuddling and grinding and holding and falling asleep with a guy and not going for the full tamale......anyone else like that?
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    May 30, 2008 1:30 PM GMT
    Totally! It's not always about sex, sex, sex...sometimes cuddling is even better.
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    May 30, 2008 1:50 PM GMT
    KissingPro saidSomeimes I just feel like kissing, cuddling and grinding and holding and falling asleep with a guy and not going for the full tamale......anyone else like that?


    Yes...and they usually get pissy about it! WTF?
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    May 30, 2008 1:59 PM GMT
    wwanderlust said[quote][cite]KissingPro said[/cite]Someimes I just feel like kissing, cuddling and grinding and holding and falling asleep with a guy and not going for the full tamale......anyone else like that?


    Yes...and they usually get pissy about it! WTF?[/quote]

    TELL ME ABOUT IT! That's my point. When I didn't want to plug this guy, he started to belittle me about "being a man". So I proceeded to tempt and tease him until he was climbing the walls, then told him to leave....fuk him ( I didn't).
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    May 30, 2008 3:55 PM GMT
    Cuddling with someone is great and all, but why are these people getting pissed off? If you bring a guy home from a club, sex is expected. Otherwise, you are just being a cock tease.

    Cuddling is great. But false advertising sucks.
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    May 30, 2008 4:03 PM GMT
    MunchingZombie saidCuddling with someone is great and all, but why are these people getting pissed off? If you bring a guy home from a club, sex is expected. Otherwise, you are just being a cock tease.

    Cuddling is great. But false advertising sucks.


    Agreed--bringing a guy home from a club would carry a certain assumption of sex. (Though a little disclosure up front would avoid any confusion.)

    It's the ones that assume that any date is supposed to end with intercourse that exasperate me. Ew.

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    May 30, 2008 7:34 PM GMT
    I love to just make out sometimes. My boyfriend and I can get pretty hot and steamy sometimes. I looooove those sessions.
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    May 30, 2008 8:15 PM GMT
    KissingPro saidSomeimes I just feel like kissing, cuddling and grinding and holding and falling asleep with a guy and not going for the full tamale......anyone else like that?


    Yes
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    May 30, 2008 8:40 PM GMT
    same here ..

    But when you doing it in a one night stander you may send him the wrong message, I love you and I want you here with me , be my bf, bla bla ! AND IT'S REALLY SCARY!!

    I do like romance and associating emotions with sex (even if it's only a hookup) .. but when it gets too serious I freake out ..icon_confused.gif
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    May 30, 2008 8:42 PM GMT
    I wish I am in the position to be in that same frame of mind right now...
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    May 31, 2008 4:33 AM GMT
    I usually like just cuddling and kissing at the beginning (first couple dates) of a "relationship." If my friend wants more, and I'm into it, we do. If I'm not, we don't

    I don't really "trick" anymore (but don't think that makes me respectable icon_biggrin.gif). When I meet someone, I usually exhange contact info, and meet them elsewhere with the idea that we're going to get to know each other somewhat. That takes care of the "false advertising" concern.
  • GQjock

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    May 31, 2008 11:08 AM GMT
    I start off feelin' that way...

    But... then somethin' always comes up icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Jun 01, 2008 5:01 PM GMT
    GQjock saidI start off feelin' that way...

    But... then somethin' always comes up icon_rolleyes.gif


    I know........and that's he point...I like surprises.
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    Jun 03, 2008 3:14 PM GMT
    MunchingZombie saidCuddling with someone is great and all, but why are these people getting pissed off? If you bring a guy home from a club, sex is expected. Otherwise, you are just being a cock tease.

    Cuddling is great. But false advertising sucks.


    Um...no one is entitled to sex EVEN IF you go home together. If you are expecting it, then you should find a way to confirm with the other person that you have mutual goals BEFORE you leave the bar/party/wherever.

    Oh, and "cocktease" is a term used for men who are too self-absorbed to see beyond their own needs, and as such probably make crappy bed companions anyway.

    As for me, I love to kiss & cuddle -- my complaint is that being 6'4", when I'm spooning someone, most men expect me to be the CUDDLER and I have to ask them to cuddle me (because it never occurs to them that I want to be the one receiving the cuddle)
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    Jun 03, 2008 8:14 PM GMT
    xanadude said[quote]
    Oh, and "cocktease" is a term used for men who are too self-absorbed to see beyond their own needs, and as such probably make crappy bed companions anyway.


    First I have to disagree here. Im not self-absorbed and I use that term, though its when only describing 2 people. On two occasions I ran into a cocktease. I wont go into much detail suffice to say we got home, on the premise of sex, start getting hot and heaving oral to near completion and they stop get up and claim they have to leave.

    Also if your inviting someone home from a club or bar it is 99% of the time assumed sex will take place, unless discussed ahead of time. For most men bars/clubs are alternatives to the internet for picking up tricks. Thats one of the reasons Im completely upfront with all my intentions and Im rather blunt. This way there is no miscommunication.

    I love cuddling but you cant expect it from a trick or expect them to be fine with just cuddling. I do have a close friend that when I was single we would call each other up and sometimes just sleep together cuddling.
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    Jun 03, 2008 8:45 PM GMT
    tonyp321 said[quote][cite]xanadude said[/cite][quote]
    Oh, and "cocktease" is a term used for men who are too self-absorbed to see beyond their own needs, and as such probably make crappy bed companions anyway.


    First I have to disagree here. Im not self-absorbed and I use that term, though its when only describing 2 people. On two occasions I ran into a cocktease. I wont go into much detail suffice to say we got home, on the premise of sex, start getting hot and heaving oral to near completion and they stop get up and claim they have to leave.

    Also if your inviting someone home from a club or bar it is 99% of the time assumed sex will take place, unless discussed ahead of time. For most men bars/clubs are alternatives to the internet for picking up tricks. Thats one of the reasons Im completely upfront with all my intentions and Im rather blunt. This way there is no miscommunication.

    I love cuddling but you cant expect it from a trick or expect them to be fine with just cuddling. I do have a close friend that when I was single we would call each other up and sometimes just sleep together cuddling.[/quote]

    I still stand by my comment.
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    Jun 05, 2008 6:44 AM GMT
    Says who, at any point you can change your mind. Any guy who doesn't get that can fuck off as hes obviously not worth it. Its a given that if you know before you go to there place or they go to yours that if your not going to ahve sex you tell them and thats fine. Sometimes a hot make out session and than sleeping,(though really difficult to do so) is better.
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    Jun 10, 2008 3:56 PM GMT
    I've met guys like you, I've dated them once, never twice.

    There's only so many weekends in a lifetime, if you don't want my doughnut, I'll find someone who does.