Would you date a smoker?

  • FRE0

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    Nov 09, 2011 8:02 PM GMT
    I've always been really put off by smoking, especially since I am very sensitive to smoke. Even though my mother smoked, it always burned my eyes and nose and gave me a headache; I never got used to it, even with frequent involuntary exposure. When smoking was still socially acceptable, it was considered normal to smoke and abnormal not to smoke. Those of us who didn't smoke were constantly expected to justify our choice not to smoke. There were even many places I avoided because of the tobacco smoke.

    How many of you would date a smoker?
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    Nov 09, 2011 8:25 PM GMT
    If he quit
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    Nov 09, 2011 8:39 PM GMT
    b1o2y3456 saidIf he quit



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    Nov 09, 2011 8:43 PM GMT
    only if he quit. While i don't have asthma, i am hypersensitive to smoke and aerosols (basically smells in general, which has its benefits too icon_biggrin.gif ). My str8 roommate smokes and i wanna whack him in the head with a hammer sometimes. Its so disgusting and ridiculous from an outside perspective. Plus, he knocked up the g/f and now he's smoking MORE! This dude needs a reality check.
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    Nov 09, 2011 8:48 PM GMT
    No, I would not.

    I don't really mind being around a person that smokes out at a bar every once in a while, but I could never date or be around them constantly(live with) and have to put up with that smell 24/7. Plus, when you are making out, there is an after taste that isn't gonna work for me.
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    Nov 09, 2011 8:48 PM GMT
    Trollileo saidI would. Smoking doesn't make someone a bad person. If they were courteous about it then yes. If he were an asshole about how society has fucked over smokers and if he bitches about not having money (oh my god that pisses me off) then I'd probably get tired of it.


    I have to disagree. Most smokers I've met have been total assholes in 1 way or another. Atleast the ones my age LOL.

    My X, he used to spend all his money on cocaine on the weekend, and then have no cigarettes during the week. Guess who was the DUMB mother fucker to be buying it for him? Once I did...but then after that I had a major issue with something that was technically killing me.

    But...I would date a smoker and have, but live with is a different story. And he'd have to sleep over at my place
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    Nov 09, 2011 8:48 PM GMT
    a pole smoker
  • tuffguyndc

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    Nov 09, 2011 8:49 PM GMT
    FRE0 saidI've always been really put off by smoking, especially since I am very sensitive to smoke. Even though my mother smoked, it always burned my eyes and nose and gave me a headache; I never got used to it, even with frequent involuntary exposure. When smoking was still socially acceptable, it was considered normal to smoke and abnormal not to smoke. Those of us who didn't smoke were constantly expected to justify our choice not to smoke. There were even many places I avoided because of the tobacco smoke.

    How many of you would date a smoker?
    i would only consider it if he or she was going to try and quit
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    Nov 09, 2011 8:51 PM GMT
    & i thought everybody smoked XD
    obviously not
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    Nov 09, 2011 8:53 PM GMT
    Trollileo saidYour age group kind of sucks then.


    I was referring to ages 18-30 LOL.
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    Nov 09, 2011 8:56 PM GMT
    nope.. it's a commentary on how much they value their health.. Your health is the most valuable asset you own. duh...
  • jackthejock

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    Nov 09, 2011 8:56 PM GMT
    My boyfriend and I were both secret smokers when we started dating, it wasn't until our third date that I bummed one at the bar we went to after dinner and he was like "Oh thank god, I have a few in my car and have been dying for one but didn't want to smoke in front of you". Neither of us ever smoked in the house or in the car, and neither of us were anything near a pack a day habit types (I'm still baffled as to how people manage to do that actually, where do you even find the time?)

    But we've both been working really hard at quitting, I bought one pack in September and one Halloween weekend and that's been it for the past 2 months. He's pretty much totally quit, but it is harder for me because I get panic attacks and I'd rather have the occasional cig than be on medication again.
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    Nov 09, 2011 8:57 PM GMT
    On paper, no. But I once fell in love with a man, and he smoked. When you actually fall in deep and not just sit around making lists of what you don't want your fictitious boyfriend to do you surprise yourself with what you forgive.
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    Nov 09, 2011 8:59 PM GMT
    Ariodante saidOn paper, no. But I once fell in love with a man, and he smoked. When you actually fall in deep and not just sit around making lists of what you don't want your fictitious boyfriend to do you surprise yourself with what you forgive.


    THIS.

    As far as cigerettes probably not.

    420. YES. lol
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    Nov 09, 2011 8:59 PM GMT
    mochamuscle said
    Trollileo saidYour age group kind of sucks then.


    I was referring to ages 18-30 LOL.


    I know alot of people who smoke (for some reason almost the entire Film & Theatre undergrad population smokes habitually) and i can count on one hand the number who are courteous. Most don't realize that people have can have hypersensitivity to it and just smoke wherever the f*ck they want. Even a friend of mine who smokes weed in a pipe, she knows i can't handle it but lit up one time at her apartment and i told her i had to leave. People, expecially anyone younger than 30, who smoke have issues on some level as well. What i mean by this is that there is conclusive and concrete medical proof that smoking is hazardous to your health and it has been common knowledge for several decades now. People who choose to smoke in spite of this have to have a reason to ignore the facts, whether they don't care and just want to enjoy life whether its shorter in consequence or not(the nicer folk) or if they're looking to be "cool" or fit in with a certain crowd. You just have to wonder in a world where you can even now get an e-cigarette which dispenses the same quantity of nicotine but without the harmful smoke, why anybody smoke-free would choose to pick up a pack of Marlboro.
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    Nov 09, 2011 9:01 PM GMT
    Ariodante saidOn paper, no. But I once fell in love with a man, and he smoked. When you actually fall in deep and not just sit around making lists of what you don't want your fictitious boyfriend to do you surprise yourself with what you forgive.


    i don't sit around making lists but i KNOW i can't live with a smoker so i doubt i could "live" with one.
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    Nov 09, 2011 9:07 PM GMT
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    funbud8 saidnope.. it's a commentary on how much they value their health.. Your health is the most valuable asset you own. duh...
    I'll disagree with that, but ok.




    you disagree with "Your health is the most valuable asset you own"?
    What is more valuable?
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    Nov 09, 2011 9:08 PM GMT
    Ariodante saidOn paper, no. But I once fell in love with a man, and he smoked. When you actually fall in deep and not just sit around making lists of what you don't want your fictitious boyfriend to do you surprise yourself with what you forgive.


    Probably this.
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    Nov 09, 2011 9:11 PM GMT
    funbud8 said
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    funbud8 saidnope.. it's a commentary on how much they value their health.. Your health is the most valuable asset you own. duh...
    I'll disagree with that, but ok.




    you disagree with "Your health is the most valuable asset you own"?
    What is more valuable?


    I'd wager to say your disposition towards life and other people is more valuable. Especially in the gay community where a heightened obsession with diet and gym culture creates hollow narcissists. A hard-working, community-conscious, humble and kind person is a much more valuable asset to the world than a self-centered ass with super-human physical health.
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    Nov 09, 2011 9:13 PM GMT
    Trollileo saidThat's really weird, because everyone at my university bleeds courtesy when they're smoking. They always make sure they're downwind of people and entrances, always ask if it's okay to smoke outside in my back or front yards, apologize for their smoke smell (even if they don't even smell like smoke), etc... Must be a Washington thing.


    Do they have ordinances where you live? Louisiana has a horrible track record with their controls (DMV, public health, etc.) We don't even have emissions testing on cars, they just make sure your lights and horn work and give you a new brake tag (and that's the ones that do their job and don't just give you the sticker). People here smoke an obscene amount of cigarettes. A "smoky" bar takes on new meaning here and nobody from the gov't has ever told smokers squat about where they can or cannot smoke so it stands to reason that common courtesy never really developed with respect to smoking. the couple of people who are courteous, come to think of it, i think they're transplants from out of state.
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    Nov 09, 2011 9:19 PM GMT
    Trollileo said
    RoadsterRacer87 said
    Trollileo saidThat's really weird, because everyone at my university bleeds courtesy when they're smoking. They always make sure they're downwind of people and entrances, always ask if it's okay to smoke outside in my back or front yards, apologize for their smoke smell (even if they don't even smell like smoke), etc... Must be a Washington thing.


    Do they have ordinances where you live? Louisiana has a horrible track record with their controls (DMV, public health, etc.) We don't even have emissions testing on cars, they just make sure your lights and horn work and give you a new brake tag (and that's the ones that do their job and don't just give you the sticker). People here smoke an obscene amount of cigarettes. A "smoky" bar takes on new meaning here and nobody from the gov't has ever told smokers squat about where they can or cannot smoke so it stands to reason that common courtesy never really developed with respect to smoking. the couple of people who are courteous, come to think of it, i think they're transplants from out of state.
    It's actually illegal to smoke in any public place or within 100 feet of an entrance to one, even privately owned businesses. However, everyone who smoked had always been nice enough to not even need the law and a lot of places went out of business in my hometown because of that ordinance.


    lucky. we don't have anything like that. You can smoke wherever the hell you want (except public transit) except private property that bans it. I wish there were such a thing as a smoke-free apartment complex. NOthing worse than having your window open in the fall and having to go close it when the guy next to you goes out on his balcony and lights up
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    Nov 09, 2011 9:21 PM GMT
    Ariodante said
    funbud8 said
    Trollileo said
    funbud8 saidnope.. it's a commentary on how much they value their health.. Your health is the most valuable asset you own. duh...
    I'll disagree with that, but ok.




    you disagree with "Your health is the most valuable asset you own"?
    What is more valuable?


    I'd wager to say your disposition towards life and other people is more valuable. Especially in the gay community where a heightened obsession with diet and gym culture creates hollow narcissists. A hard-working, community-conscious, humble and kind person is a much more valuable asset to the world than a self-centered ass with super-human physical health.


    your health= your physical and mental well being. no one said anything about "self centered ass with super-human physical health".
    If you are in such pain that you cannot function properly, you can't be a hard working, community conscious, person. You're wondering how you can escape the pain and how much longer you can endure life.
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    Nov 09, 2011 9:24 PM GMT
    funbud8 said
    Ariodante said
    funbud8 said
    Trollileo said
    funbud8 saidnope.. it's a commentary on how much they value their health.. Your health is the most valuable asset you own. duh...
    I'll disagree with that, but ok.




    you disagree with "Your health is the most valuable asset you own"?
    What is more valuable?


    I'd wager to say your disposition towards life and other people is more valuable. Especially in the gay community where a heightened obsession with diet and gym culture creates hollow narcissists. A hard-working, community-conscious, humble and kind person is a much more valuable asset to the world than a self-centered ass with super-human physical health.


    your health= your physical and mental well being. no one said anything about "self centered ass with super-human physical health".
    If you are in such pain that you cannot function properly, you can't be a hard working, community conscious, person. You're wondering how you can escape the pain and how much longer you can endure life.


    I merely pointed out one extreme (focusing on your own well-being to the extent it makes you self-centered) you pointed out the other (suffering from such a lack of health you cannot function at all).
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    Nov 09, 2011 9:48 PM GMT
    funbud8 saidnope.. it's a commentary on how much they value their health.. Your health is the most valuable asset you own. duh...

    this
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    Nov 09, 2011 9:54 PM GMT
    Yes and I have two of my ex lovers smoked. They never smoke in the house or in the apt and never smoked around me. Just because someone smokes does not make them the devil.

    I would never tell any one that the only way I would date you if you quit smoking.

    I thinking buzz drinking is far more dangerous because if you buzz drink you're DRUNK!