So many gay men want relationships.

  • masculumpedes

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    Nov 13, 2011 3:08 AM GMT
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    I know this has been posted before. So many gay men want relationships..or at least say that they do....so, what's stopping them from actually having one? icon_confused.gif
  • commoncoll

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    Nov 13, 2011 3:13 AM GMT
    They themselves are not ready to put somebody else's needs above their own.

    Add that to how few gay men there are, then this is what you get.
  • masculumpedes

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    Nov 13, 2011 3:18 AM GMT
    commoncoll saidThey themselves are not ready to put somebody else's needs above their own.

    Add that to how few gay men there are, then this is what you get.


    What you say makes sense in the way that " everyone wants to be first" and it's me..me..me....except for the idea that there are "few gay men". I will readily admit that there are few gay men who actually appeal to me, but I've never had problems finding someone to start a relationship with whenever I've wanted one. icon_wink.gif
  • masculumpedes

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    Nov 13, 2011 3:30 AM GMT
    In addition: I started dating back during the "pre-internet" days when it was a little harder to meet guys. You actually had to get off your ass and go out to different places and interact with other guys.
    There were the bars and clubs of course, but also the taverns and restaurants where you could catch another guy's eye or he could catch yours. icon_cool.gif

  • commoncoll

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    Nov 13, 2011 3:34 AM GMT
    What you say is true.

    But statistically speaking, 7-8 men out of 100 will be men who have sex with men.

    When you multiply this across thousands of miles, you have thousands of people who are unable to find someone they can form an affinity to for various reasons-primary reason given above, but also due to location and cultural differences across different geographic regions and other reasons named in the many real jock topics dedicated to this phenomena.

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    Nov 13, 2011 5:48 AM GMT
    It seems like the biggest roadblock is just meeting other guys who also want a relationship. So many guys at bars and clubs just want a quick hookup, or at least that's the stereotype. That's why there are so many dating sites right now. It's all about making a connection with someone who wants the same things out of life as you.
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    Nov 13, 2011 5:51 AM GMT
    You have to find the right person to be in a relationship with, duh.
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    Nov 13, 2011 6:29 AM GMT
    I think one of the main problems for gay relationships is that there is always some sort of competition even between partners, guys with big egos clash and no one is man enough to work things out icon_sad.gif
  • Bowyn_Aerrow

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    Nov 13, 2011 6:58 AM GMT
    Gay men are 'freed' from the responsibility of getting married, having kids, settling down. As such they are 'free' to be more picky, none of that biological clock noise, no parents pushing them to have babies/make babies.

    Try as they might, there is not the overpowering need to marry when someone gets pregnant, pregnancy doesn't happen to men... yet....

    The Gay part of the LGBT community has been brainwashed over the generations to believe that gay men don't really love, that they are innately unable to have monogamous relationships, that all they do well is promiscuity and perpetual one night stands. That programming still runs deep in the community. It doesn't matter if two gay men wear rings to signify their spiritual commitment, as long as the state doesn't acknowledge their commitment (marriage) no one actually believes that that ring really means anything.

    I still - STILL get gay males approaching me, I wear a ring and even say 'I have a domestic partner of nearly 15 years' and they are like 'So what, its only a domestic partnership.... lets play a game.' We are not talking cards.

    Young/newly entering the scene gay men enter with high expectations, a dreamy look in their eye as they dream of a night in shining armor and love ever after. The fricking Jaded Queens see the look and they pounce on the pray and promote the same tired myths that 'Gay men don't do monogamy' 'gay men really can't love' 'Go now child, your new fairy god mother absolves you of all sin, go and fuck like a bunny.'

    I have been on many gay forums, and enviably there are those who say the same tired old things to newbies who come in. Even the Christian Forums for Gay Christians, the same lies are told. icon_rolleyes.gif





  • masculumpedes

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    Nov 13, 2011 7:26 AM GMT
    Anduru saidYou have to find the right person to be in a relationship with, duh.


    The United States entered 2011 with a population of more than 310.5 million people, according to a U.S. Census Bureau estimate. Alfred Kinsey shocked the world by announcing that 10% of the male population is gay. So...what's the problem with finding the right person? icon_wink.gif
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    Nov 13, 2011 7:38 AM GMT
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    Anduru saidYou have to find the right person to be in a relationship with, duh.


    The United States entered 2011 with a population of more than 310.5 million people, according to a U.S. Census Bureau estimate. Alfred Kinsey shocked the world by announcing that 10% of the male population is gay. So...what's the problem with finding the right person? icon_wink.gif
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    Nov 13, 2011 7:53 AM GMT
    malefeet said
    commoncoll saidThey themselves are not ready to put somebody else's needs above their own.

    Add that to how few gay men there are, then this is what you get.


    What you say makes sense in the way that " everyone wants to be first" and it's me..me..me....except for the idea that there are "few gay men". I will readily admit that there are few gay men who actually appeal to me, but I've never had problems finding someone to start a relationship with whenever I've wanted one. icon_wink.gif


    Why on earth would you want to be in a relationship with someone who doesnt appeal to you?

    I would love to be in a relationship. But I'm not gonna be in one just for the sake of being with someone. Finding guys who want relationship is easy. Finding guys who appeal to you who wants the same thing, is much much harder.
  • masculumpedes

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    Nov 13, 2011 7:56 AM GMT
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    Why on earth would you want to be in a relationship with someone who doesn't appeal to you?


    I wouldn't and I don't...lol.....you must have misunderstood my meaning. It's all good, it's probably my southern accent. icon_wink.gif

    I was trying to say that even though very few men actually appeal to me....I have always found a great guy to have a relationship with. icon_cool.gif
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    Nov 13, 2011 9:29 AM GMT
    There is no such thing as "the right guy". Many would be right for you in some way or another. They all have flaws, as you have them also. If you will be able to love him for what is good and not hate him for what is wrong, then you will have a happy relationship.
    There is no such thing as a perfect guy.
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    Nov 13, 2011 10:05 AM GMT
    commoncoll saidThey themselves are not ready to put somebody else's needs above their own.

    Add that to how few gay men there are, then this is what you get.


    Then when you separate the bi's from the bona fide gays, this may make us seem even smaller, but we don't have to be insecure about it, and play the victom. Many gay and bi men always keep that one eye open for the next best root to cum along, so it's not really love they seek.LTR. Lust, youth, people half their age; little love in that too; someone who will look good on their arm.
  • masculumpedes

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    Nov 13, 2011 10:13 AM GMT
    pattison said Many gay and bi men always keep that one eye open for the next best root to cum along, so it's not really love they seek.LTR. Lust, youth, people half their age; little love in that too; someone who will look good on their arm.


    Wow...very well said! icon_wink.gif
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    Nov 13, 2011 11:58 AM GMT
    Uhm maybe it's not that easy for some guys to meet other gays.
    That's the reason for me.
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    Nov 13, 2011 1:17 PM GMT
    I'd like to try to again someday...
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    Nov 13, 2011 4:48 PM GMT
    I dont understand why guys feel the need to fuck with everything that walks, maybe I'm just weird icon_neutral.gif
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    Nov 13, 2011 4:50 PM GMT
    Busy with real life .. and its complicated here !
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    Nov 13, 2011 4:54 PM GMT
    they cant find the guy who looks the way they want.
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    Nov 13, 2011 4:57 PM GMT
    because they have issues. oh man, some guys have isssueeesssss.

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    Nov 13, 2011 5:04 PM GMT
    yep true, this is my new trick lol, we all have one mayor flaw, no one is perfect irght? so once I find the mayor flaw I ask myself can I deal with this flaw, Does it bother me that much? if it doesn't it's a keeper icon_smile.gif what u guys think?
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    Nov 13, 2011 5:12 PM GMT
    They are too busy filling their minds with "all the single ladies" and "caught in a bad romance", ergo their life becomes one of being a single lady caught in a bad romance.
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    Nov 13, 2011 5:19 PM GMT
    commoncoll saidWhat you say is true.

    But statistically speaking, 7-8 men out of 100 will be men who have sex with men.

    When you multiply this across thousands of miles, you have thousands of people who are unable to find someone they can form an affinity to for various reasons-primary reason given above, but also due to location and cultural differences across different geographic regions and other reasons named in the many real jock topics dedicated to this phenomena.



    This.