no1timehookups saidI'm still trying to figure out the mindset and the concept in why guys jump from person to person and don't want second encounters. I meet a guy online we meet up and we have sex, and then when messaging them again another time for a second encounter they don't respond to the messages or texts and so forth. It's not like I'm looking for a relationship or commitment, simply trying to find a someone to hookup with every once and a while. I mean I do come across some that I do hookup with more than one or two times, but in most cases, it's only a onetime thing.. I don't get it. I'm not this type of person and don't believe in sleeping around and increasing my chances of catching STDS.. I think this would be a great topic and would love to hear what other people have to say about this..
At 45 years of age I have only had 8 sex partners. 6 of which were honest attempts at relationships, the other 2 were honest attempts to be a slut.... reckless, promiscuous whatever it is.
You are not interested in a relationship - Right? Don't you run a risk of a relationship happening if you get to know your butt buddy? Each time you meet you run a risk of seeing something in him that may actually be 'relationship' material.
Since you do not want a relationship, it is therefore safer (emotionally) to just do a bag and bury.
I see random acts of random sex as being a way to have a 'relationship' without taking all of the emotional risks that comes with a real relationship. After all you get the cuddle and the sex, and you do not have to invest yourself emotionally, or look at yourself and see your own faults as reflected back at you from your partner.
As long as you can just love them and leave them, you are not getting emotionally involved. Most guys in that boat make it a habit to not 'second date' because it really insures that accidental love doesn't take place.
And I have to side with Paul, your avatar is sending a message, you may not see it that way but it is saying 'Me fucking you' And 'you' is pretty much everyone who sees it.