did you read the article? he was the one that enforced that, she gave him the choice to leave
Yes I read the entire article, and I'm sorry I sound mean a cold hearted. In a past career I worked with many terminal people, so maybe I see this article from a different view point.
I will say the guy in the story if very gallant, he is to be commended for hanging in there. Of course, how could he leave her, if he did, he would be a total ass.
However, she is being totally unrealistic and is in complete denial. The control over the relationship is completely in her hands. She states they had only been together a year when she discovered she had cancer and at that they had not even spent much time together until then. She goes on and on about thinking it is unfair to him and what thinking how hard it might be for him when she dies, etc, etc.
You're falling in love with the romantic nature of the story. I'm sorry, but to me she sounds a bit selfish. The whole artical is 'I', 'I', 'I', until it comes to talk about facing the cancer, then it becomes 'we'. She say "I think of things I might miss out on." ... "We can’t be bogged down in gloomy thoughts, though." Personally, if it were me, and I really loved the guy, I would have broke off the relationship long ago, because I would want to him to move on with his life now, I wouldn't romance about a life and a wedding that will probably never be.
To you this is a romantic story, to me it is unrealistic and a bit selfish. Sorry to be a dream breaker.
I understand that you worked with a number of terminally ill patients and so naturally have a different point of view of many of the others on here who haven't, however I am wondering have you ever been in a relationship with a terminally ill person?
The idea of terminating a relationship because your partner has a terminal illness seems unbelievable to me. If he were to do what you imply then besides being seen as a huge cad, I can't help but wonder if after she is dead he will think to himself how incredibly selfish this was of HIM
.... he could have been there at her side offering solace and comfort, or after she dies he could in time come to appreciate how precious life is and that he must relish each day, and he may recognize his grand capacity for love and as a result find another relationship that goes on for year and years. But to quote you, you are quite correct that... "... but he could get hit by a bus tomorrow ... life's a roll of the dice"