Guys and one time encounters

  • no1timehookup...

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    Nov 10, 2011 10:38 PM GMT
    I'm still trying to figure out the mindset and the concept in why guys jump from person to person and don't want second encounters. I meet a guy online we meet up and we have sex, and then when messaging them again another time for a second encounter they don't respond to the messages or texts and so forth. It's not like I'm looking for a relationship or commitment, simply trying to find a someone to hookup with every once and a while. I mean I do come across some that I do hookup with more than one or two times, but in most cases, it's only a onetime thing.. I don't get it. I'm not this type of person and don't believe in sleeping around and increasing my chances of catching STDS.. I think this would be a great topic and would love to hear what other people have to say about this..
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    Nov 10, 2011 10:42 PM GMT
    Your main pic makes this whole thread terribly ironic.
  • no1timehookup...

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    Nov 10, 2011 10:49 PM GMT
    paulflexes saidYour main pic makes this whole thread terribly ironic.


    This isn't about what my pic looks like, or people who have no pics, this is about the subject posted.. Are you that superficial to not talk about any interesting subjects with people with no pics of them? Why should this matter? I see why interesting topics are a rarity on here..
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    Nov 10, 2011 11:20 PM GMT
    no1timehookups said
    paulflexes saidYour main pic makes this whole thread terribly ironic.


    This isn't about what my pic looks like, or people who have no pics, this is about the subject posted.. Are you that superficial to not talk about any interesting subjects with people with no pics of them? Why should this matter? I see why interesting topics are a rarity on here..
    Just in case you're too fucking dense to notice:
    a581e49dd394ceb1fc76e4d7d4a97892.jpg

    That pic says "I'll fuck anyone who lets me."
    If you can't see that, you're more of a fucking idiot than I thought.
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    Nov 10, 2011 11:23 PM GMT
    no1timehookups said
    paulflexes saidYour main pic makes this whole thread terribly ironic.

    This isn't about what my pic looks like, or people who have no pics, this is about the subject posted.. Are you that superficial to not talk about any interesting subjects with people with no pics of them? Why should this matter? I see why interesting topics are a rarity on here.

    I think we all see why indeed, another of your ironies. icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Nov 10, 2011 11:32 PM GMT
    paulflexes said
    no1timehookups said
    paulflexes saidYour main pic makes this whole thread terribly ironic.


    This isn't about what my pic looks like, or people who have no pics, this is about the subject posted.. Are you that superficial to not talk about any interesting subjects with people with no pics of them? Why should this matter? I see why interesting topics are a rarity on here..
    Just in case you're too fucking dense to notice:
    a581e49dd394ceb1fc76e4d7d4a97892.jpg

    That pic says "I'll fuck anyone who lets me."
    If you can't see that, you're more of a fucking idiot than I thought.



    Nope.. I'm not even going to sink to your negativity.. Maybe you should not post, if ranting seems what you like to do.. Seriously, explain to me why this should matter? btw. that pics says nothing. First of all, NOT anyone is even on this site in my location... Im not here to hookup.. The forums are here for people to chat, NOT hookup, this isn't adam4adam or manhunt..
  • no1timehookup...

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    Nov 10, 2011 11:34 PM GMT
    Art_Deco said
    no1timehookups said
    paulflexes saidYour main pic makes this whole thread terribly ironic.

    This isn't about what my pic looks like, or people who have no pics, this is about the subject posted.. Are you that superficial to not talk about any interesting subjects with people with no pics of them? Why should this matter? I see why interesting topics are a rarity on here.

    I think we all see why indeed, another of your ironies. icon_rolleyes.gif


    I beg to differ.. This chat forum is filled with one word replies and one sentence replies.. Now we're off subject..
  • Bowyn_Aerrow

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    Nov 10, 2011 11:39 PM GMT
    no1timehookups saidI'm still trying to figure out the mindset and the concept in why guys jump from person to person and don't want second encounters. I meet a guy online we meet up and we have sex, and then when messaging them again another time for a second encounter they don't respond to the messages or texts and so forth. It's not like I'm looking for a relationship or commitment, simply trying to find a someone to hookup with every once and a while. I mean I do come across some that I do hookup with more than one or two times, but in most cases, it's only a onetime thing.. I don't get it. I'm not this type of person and don't believe in sleeping around and increasing my chances of catching STDS.. I think this would be a great topic and would love to hear what other people have to say about this..


    At 45 years of age I have only had 8 sex partners. 6 of which were honest attempts at relationships, the other 2 were honest attempts to be a slut.... reckless, promiscuous whatever it is.


    You are not interested in a relationship - Right? Don't you run a risk of a relationship happening if you get to know your butt buddy? Each time you meet you run a risk of seeing something in him that may actually be 'relationship' material.

    Since you do not want a relationship, it is therefore safer (emotionally) to just do a bag and bury.

    I see random acts of random sex as being a way to have a 'relationship' without taking all of the emotional risks that comes with a real relationship. After all you get the cuddle and the sex, and you do not have to invest yourself emotionally, or look at yourself and see your own faults as reflected back at you from your partner.

    As long as you can just love them and leave them, you are not getting emotionally involved. Most guys in that boat make it a habit to not 'second date' because it really insures that accidental love doesn't take place.

    And I have to side with Paul, your avatar is sending a message, you may not see it that way but it is saying 'Me fucking you' And 'you' is pretty much everyone who sees it.
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    Nov 10, 2011 11:45 PM GMT
    Want people to take you seriously?


    GIVE US A REASON TO.
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    Nov 10, 2011 11:48 PM GMT
    no1timehookups said
    Art_Deco said
    no1timehookups said
    paulflexes saidYour main pic makes this whole thread terribly ironic.

    This isn't about what my pic looks like, or people who have no pics, this is about the subject posted.. Are you that superficial to not talk about any interesting subjects with people with no pics of them? Why should this matter? I see why interesting topics are a rarity on here.

    I think we all see why indeed, another of your ironies. icon_rolleyes.gif


    I beg to differ.. This chat forum is filled with one word replies and one sentence replies.. Now we're off subject..



    No, you douchenozzle.

    You are a fail-troll who is one or more of the following:

    a) Someone who fails to grasp that if you are out for a hookup and give up the sex so easily, you ain't relationship material. Hookups are by their very nature a one time thing, not meeting up to discuss your common interests in theatre.

    b) Someone who fails to see the irony of a profile pic that is commonly found on the Craigslist M4M ads as a way of getting a photo flag without posting a photo that blatantly is about hooking up

    c) A very poor excuse for a troll making an even shittier excuse for a troll thread.

    Now, go back and sit in your corner with your thumb up your ass until I tell you you can post again.

    DISMISSED.
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    Nov 10, 2011 11:48 PM GMT
    OP is SO tragic.

    Post a pic which depersonalises sex and then complain about the depersonalisation of sex. Are you another one of SouthBeach´s sock accounts?

    Actually, probably not. He can only post about politics.
  • no1timehookup...

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    Nov 10, 2011 11:49 PM GMT
    Bowyn_Aerrow said
    no1timehookups saidI'm still trying to figure out the mindset and the concept in why guys jump from person to person and don't want second encounters. I meet a guy online we meet up and we have sex, and then when messaging them again another time for a second encounter they don't respond to the messages or texts and so forth. It's not like I'm looking for a relationship or commitment, simply trying to find a someone to hookup with every once and a while. I mean I do come across some that I do hookup with more than one or two times, but in most cases, it's only a onetime thing.. I don't get it. I'm not this type of person and don't believe in sleeping around and increasing my chances of catching STDS.. I think this would be a great topic and would love to hear what other people have to say about this..


    At 45 years of age I have only had 8 sex partners. 6 of which were honest attempts at relationships, the other 2 were honest attempts to be a slut.... reckless, promiscuous whatever it is.


    You are not interested in a relationship - Right? Don't you run a risk of a relationship happening if you get to know your butt buddy? Each time you meet you run a risk of seeing something in him that may actually be 'relationship' material.

    Since you do not want a relationship, it is therefore safer (emotionally) to just do a bag and bury.

    I see random acts of random sex as being a way to have a 'relationship' without taking all of the emotional risks that comes with a real relationship. After all you get the cuddle and the sex, and you do not have to invest yourself emotionally, or look at yourself and see your own faults as reflected back at you from your partner.

    As long as you can just love them and leave them, you are not getting emotionally involved. Most guys in that boat make it a habit to not 'second date' because it really insures that accidental love doesn't take place.

    And I have to side with Paul, your avatar is sending a message, you may not see it that way but it is saying 'Me fucking you' And 'you' is pretty much everyone who sees it.


    you have a very good point there. A friend of mine said basically the same thing, he mentioned he just got out of a relationship, and the guy was drop dead gorgeous.. He refused a second encounter with him due to the fact he knew he would start getting feelings for that person, the person really liked him, and my friend mentioned he pulled out of the parking lot him standing there disappointed..

    For me, I'm not in any shape right now for a relationship.. I'm not looking for one, but I would not stop it, if someone i really like happens to pursue one, I don't think I'll stop it.. But whats wrong with having someone to just meet up for sex, and nothing more.. There are those that hookup every once and a while, we exchange words, like how you been, and bla bla bla.. I don't want to hear a life story or give one, just exchange words and get to it..
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    Nov 10, 2011 11:55 PM GMT
    no1timehookups saidI'm still trying to figure out the mindset and the concept in why guys jump from person to person and don't want second encounters. I meet a guy online we meet up and we have sex, and then when messaging them again another time for a second encounter they don't respond to the messages or texts and so forth. It's not like I'm looking for a relationship or commitment, simply trying to find a someone to hookup with every once and a while. I mean I do come across some that I do hookup with more than one or two times, but in most cases, it's only a onetime thing.. I don't get it. I'm not this type of person and don't believe in sleeping around and increasing my chances of catching STDS.. I think this would be a great topic and would love to hear what other people have to say about this..



    This isn't a problem with "guys", sir. I fear that you are just a horrible lay...

    Has this not crossed your mind?
  • no1timehookup...

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    Nov 10, 2011 11:57 PM GMT
    Sound like multiple accounts going on here.. Funny how people rant and rave over a stupid pic, really people it's silly.. Funny how people can be so negative and actually put time into it, but hell when it comes to interesting topics on here, here comes the "One Word" replies.. It's really silly how some are offended by this.. Are we that narrow minded?
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    Nov 10, 2011 11:59 PM GMT
    ThePenIsMyTier said
    no1timehookups saidI'm still trying to figure out the mindset and the concept in why guys jump from person to person and don't want second encounters. I meet a guy online we meet up and we have sex, and then when messaging them again another time for a second encounter they don't respond to the messages or texts and so forth. It's not like I'm looking for a relationship or commitment, simply trying to find a someone to hookup with every once and a while. I mean I do come across some that I do hookup with more than one or two times, but in most cases, it's only a onetime thing.. I don't get it. I'm not this type of person and don't believe in sleeping around and increasing my chances of catching STDS.. I think this would be a great topic and would love to hear what other people have to say about this..



    This isn't a problem with "guys", sir. I fear that you are just a horrible lay...

    Has this not crossed your mind?


    It's a problem with everyone who seeks f/bs..Explain "Horrible Lay" a little bit more in detail please..
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    Nov 11, 2011 12:00 AM GMT
    no1timehookups saidSound like multiple accounts going on here.. Funny how people rant and rave over a stupid pic, really people it's silly.. Funny how people can be so negative and actually put time into it, but hell when it comes to interesting topics on here,here comes the "One Word" replies.. It's really silly how are offended by this.. Are we that narrow minded?


    The types of responses you'll see from the members that matter usually have a direct correlation to the quality of content in the original post.
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    Nov 11, 2011 12:01 AM GMT
    It means you should consider bottoming ... or maybe lrn2sexbetter.
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    Nov 11, 2011 12:01 AM GMT
    I've come to the conclusion that you can't be a real person.

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  • no1timehookup...

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    Nov 11, 2011 12:06 AM GMT
    ThePenIsMyTier saidWant people to take you seriously?


    GIVE US A REASON TO.


    It's not about me, you fail to realize it's the subject..
  • no1timehookup...

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    Nov 11, 2011 12:07 AM GMT
    ThePenIsMyTier saidI've come to the conclusion that you can't be a real person.

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    GJ though, nice and original sock account. Kudos. icon_rolleyes.gif


    Sure, I'm just some bot posting, Huh?
  • no1timehookup...

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    Nov 11, 2011 12:09 AM GMT
    If you don't have anything to say about this subject or anything nice, please don't reply.. All other negativity will now be ignored..
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    Nov 11, 2011 12:10 AM GMT
    no1timehookups saidIf you don't have anything to say about this subject or anything nice, please don't reply.. All other negativity will now be ignored..


    I gave you my honest opinion - which is likely the actual answer...

    They don't call you back because you are no fun to have sex with.

    ./end
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    Nov 11, 2011 12:11 AM GMT
    OP is a faceless troll... therefore any point to be made is invalid.

    /threadkilled
  • no1timehookup...

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    Nov 11, 2011 12:14 AM GMT
    ThePenIsMyTier said
    no1timehookups saidIf you don't have anything to say about this subject or anything nice, please don't reply.. All other negativity will now be ignored..


    I gave you my honest opinion - which is likely the actual answer...

    They don't call you back because you are no fun to have sex with.

    ./end


    But they enjoyed it as much as I did, and were really into it..
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    Nov 11, 2011 12:15 AM GMT
    I'll give you something that isn't negative...


    I don't see this trend of guys not wanting seconds. Literally every time I have hooked up with someone they have wanted more. Some say it was the best sex they've had... Like a religious experience... Generally I am the one not wanting a repeat hookup, but it's a case by case basis...

    So, there you have it. That's how I see the subject. It's based on how the sex was in your "1 time hookup". (See why I concluded you suck at sexin', brah?)