AS GOOD AS DEAD

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    Nov 11, 2011 6:54 PM GMT
    My dad just caught me on this site. I'm as good as dead. I feel like killing myself.

    He wants me to block the site, and I don't know what else he has in mind.

    I don't know how to get out of this.
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    Nov 11, 2011 6:56 PM GMT
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    Well you're still here, for now, right?

    Is moving out in the near future a possibility? Sounds like a bad environment for such a brilliant kid.

    Let me know if you want to talk - if that's ever possible.

    Even if the site is not an option in the future... You can still talk to people.
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    Nov 11, 2011 7:28 PM GMT
    Respond to him with calm stern and unapologetic respect. (Don't let him smell fear or regret or wrongdoing coming from you.) You did nothing wrong. Convince him in his language (mindset, etc.) that he aught to understand that you are just different (like approx. 8% of society) but still the respectful, law abiding, and loving son and family member that you always were.

    Best of luck!
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    Nov 11, 2011 7:33 PM GMT
    I agree with the others. Hold your ground, hold your head up high, and consider moving out if and when you can. Not everyone gets the luxury of coming out in his own time, but at 22 hopefully you would be doing it sometime soon anyway. Good luck, and remember they you absolutely are not alone.
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    Nov 11, 2011 7:38 PM GMT
    Keep in mind guys, that he is in Asia... Much more could be riding on this than the respect of his father. icon_confused.gif
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    Nov 11, 2011 9:31 PM GMT
    Hmm, I could have sworn his profile used to say Vancouver. Still, best wishes to the OP. I hope it turns out ok.

    ThePenIsMyTier saidKeep in mind guys, that he is in Asia... Much more could be riding on this than the respect of his father. icon_confused.gif
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    Nov 11, 2011 9:32 PM GMT
    Please don't do anything drastic, message me if you need to talk to anyone.
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    Nov 11, 2011 10:15 PM GMT
    Good lord, what's with these parents that are younger than us?!?

    First FTF (FrostedFlakes folks) and now this.

    I'm curious as to how Dad caught the OP. Snooping Dad is not cool.

    -Doug


  • masculumpedes

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    Nov 11, 2011 10:18 PM GMT
    Who could have imagined that in this day and age parents would object to a son being gay or gay affiliated? icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Nov 11, 2011 10:20 PM GMT
    BuddyinNYC saidRespond to him with calm stern and unapologetic respect. (Don't let him smell fear or regret or wrongdoing coming from you.) You did nothing wrong. Convince him in his language (mindset, etc.) that he aught to understand that you are just different (like approx. 8% of society) but still the respectful, law abiding, and loving son and family member that you always were.

    Best of luck!


    well said.

    Head held high.
  • HndsmKansan

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    Nov 11, 2011 10:22 PM GMT
    Wow, sorry to hear it.. always pretty rough to hear this kind of thing.
    Maybe it won't be as bad as you think and if it is bad, he ought to get used to it. Probably a good time for a serious conversation

    Like blocking this site is going to be productive... jesus.
  • waccamatt

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    Nov 11, 2011 10:23 PM GMT
    It will be ok; like another poster stated - you're 22. Keep us posted on how things are going.
  • commoncoll

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    Nov 11, 2011 10:29 PM GMT
    He is in Asia/Pacific. Homosexuality is probably not OK and is probably not socially accepted either.

    If you think your father will kick you out of the house, there is no need to admit to anything. Tell him you were curious. You can talk to him as an adult (BuddyinNYC gave good advice) and tell him about your sexuality as long as it is safe for you. If it is not safe, there is no shame in hiding it. Block the website if you so choose and be more careful.
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    Nov 11, 2011 10:54 PM GMT
    1. Don't kill yourself

    2. Tell him to fuck off
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    Nov 11, 2011 11:08 PM GMT
    nicerough saidMy dad just caught me on this site. I'm as good as dead. I feel like killing myself.

    He wants me to block the site, and I don't know what else he has in mind.

    I don't know how to get out of this.
    dude, you are a grown man. what do you mean block you from this site?
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    Nov 11, 2011 11:22 PM GMT
    Aww man ... well u can just tell him u did .. so u try to avoid problems .. and try to lock ur pc ..
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    Nov 11, 2011 11:46 PM GMT
    Are you still alive? HELLO? icon_sad.gif
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    Nov 11, 2011 11:50 PM GMT
    don't even think about killing yourself...too many young people do that today...you ARE a valuable human being...there are billions of people out here..some of them are or will be your good friends...you WILL find someone who loves you,and we RJ guys are your friends....if you need to talk email me as well.......we are on your side buddy.
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    Nov 11, 2011 11:51 PM GMT
    meninlove said Good lord, what's with these parents that are younger than us?!?

    First FTF (FrostedFlakes folks) and now this.

    I'm curious as to how Dad caught the OP. Snooping Dad is not cool.

    -Doug




    If its Asian.. its Tigre Dad.. and theres no real privacy then .. :S
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    Nov 11, 2011 11:54 PM GMT
    Edward22 said1. Don't kill yourself

    2. Tell him to fuck off


    1) Agreed

    2) I strongly advise not to do that.... disrespecting parents is not the way to deal with it.. you will have to take distance from him though somehow.. as he is obviously not agreeing with you,.. but I have to add, do NOT feel as if you need to adapt to your father on this... thats just not possible... distance is best I believe
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    Nov 12, 2011 12:03 AM GMT
    Hope things turn out ok for you. Once this blow over, and it will blow over, you might consider using a driod or iphone. A little less convenient, but easier to manage (keeping my account hidden from my kid).

    Please post a thread to let us know you are ok. And remember, you are an adult now, and he needs to treat you as such.
  • calibro

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    Nov 12, 2011 6:36 AM GMT
    you're 22 and living in canada. have some balls. what the fuck are you doing being told by your parents you can't be on the internet? do you still live at home? if so, you need to move out.
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    Nov 12, 2011 6:37 AM GMT
    put on a pair of stilletos hunni and werq it....


    make ur daddy proud
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    Nov 12, 2011 6:46 AM GMT
    calibro saidyou're 22 and living in canada. have some balls. what the fuck are you doing being told by your parents you can't be on the internet? do you still live at home? if so, you need to move out.


    Dude cut him some slack. Eastern culture is far different than western culture. It becomes even more problematic when there is culture clashing in this day an age.

    OP please don't do any harm to yourself.If need be. Temporarily take yourself off this site or log in a safe secure environment.
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    Nov 12, 2011 6:50 AM GMT
    Fivealive said
    calibro saidyou're 22 and living in canada. have some balls. what the fuck are you doing being told by your parents you can't be on the internet? do you still live at home? if so, you need to move out.


    Dude cut him some slack. Eastern culture is far different than western culture. It becomes even more problematic when there is culture clashing in this day an age.
    t.


    Yeah.. didnt you see Mambo Italiano? Even mediterranean people often share the home with the parents when single... often even when married... many of my friends live in four-generation households