*tear* wow I'm such a sap sometimes

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    Nov 10, 2011 7:17 PM GMT
    http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-2059505/Why-doctors-death-sentence-wont-stop-marrying-man-I-adore.html

    this made me teary in the eye lol..

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    Despite doctors giving her barely three months to live, Eleanor Jeffery has vowed not to let her terminal cancer stand in the way of her wish to marry the man who has stood by her side throughout her ordeal. Here she tells of why they have set a date for June next year, and how she intends to walk down the aisle...
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    Nov 10, 2011 7:45 PM GMT
    I love how the sappy story is in a section of the paper called "femail."icon_razz.gif

    He's hot, though.
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    Nov 10, 2011 7:55 PM GMT
    ^LOL that explains it! i randomly stumbled upon it while reading a medical article
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    Nov 10, 2011 8:03 PM GMT
    Its a story to show how such a bond can last beyond all hurdles.

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    Nov 10, 2011 10:51 PM GMT
    jpBITCHva saidI call dibs on the husband once she's gone.


    You know you're going to Hell, don't you?
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    Nov 10, 2011 11:13 PM GMT
    jpBITCHva saidI call dibs on the husband once she's gone.


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    Nov 10, 2011 11:16 PM GMT
    credo said
    jpBITCHva saidI call dibs on the husband once she's gone.


    You know you're going to Hell, don't you?
    And I've got dibs on him after jpBITCHva goes to hell. icon_twisted.gif
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    Nov 10, 2011 11:20 PM GMT
    jpBITCHva saidI call dibs on the husband once she's gone.

    I can't even..
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    Nov 11, 2011 12:35 AM GMT
    Damn that is really touching. And that is a great guy. If you check out her blog, she isn't doing so well now icon_cry.gif
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    Nov 11, 2011 2:39 AM GMT
    I dated a guy that had an incurable disease and while it can be managed I've figured that if I love someone I would stay with them if they were worth it. I think it's because I lost my fiance once before and I figure life is about living and loving now and what's infront of you.
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    Nov 11, 2011 3:20 AM GMT
    AMoonHawk saidI wonder if after she is gone he will think to himself how incredibly selfish this was of her .... he could be out there in the world maybe finding someone who is not going to die soon ... or after she dies he could be so distraught that he kills himself or feels to guilty to put himself out there for another relationship and ends up alone for years and years ... but he could get hit by a bus tomorrow ... life's a roll of the dice

    What the hell happened to you to make you such a bitter person??
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    Nov 11, 2011 4:04 AM GMT
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    jpBITCHva saidI call dibs on the husband once she's gone.


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    Ms. Smith, do you think this is funny?


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    Nov 11, 2011 5:55 AM GMT
    AMoonHawk saidI wonder if after she is gone he will think to himself how incredibly selfish this was of her .... he could be out there in the world maybe finding someone who is not going to die soon ... or after she dies he could be so distraught that he kills himself or feels to guilty to put himself out there for another relationship and ends up alone for years and years ... but he could get hit by a bus tomorrow ... life's a roll of the dice


    did you read the article? he was the one that enforced that, she gave him the choice to leave
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    Nov 11, 2011 12:11 PM GMT
    The exact same thing happened to one of my maternal aunts in the summer of '97 (few days before princess Diana's death).

    She found out she had only a couple of months left to live, cancer was everywhere in her body. She had an 11 year one daughter. Her child's father, who she had met and fallen in love with at age 14, proposed to her on her deathbed. They got married in the hospital. Although she was in a lot of painand morphine , she put on a big smile, looked beautiful in her gown and laughed and joked with our family who were there supporting her. She died a few days later. icon_sad.gif

    RIP Aunty Tina x
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    Nov 11, 2011 5:37 PM GMT
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    did you read the article? he was the one that enforced that, she gave him the choice to leave


    Yes I read the entire article, and I'm sorry I sound mean a cold hearted. In a past career I worked with many terminal people, so maybe I see this article from a different view point.

    I will say the guy in the story if very gallant, he is to be commended for hanging in there. Of course, how could he leave her, if he did, he would be a total ass.

    However, she is being totally unrealistic and is in complete denial. The control over the relationship is completely in her hands. She states they had only been together a year when she discovered she had cancer and at that they had not even spent much time together until then. She goes on and on about thinking it is unfair to him and what thinking how hard it might be for him when she dies, etc, etc.

    You're falling in love with the romantic nature of the story. I'm sorry, but to me she sounds a bit selfish. The whole artical is 'I', 'I', 'I', until it comes to talk about facing the cancer, then it becomes 'we'. She say "I think of things I might miss out on." ... "We can’t be bogged down in gloomy thoughts, though." Personally, if it were me, and I really loved the guy, I would have broke off the relationship long ago, because I would want to him to move on with his life now, I wouldn't romance about a life and a wedding that will probably never be.

    To you this is a romantic story, to me it is unrealistic and a bit selfish. Sorry to be a dream breaker.


    Brutal. But also good points. Good points made from everyone. I want to believe the love story but I also have worked in medical fields and I know the brutality of pure honesty.
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    Nov 11, 2011 5:41 PM GMT
    Oh boy you are not alone, I couldn't even finish the full story. I truly hope she gets a year out of my life and they do get to get married next year in June. I will pray for both of them.

    A song dedicated to the couple

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    Nov 11, 2011 6:12 PM GMT
    reading this while sitting in the library writing an essay probably wasn't the best decision. I started to tear up. They have such a positive outlook, one that most in a similar situation may not have the strength to muster up. That was a very moving story.
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    Nov 11, 2011 6:38 PM GMT
    AMoonHawk said
    FootballHawk said

    did you read the article? he was the one that enforced that, she gave him the choice to leave


    Yes I read the entire article, and I'm sorry I sound mean a cold hearted. In a past career I worked with many terminal people, so maybe I see this article from a different view point.

    I will say the guy in the story if very gallant, he is to be commended for hanging in there. Of course, how could he leave her, if he did, he would be a total ass.

    However, she is being totally unrealistic and is in complete denial. The control over the relationship is completely in her hands. She states they had only been together a year when she discovered she had cancer and at that they had not even spent much time together until then. She goes on and on about thinking it is unfair to him and what thinking how hard it might be for him when she dies, etc, etc.

    You're falling in love with the romantic nature of the story. I'm sorry, but to me she sounds a bit selfish. The whole artical is 'I', 'I', 'I', until it comes to talk about facing the cancer, then it becomes 'we'. She say "I think of things I might miss out on." ... "We can’t be bogged down in gloomy thoughts, though." Personally, if it were me, and I really loved the guy, I would have broke off the relationship long ago, because I would want to him to move on with his life now, I wouldn't romance about a life and a wedding that will probably never be.

    To you this is a romantic story, to me it is unrealistic and a bit selfish. Sorry to be a dream breaker.


    I understand that you worked with a number of terminally ill patients and so naturally have a different point of view of many of the others on here who haven't, however I am wondering have you ever been in a relationship with a terminally ill person?

    The idea of terminating a relationship because your partner has a terminal illness seems unbelievable to me. If he were to do what you imply then besides being seen as a huge cad, I can't help but wonder if after she is dead he will think to himself how incredibly selfish this was of HIM.... he could have been there at her side offering solace and comfort, or after she dies he could in time come to appreciate how precious life is and that he must relish each day, and he may recognize his grand capacity for love and as a result find another relationship that goes on for year and years. But to quote you, you are quite correct that... "... but he could get hit by a bus tomorrow ... life's a roll of the dice"
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    Nov 11, 2011 6:49 PM GMT
    And I'm a cynic.

    It looks like the guy's earning brownie points sticking with the cancer girlfriend/fiance who in all likelihood won't even make it to the "I do"s.
    Even though they'd been together a year when she was diagnosed with cancer, they hadn't spent a lot of time together. Now he hangs around with his terminal fiance and earns sympathy points from beautiful women that he could potentially start dating when the fiance passes away.
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    Nov 11, 2011 6:52 PM GMT
    AMoonHawk saidI wonder if after she is gone he will think to himself how incredibly selfish this was of her .... he could be out there in the world maybe finding someone who is not going to die soon ... or after she dies he could be so distraught that he kills himself or feels to guilty to put himself out there for another relationship and ends up alone for years and years ... but he could get hit by a bus tomorrow ... life's a roll of the dice


    Yeah, damn those two for being in love and wanting to make the best of the time they still have left together. How irrational and absurd!
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    Nov 11, 2011 7:34 PM GMT
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    AMoonHawk saidI wonder if after she is gone he will think to himself how incredibly selfish this was of her .... he could be out there in the world maybe finding someone who is not going to die soon ... or after she dies he could be so distraught that he kills himself or feels to guilty to put himself out there for another relationship and ends up alone for years and years ... but he could get hit by a bus tomorrow ... life's a roll of the dice


    Yeah, damn those two for being in love and wanting to make the best of the time they still have left together. How irrational and absurd!


    haha Good point humans have a tendency to put down everything from Gandhi to Mother Theresa to 2 people in love, rather than appreciating for what it is.
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    Nov 15, 2011 7:55 PM GMT
    Ermine saidAnd I'm a cynic.

    It looks like the guy's earning brownie points sticking with the cancer girlfriend/fiance who in all likelihood won't even make it to the "I do"s.
    Even though they'd been together a year when she was diagnosed with cancer, they hadn't spent a lot of time together. Now he hangs around with his terminal fiance and earns sympathy points from beautiful women that he could potentially start dating when the fiance passes away.


    Wow. If that does not demonstrate an extreme negative outlook on mankind, I don't know what would.
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    Nov 15, 2011 8:41 PM GMT
    AMoonHawk saidTo you this is a romantic story, to me it is unrealistic and a bit selfish. Sorry to be a dream breaker.

    Ermine saidNow he hangs around with his terminal fiance and earns sympathy points from beautiful women that he could potentially start dating when the fiance passes away.


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    Yeah, yeah, y'all are too cool for school. We get it.

    I didn't cry, and sure, it is unrealistic to think that she'll make it to June. But it is a story that illustrates love. And for that, my heart goes out to the couple.