Bowyn_Aerrow saidI personally would never, ever ever give out my address (nor my phone number for that matter) to a perfect stranger.
I have met people (not for sex) who I met on line, and always we agreed to meet in a public, neutral place. We got to know one another through a couple three face to face meetings FIRST before I allowed them to know where I live.
Perhaps you should arrange a 'first face to face' meeting in a neutral place, meet them first with the understanding that there is no certainty of going home with you.
I would assume that you would be less prone to follow through if it meant getting into the truck/car and driving home with them following than having them standing at your door.
You pretty much describe my online dating/tricking protocol when I was single. Plus I usually would speak with them on the phone first, with my caller ID blocked, since a voice can tell me a great deal, too.
Clearly our OPs problem is not his looks, but his location, that leads him to break his own rule. Have you checked his place on a map? He's way out on the Upper Peninsula. The guys who do arrive at his door have come by either snowmobile or dog sled! (Actually I did used to go on dates with one BF on our snowmobiles -- it really does happen)
So I don't know what to suggest, when the pickings are that slim. Not a lot of choices.