Coming Out - What's your story?

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    Nov 11, 2011 6:44 PM GMT
    Hi guys
    So this is my coming out story:
    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CyQg72IEZ3M

    What's your story?
    Would love to hear how you came out and stepped into dignity...
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    Nov 11, 2011 6:50 PM GMT
    it took me three years to fully come out to my parents. Not because i didn't just up and say "Oh, by the way. I'm gay" but because they kept insisting i was too "young and inexperienced" to make that determination.

    The final straw dropped when i was 20 i think. We were having the usual argument and both were there in the kitchen and i flat out stood up and said "I will go out and find some guy to do me on this counter while you watch if you do not shut up right now!" They left it alone for another year or two until i was raiding my mom's fabric swatches for a fine arts class project. We were arguing about fabric types, her insisting i didn't know anything and i, almost comically, stood up and said straight to her face "I'm GAY, remember?" And her response was "I'm still not sure you're gay. You always liked girls!" to which i responded "NO, they were the only people who were NICE to me!"
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    Nov 11, 2011 6:55 PM GMT
    Wow... I must admit, I didn't have that much courage to just confront my family like that. It took me a long time to come to terms with myself and then figure out a way to approach my family.

    Thanks for sharing...
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    Nov 11, 2011 7:10 PM GMT
    My coming out went great icon_smile.gif. I decided to come out because I was in love with my Ex and realized there was nothing wrong with loving another person icon_biggrin.gif all my friends and family took it really well, it was like a 2 months ago. It felt really great that I didn't loose any close friend or close family member and that they still treat me the same as before icon_smile.gif but I can now be myself. I still didn't tell my father though cause I'm in Canada and he is in Mexico but planning to tell him next summer :S wish me luck!!
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    Nov 11, 2011 7:11 PM GMT
    It's a work in process, but here's a recent thread on it. Been out to my closes friends and brother for some time. Just came out to my wife, of 16 years, a few weeks back. Holding off on coming out to the 2nd tier of friends until I've come out to my kids after the holidays.

    http://www.realjock.com/gayforums/1890455
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    Nov 11, 2011 7:11 PM GMT
    I'm glad that younger guys have so much more information to access to better understand the feelings they have. I didn't come out until I was 50, married with kids. It was still the right time and now I'm very happy, in a relationship, best friends with my ex and blessed with kids that are accepting and loving. It doesn't get better than that!
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    Nov 11, 2011 7:36 PM GMT
    Great video; congratulations! I met my first boyfriend when I was in my senior year in college. My family knew him as my "roommate" and I would bring him with me to some family events. The following Passover I wanted to bring him with me and my mom didn't want me to because we were having dinner with her best friend and her family. I said I wasn't going if Sean wasn't invited and my mom threw a hissy fit so I went over to her condo and told her. We didn't speak for several months after that, but she gradually improved after that.
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    Nov 11, 2011 8:17 PM GMT
    I just made a video on my coming out

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    Nov 11, 2011 8:21 PM GMT
    No Story yet ... but w.e it will be , i am sure how its gonna end haha
  • johndubuque

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    Nov 11, 2011 8:54 PM GMT
    I never made an actual coming out announcement to anyone. I just started spending a lot of time with my first boyfriend, who was out, and word got around.
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    Nov 11, 2011 8:55 PM GMT
    But I didnt so much tell my mom, so much that I screamed it at her lol.

    We went to IKEA to pick up some furniture and she was looking at these ugly, ugly bedsheets.

    I was scared/shaking and then I just blurted out to my mom....and everyone in the immediate vicinity. "MOM.....I LIKE BOYS!"

    She dropped the fabric, stared at me for a second and went and talked about it.
    Evidently IKEA (giant Swedish furniture store for those who don't know) But they have an in-store cafeteria deal and we went to get some food before we chatted and she looked me and said.

    Mom: "Oh my god they have princess cakes...I use to get these when I was a girl for my birthdays....Nathan you want one?"

    Me: "Mom Im about to tell you how I like guys, don't makes gayer for me."
    I settled for the cheesecake :3
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    Nov 11, 2011 8:58 PM GMT
    wannamuscle saidHi guys
    So this is my coming out story:
    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CyQg72IEZ3M

    What's your story?
    Would love to hear how you came out and stepped into dignity...


    My mom asked me if I liked boys, and I said yes, then she replied with, "thought so... ok we're getting sushi let me know what you want."
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    Nov 11, 2011 9:21 PM GMT
    AlexanderB saidI just made a video on my coming out



    I like your coming out story.

    I especially like that you don't take abuse from others. My philosophy...if somebody allows abuse from one person, it spreads into other areas of their life. Its like the universe sees it, and decides to pile on more. Eventually the person ends up a mess.

    You're in your 20's, and you already know an important lesson that some people never have the strength to learn.
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    Nov 11, 2011 10:14 PM GMT
    I think the coming out process starts with yourself.

    I had some false starts from maybe age 19-22. I was naive and didn't understand it...as a 'fag' was some kind of weak sissy. My MO was to make friends with guys I was attracted to. We'd spend a lot of time together. One time I was on a road trip with my friend Eric. I was driving and Eric was sprawled out in the passengers seat, sound asleep. I kept glancing over at him, running my eyes over his hot body, his handsome face. It was giving me a major hard on...but I couldn't stop myself...I knew I had to stop, but I kept on glancing back for another look....and then oh boy....one look too many....and I ended up cumming in my shorts! Freaking embarrassing as hell.

    But...I wasn't gay. icon_rolleyes.gif

    A few years later, I was at a New Year Eve's party in Dallas, TX. I overheard a conversation where somebody said something like, "Down on Cedar Springs is the gay bar district." I couldn't get that out of my head. When I left the party, I ended up crossing Cedar Springs Rd. Curiosity got the better of me, and I decided to check it out.

    Its after 1am and the place was wild. I had never seen anything like it. Hot guys everywhere. I was blown away. My heart was racing. My palms were sweating. I was about to cum in my shorts all over again....lol. Nobody could call these guys weak or sissies or whatever....they looked just like Eric and all the other men I had crushes on. They were full blooded men. Glorious MEN! And I was one of them!

    Anyway, that was the night that I looked around and realized that all the anti-gay stuff was a bunch of bullshit. I knew at that moment that I was gay. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Nov 11, 2011 11:10 PM GMT
    robanato saidMy coming out went great icon_smile.gif. I decided to come out because I was in love with my Ex and realized there was nothing wrong with loving another person icon_biggrin.gif all my friends and family took it really well, it was like a 2 months ago. It felt really great that I didn't loose any close friend or close family member and that they still treat me the same as before icon_smile.gif but I can now be myself. I still didn't tell my father though cause I'm in Canada and he is in Mexico but planning to tell him next summer :S wish me luck!!


    That's really great and I'll definitely be wishing you all the best for when you come out to your father! Everyone has the right to be happy...
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    Nov 11, 2011 11:11 PM GMT
    Shinra_Tensei saidI came out all over his chest. The end. icon_wink.gif


    HILARIOUS! ;-)
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    Nov 11, 2011 11:19 PM GMT
    Here's part of mine: http://www.realjock.com/gayforums/1915981

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    Nov 11, 2011 11:19 PM GMT
    Thanks to everyone so far, I've enjoyed everyone of your stories
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    Nov 11, 2011 11:27 PM GMT
    19c79 saidHere's part of mine: http://www.realjock.com/gayforums/1915981



    Great story!!
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    Nov 11, 2011 11:33 PM GMT
    Thank you for sharing your story.

    This is true for most asian cultures that the men have a responsiblity to carry down the family line. But at the time being in the states did help. My parents came back from their trip right before Christmas. That is when i told them. I didn't want to lay it down so hard on them, because i really wasn't sure how they were gonna respond. So i told them I was bi for starters, told them i liked guys, thought they were attracted. My mom and dad took it well, they were saying you are probably in a phase or something and my mom was asking lots of details about the sex. I couldn't believe it, that was so sweet of her to care though. About 6 months later I introduced my bf to my parents. They were concerned, but they still wanted me to find a girl and settle down with. In this process a few close friends and my siblings knew cause I told them and they also met my boyfriend at the time too. Everyone was really supportive, one of the best feelings in my life!
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    Nov 12, 2011 12:27 AM GMT
    Congrats. I do want to say that if someone that's thinking about coming out happens to stumble upon this forum. Please ...just make sure that you have some support system in place and also a plan B if things don't go well with your coming out process. Surround yourself with friends and that care for you and that will be by your side and ready to help no matter what happens.



  • charlieviiper...

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    Nov 12, 2011 12:41 AM GMT
    for my parents... a story yet to unfold icon_redface.gif
  • adidas0783

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    Nov 12, 2011 2:14 AM GMT
    Great video!

    I came out to my family and closest friends two years ago when I was 26. It was a long journey and it took me nearly a decade to come to terms with my sexuality and to realize that it is 100% okay to be who you are and love who you love. I knew I was "gay" and that I liked men way before I even understood what homosexuality was. This went back to when I was a child.

    I can remember I was an emotional wreck and that since I could be honest with myself, I needed to be honest with everyone, including my loved ones. It tool a lot of strength and when I told my family, it was as if a weight had been lifted off my shoulder. My family was supportive and reiterated just how much they loved me and that being gay did not change that. Initially, I think my father needed to take some time to process everything and that what he envisioned and what "his plan" for me was since I was born had changed. Ultimately, he wanted me to be happy and he was uncertain what my future held and that weighed heavily on his mind. For me, nothing has changed and I am who I am. I have a boyfriend of 2 years that I love very much, I continue to accomplish my goals, yes life gets challenging, but that is with any case.....ultimately I am happy with who I am. Like others have said, it is a work in progress.
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    Nov 12, 2011 3:29 AM GMT
    I told my parents -- "hey, mom, dad, just wanted to let you know i'm a homosexual if you didn't know already. this is what i am and i personally don't care what you think about it, if you have a problem with it, blame yourself for giving birth to me or air your grievances with 'god' who 'created me'-- just a heads up"

    I kissed them on the cheek, walked off and continued what I was doing. And that was that.
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    Nov 12, 2011 10:15 AM GMT
    charlieviiperi saidfor my parents... a story yet to unfold icon_redface.gif


    Stay strong...