It's All Coming Out

  • Lunastar

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    Nov 10, 2011 3:53 AM GMT
    Wellllllllll......It's about time, I've been struggling with it for about a couple years now, but my closest friends know and I'm making the steps towards telling my family


    I'm very close to telling my mother. I'm actually kicking myself for not having told her already. She's told me several times "I'll love you no matter what", asked me if I'm gay and even when I denied it a couple years ago, she said to me:

    "Sometimes you don't know at this age, maybe you're gay and just don't know it yet,"

    A mother always knows haha.

    So I came very close recently when she brought up how two of my friends i hang out with are gay and that others will probably think the same of me and asked if I'm ok with that, to which I replied yeah that's fine but said nothing more.

    It's a slow process but I'm working towards it.

    Funnily enough, the closest I've come to telling a family member is by telling my grandmother (she's super liberal, amazing and incredibly warm) how I'm involved in the LGBTQIA community at my school. Though I didn't explicitly say I'm gay. I'm eager to hear her response on that or if it even connected.

    My dad and I have a great relationship, and I'm hoping that our relationship is enough for him to accept me regardless.

    Lastly my brothers, one is indifferent and probably wouldn't care. The younger brother however is still a teenager and is susceptible to that whole homophobic subculture. Again, I think he'd eventually be fine with it.


    That's my rant. I'm wondering what's the consensus when it comes to telling family, in my case when I'm not likely to have any extreme reactions I don't think. Should I be persuaded into telling them, doing it on my own time (whenever that is), or should I tell them immediately?

    I'm hoping to tell them this winter break, we'll see what happens heh

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    Nov 10, 2011 4:41 AM GMT
    Good luck, although sounds like you don't need it.
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    Nov 10, 2011 5:03 AM GMT
    Yeah it seems like a rosy picture to me! And probably to you too. Lucky you, to have a such a great family.
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    Nov 10, 2011 6:17 AM GMT
    Good luck babe ;)
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    Nov 10, 2011 6:30 AM GMT
    What does the "IA" in LGBTQIA stand for? Maybe we should make it ABGILQT to have it at least alphabetized if it gets that long.

    But sounds like you're good with your mom dude, I'd say go for it. She'll probably just be happy for you that you're making progress with yourself, that's more important than what other people think and it sounds like she knows that. Good luck man icon_wink.gif
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    Nov 10, 2011 6:52 AM GMT
    It seems they already know or suspect you're gay. If your grandma told your mom where you're volunteering (LGBT) that further evidences you being gay. Since your moms already said in effect "I'll love you unconditionally" you have it made. It'll be up to you to gain enough courage to admit it to her. Naturally you need to do it in your own time, g/l guy