Bi thoughts out of nowhere...has this happened to you?

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    Nov 12, 2011 2:20 PM GMT
    Hey guys, maybe I'm over-reacting, but I've had something weird happen the last two weeks or so. In the past I'd look at even the most "hot" naked women and be left cold, and like many gay men (I suspect) I even spent a significant part of my life trying to force myself or condition myself to be turned on by women. No dice. Now I'm out to everybody, all my family and friends accept me, I'm happy, going on dates, etc.

    In the past two weeks, however, for the first time in my life I've gotten a boner thinking about women. It started out as curiosity, but has gotten a little more intense. I've gotten hard (rock hard) by watching straight porn (no men in any of the porn videos, one was a blonde taking a shower and then some lesbian stuff), I've masturbated to straight scenarios a couple times (the shower video, the idea of taking a good girl and making her into a slut, a hot girl in boots getting railed, etc). Over the past two weeks I've had practically zero visual stimulation from men, and in fact I've caught myself checking out girls on the street instead. A couple days ago a female co-worker walked by my window in a short skirt and boots and I was so mesmerized by watching her that I literally stopped talking in a conversation on the phone...it was like a bad romantic comedy complete with a "Hello?" on the other line.

    I still think I'm gay, but this is really confusing me. Have any of you ever had a phase where women made you horny? Why is this happening now at 24?
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    Nov 12, 2011 3:05 PM GMT
    I would have to look at your astrological natal chart and transits to answer that question. Go to astro dot com and post your question in the forums.

    Second answer to this question. Sexuality is fluid. However, it is important to maintain physical contact with both genders whether not your libido is turned on. People need to be touched, held, and loved. As children, we were picked up and held by mother and father. We were watched over by mother and father. Mother and father brought us food to eat. Be grateful to both sexes with kindness.
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    Nov 12, 2011 3:07 PM GMT
    Yup. Turn in your gay card on your way out.



    ...
    (kidding)


    Yeah, some females will turn my head every now and then.
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    Nov 12, 2011 3:10 PM GMT
    I think ppl should just disregard over-simplified labels when they prove to be insufficiency. Unashamedly go with whatever sex/types you are into at this or any other point if you really want it. All desires, to a certain degree, are likely to vary with time anyway.

    Nothing is forever static, including certain sexual proclivities/fantasies, for most people.
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    Nov 12, 2011 3:23 PM GMT
    I think this was first described in the novel Maurice when the protagonist's lover was nursed back to health by a woman.
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    Nov 12, 2011 3:24 PM GMT
    "Bi thoughts out of nowhere...has this happened to you?"

    Nope, and ditto for Bill.

    -Doug

    PS See this?
    shades.jpg

    Let's say the black end is straight and the white end is gay. Everything in between are the various shades of gray that represent bi. You can be very near the gay end of things or very near the straight end of things. Bi apparently is not very often an even 50/50 split in equal attraction to both genders.

    Does it bother you to be attracted to both sexes?
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    Nov 12, 2011 3:39 PM GMT
    ummmm.....NO icon_exclaim.gif




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    Nov 12, 2011 3:41 PM GMT
    travelfan saidHey guys, maybe I'm over-reacting, but I've had something weird happen the last two weeks or so. In the past I'd look at even the most "hot" naked women and be left cold, and like many gay men (I suspect) I even spent a significant part of my life trying to force myself or condition myself to be turned on by women. No dice. Now I'm out to everybody, all my family and friends accept me, I'm happy, going on dates, etc.

    In the past two weeks, however, for the first time in my life I've gotten a boner thinking about women. It started out as curiosity, but has gotten a little more intense. I've gotten hard (rock hard) by watching straight porn (no men in any of the porn videos, one was a blonde taking a shower and then some lesbian stuff), I've masturbated to straight scenarios a couple times (the shower video, the idea of taking a good girl and making her into a slut, a hot girl in boots getting railed, etc). Over the past two weeks I've had practically zero visual stimulation from men, and in fact I've caught myself checking out girls on the street instead. A couple days ago a female co-worker walked by my window in a short skirt and boots and I was so mesmerized by watching her that I literally stopped talking in a conversation on the phone...it was like a bad romantic comedy complete with a "Hello?" on the other line.

    I still think I'm gay, but this is really confusing me. Have any of you ever had a phase where women made you horny? Why is this happening now at 24?




    hey thats means you are straight.....lets forget that you are gay , bi or whatever you are.......just enjoy yourself being straight.




    congratulation.
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    Nov 12, 2011 3:51 PM GMT
    Strange ... maybe u r bored .. lol , however before i am really out to myself .. i was watching Straight porn n those stuff .. but when i convinced myself that am not really into it and since i was like watching the man more than the woman. then i tried the gay one .. and felt like wow , love it ...

    And thats why ... lots of straight men .. when they try gay porn .. they start liking it more than straight one ( as they say .. they r feeling more comfortable with men than women ..)

    but i didn't hear about, if a gay guy change from gay to straight .. idk .. maybe u weren't gay at all ? and u liked to try ? or u were into an emotional situation where u needed a man in ur life .. and once u became adult enough , u didn't need to feel that anymore ..

    ( as i saw in some TV program about why men become gay : they were saying several reasons and one of them ... if u miss the dad part into ur life ... these feelings grow up with u .. so when u r adult u feel u need a man into ur life not a woman .. maybe that happened with u ..)

    Even though its a chance for u to turn back , if that possible ..., to have family and kids .. the normal life as they call it lol
  • tuffguyndc

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    Nov 12, 2011 3:54 PM GMT
    well maybe you are bi.
  • alphatop

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    Nov 12, 2011 3:54 PM GMT
    Happened to me. Just go with the flow, sexuality is liquid.icon_cool.gif
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    Nov 12, 2011 3:56 PM GMT
    Same here.

    When college age girls flirt with me...clothes on young single women are scandalous...so I occasionally get a hard on thinking about shoving my cock between their firm, tight breasts....then start feeling their ultra smooth legs and puckery lips... But then my thoughts trail to what her BROTHER must be like. icon_razz.gif

    So there is a little bisexuality in most of us. Its perfectly normal.
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    Nov 12, 2011 4:36 PM GMT
    Yeah, has been going on with me for months now. I have really started liking lesbian porn, and find myself aroused by a naked aroused woman.

    I say go with it. I am all about the James Dean school of thought: “Well, I'm certainly not going through life with one hand tied behind my back”
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    Nov 12, 2011 4:37 PM GMT





    As a person who is BI, I never got into a "phase"... More or less I'm just attracted to the person... however, this past two years I've been more interested in guys lately... Maybe because I haven't found any quality women to be interested in.
  • SirEllingtonB...

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    Nov 12, 2011 4:38 PM GMT
    this is why we can't have nice things.
  • calibro

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    Nov 12, 2011 4:46 PM GMT
    i regularly watch straight porn. i will say there's a different between the women in the vids and the women in real for me in terms of my attraction to them.
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    Nov 12, 2011 4:46 PM GMT
    Quick, Seek Therapy!
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    Nov 12, 2011 4:48 PM GMT
    Yes, sometimes it still happens to me. I've been with women in my younger years and I got off in showing a hot, sophisticated, great looking woman a nice time. It made me feel valuable, powerful and desired - when I saw and heard them get excited & go out of their minds because of ME, and things I was doing to them. I think I was seeking appreciation.

    Sometimes to this day, if I see a hot woman in the office or downtown - maybe at the gym - I get a little feeling of wondering what I could do to make her night come alive. I get this feeling especially if the woman is looking at me, standing very close, sizing me up, or flirting a bit. God, some of them smell so great and are truly beautiful. I think about the old days - but not very often, because to keep it up and finish the job, I have to imagine I'm doing a guy.

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    Nov 12, 2011 4:49 PM GMT
    theantijock saidQuick, Seek Therapy!



    Oh gads; that made me laugh!

    -Doug
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    Nov 12, 2011 4:55 PM GMT
    travelfan saidA couple days ago a female co-worker walked by my window in a short skirt and boots and I was so mesmerized by watching her that I literally stopped talking in a conversation on the phone...


    It's time to delete your RJ profile. Enjoy your wife, the 2.5 kids and the dog!
  • wellwell

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    Nov 12, 2011 5:17 PM GMT
    You know what Gomer said . . . ?

    "Surprise Surprise Surprise"


    Then, decades later Huel said:

    "Ain't That Uhmayyyzing?"


    But the thought of those two, together, makes for yet-another recipe for heterosexuality.
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    Nov 12, 2011 5:20 PM GMT
    Seriously, why even mention this. This is no big deal. Don't sweat it. LOL.
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    Nov 12, 2011 5:26 PM GMT
    Its happened to me before... still does once in a while.. that a girl will touch me, I will feel aroused.. or I will see a girl and just get blown away somehow... they aer the fairer sex after all.. the ones that are both beautiful and ooze a certain sensuality especially can do that with me... Ive once seen a girl and thought "DAMN, I wish she had my babies" too...

    Yes, Im still gay... Ive never fallen madly in love with a woman.. yet I crush on guys and obsess about em daily
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    Nov 12, 2011 5:29 PM GMT
    I went through a lesbian porn phase for about a month. It was literally the only thing that would get me off - and I'd see women on the street and picture them doing all that, and it got me all hot and bothered. And the oddest part? I had been out of the closet for a few years already.

    It still tickles my fancy every once in a while, but even throughout that phase, I still knew I was gay. I just also knew that my sexuality isn't black and white, and there's no use trying to stick to one or the other. Go with what feels right, you know?
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    Nov 12, 2011 5:33 PM GMT
    There's this one girl at work I have a crush on... She called mr handsome the other day, I died icon_redface.gif