What are your feelings on your boyfriend going to a strip club?

  • jackthejock

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    Nov 09, 2011 9:39 AM GMT


    I am dating a bisexual guy who does have a few straight friends getting married in the next few months and one of his buddies is having a big vegas bachelor party that's going to involve booze and strippers and all of that.

    What are your thoughts on your boyfriend going to a strip club?


  • denvermark

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    Nov 09, 2011 12:11 PM GMT
    I've got no issues with it whatsoever. He's an adult and can do whatever he wants. Strip clubs, gay or straight, don't threaten our relationship.
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    Nov 09, 2011 1:15 PM GMT
    eh.... boys will be boys.... whatever
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    Nov 09, 2011 1:18 PM GMT
    No big deal.
  • pecsman_5

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    Nov 09, 2011 1:23 PM GMT
    Let him go. Its no big deal.
  • drypin

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    Nov 09, 2011 1:25 PM GMT
    Hmm, is this more of a "just wondering what others think" kind of question or are you concerned that something's going to happen at the strip club that threatens your budding relationship with this guy?

    It sounds like a fun way for him to help his friend bid goodbye to bachelorhood and I'd be happy for him (and glad I didn't have to participate, because I think I'd be bored to death).
  • HndsmKansan

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    Nov 09, 2011 1:27 PM GMT
    Really no big issue, he's with friends, its a social thing. Don't give it much thought.
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    Nov 09, 2011 1:42 PM GMT
    I would hold to him to the same standard if he was going to a gay strip club...are you kidding me. He does not get a free pass because it just happen to women and he has str8 friends. But then again I doubt very seriously I would ever date a gay who is bisexual for this very reason alon. Things are complicated enough just dealling with men.icon_rolleyes.gificon_rolleyes.gificon_rolleyes.gif
  • fitdude62

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    Nov 09, 2011 1:48 PM GMT
    "Hope he has a great time.....and comes home horney as hell" icon_razz.gif
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    Nov 09, 2011 1:54 PM GMT
    jackthejock said

    I am dating a bisexual guy ...


    I stopped reading after that.

    You have more to worry about than your lovely boyfriend tromping around a strip club.
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    Nov 09, 2011 2:23 PM GMT
    credo said
    jackthejock said

    I am dating a bisexual guy ...


    I stopped reading after that.

    You have more to worry about than your lovely boyfriend tromping around a strip club.


    Why, what's the problem? You say that as if a person cannot be bisexual and if they say they are its something wrong...

    And as far as the strip club question.. as some people already stated if you love him and trust him let him go have fun with his buddies. its no harm in the strip club.
  • tuffguyndc

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    Nov 09, 2011 2:35 PM GMT
    jackthejock said

    I am dating a bisexual guy who does have a few straight friends getting married in the next few months and one of his buddies is having a big vegas bachelor party that's going to involve booze and strippers and all of that.

    What are your thoughts on your boyfriend going to a strip club?


    I would not have a problem with it. If you don't trust him to go out than you do not trust him at all. which means you should not be in a relationship with him
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    Nov 09, 2011 2:45 PM GMT
    Strip clubs are just entertainment. I say go and have fun. I'm not threatened by strippers or nude dancers. I think bodies are beautiful and hot.

    Give him $100.00 for tip money down the G-string... Have a blast babe!!
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    Nov 09, 2011 2:54 PM GMT
    jackthejock said

    I am dating a bisexual guy who does have a few straight friends getting married in the next few months and one of his buddies is having a big vegas bachelor party that's going to involve booze and strippers and all of that.

    What are your thoughts on your boyfriend going to a strip club?




    If he is going this one time out of social obligation that's fine. If he begins to make a habit of it or ever goes by himself, bye bye boyfriend.
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    Nov 09, 2011 2:57 PM GMT
    Would you all have a problem if this was a gay strip bar. I personal don't get strip bars at all! Disgusting!
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    Nov 09, 2011 2:58 PM GMT
    jackthejock said

    I am dating a bisexual guy who does have a few straight friends getting married in the next few months and one of his buddies is having a big vegas bachelor party that's going to involve booze and strippers and all of that.

    What are your thoughts on your boyfriend going to a strip club?
    I think the fact that you're actually even asking about this calls into question the trust you have for your bf. What are you afraid he's going to do? Afraid he might see something or even have a few drinks, loosen up and have some fun without you? Are you too insecure about the relationship to think that even if he goes, meets some hot guy, plays around with him, that he won't save the last dance for you?

    I think you're trying to manipulate the man into being what you want him to be instead of learning who he is, what makes him happy and appreciating him for being who he is. If he has friends that are going to a party and he wants to go and be a part of it, you should embrace his decision, discuss expectations, open a dialog with him about what might happen, trust him and send him on his way. If you can't conceive of this, then you need to find a different bf, someone who doesn't mind being manipulated and controlled and that will probably eventually get sick of it and do what he wants behind your back instead. If you're OK with him going and having fun with his friends, then I say good for you!

    Trust is a funny thing.
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    Nov 09, 2011 2:59 PM GMT
    My thoughts would be:
    Have fun at the strip club, come back super horny and bang me. Thanks, byeeee.
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    Nov 09, 2011 3:23 PM GMT
    As far as a bachelor party I think I would be much less concerned about a strip club than about other things. I went to New York for a bachelor party. Believe me, picking up people at bars is more of a risk that going to a strip club.

    But that is where trust comes in. It's a bachelor party. A very unique situation. Just tell them to go and have fun and tell you all about the weekend when they get back. If they are an honest person and are really trustworthy, nothing bad will happen.

    Now if it was just a regular friday night, I would rather go WITH my bf if he went to the strip club, but I really won't care if he goes with friends instead.

    Having a bf that goes out without you, whether strip club or regular bar/club, is all about trust! You gotta trust that they will do nothing you aren't ok with.
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    Nov 09, 2011 3:29 PM GMT
    Ducky47 saidWould you all have a problem if this was a gay strip bar. I personal don't get strip bars at all! Disgusting!

    No, I wouldn't have a problem with it being a gay strip bar either. They're not my preferred type of venue, but they are not disgusting. In fact, they can be quite fun from time to time.
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    Nov 09, 2011 3:36 PM GMT
    jackthejock saidWhat are your thoughts on your boyfriend going to a strip club?

    Wouldn't bother me. If he wants some male stripper instead of me then I guess I don't know him very well, and am better rid of him. But if he just wants some hormone-inducing eye-candy, that's actually a PLUS for me. icon_wink.gif

    BUT, the difference here is your BF's bisexuality. My partner is gay. These strippers will be female, and that's something I wouldn't be able to compete against, if he wanted a cunt instead of a cock (and I'm talking about anatomy, not personality). That's one of the issues with dating a bi that I've discussed here before, and why I've never done it

    So in this case I would feel uneasy about female strippers. Even if he didn't get involved with one of those at this party, it might push him off in the direction of renewed interest in women overall, leaving me up the creek. I contend this is an occupational hazard in dating bi's.
  • neosyllogy

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    Nov 09, 2011 3:45 PM GMT
    7Famark saidMy thoughts would be:
    Have fun at the strip club, come back super horny and bang me. Thanks, byeeee.

    Mmmmm, trust is sexy.

    @OP Is this a "I'm worried becasue he's 'bi'" thing or an "I'm worried because he's in a den of iniquity" thing?
    Both are silly IMO, but wanted to clarify.
  • SoDakGuy

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    Nov 09, 2011 3:45 PM GMT
    I'm okay w/ it.
  • neosyllogy

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    Nov 09, 2011 3:48 PM GMT
    Art_Deco said
    So in this case I would feel uneasy about female strippers. Even if he didn't get involved with one of those at this party, it might push him off in the direction of renewed interest in women overall, leaving me up the creek. I contend this is an occupational hazard in dating bi's.


    Man, you can compete against people with brown eyes if you have blue and people with blue eyes if you have brown. Tall people if you're short and short if you're tall. etc, ad nauseum.

    Look, essentially everyone is attracted to a range of characteristics and you're only ever going to have a small % of them. Why people freak out when someone is attracted to either sex I don't really understand. It's not something to feel anymore insecure about than the rest of what the guy is attracted to.

    I think a lot of it comes from a persistent suspicion by most people that sexuality is binary and therefore maybe they're really playing for the other team. I would contend that utterly false.
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    Nov 09, 2011 3:49 PM GMT
    well .. if he is going with friends .. just cuz of his friends then its np ... but if ever he asks about u just to have fun there .. i would get mad n jealous
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    Nov 09, 2011 3:50 PM GMT
    My BF and I got sloshed one night at an amateur strip show... next thing I know, he's on stage in his saggy boxer shorts with his pants around his ankles.

    He got second place and paid for our bar tab. I'm ok with it.