he broke up with me and wants me back

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    Nov 13, 2011 2:43 PM GMT
    my ex broke up with me1 month ago because he said it didn't work.i wasn't a good bf.we had lots of dramas and we didn't talk to each other well. i was trying so hard to prove him i wanted to save our relationship and work it out but in the end he said he was tired and didn't want me anymore.the last time i saw him was after we had our breakup.i wanted to see him so i came to his house but he told me he wanted to fuck me but not be in a relationship with me but at the end we had sex and it was weird.

    a week ago he texted me asking if im doing well and he said he is sorry for what he did, he treated me badly and he hoped i could forgive him.

    i didnt reply and lastnight he kept calling and texting me while i was sleeping he said he wanted me in his life and he really love me and wanted me back. he said it was the biggest mistake to break up with me and he couldn't live with himself.he said he will wait until i want to talk to him. he also said he didnt care even if i was dating someone else.

    what should i do?i am so confused by his act cos he is the one who broke up with me seriously wtf?

    btw he is British and im Chinese.
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    Nov 13, 2011 2:46 PM GMT
    Don't do it...you'll be sorry.
    To quote my friend Karen Garrison: "Only way I can describe it is that it's like taking a bite out of the same turd twice."
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    Nov 13, 2011 2:48 PM GMT
    I wouldn't do it personally. Just tell him you want to move on
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    Nov 13, 2011 3:00 PM GMT
    Psh. Dude, don't fall for his pity party; MOVE ON!
  • HndsmKansan

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    Nov 13, 2011 3:04 PM GMT
    He probably is just all hot and bothered and just wanted to screw you.
    lol

    Its all about communication. You don't have a relationship unless you communicate. If my partner ever said "he didn't want me".... he'd be gone, thats a ridiculous comment. You both need to be on the same page before you do anything else and it sounds like you aren't even in the same "book" at this moment.
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    Nov 13, 2011 3:12 PM GMT
    Do nothing...slowly walk away and continue your recovery from being treated so badly...
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    Nov 13, 2011 3:13 PM GMT
    I agree with Sahem.

    I was always told by my folks to remember that you made that choice for a reason. You gave it proper thought and attention when it happened so don't let time erase that. We so easily think of only the good times or happy bits. Just trust yourself and your reasons for the initial break-up and believe in your decision to end it.
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    Nov 13, 2011 3:18 PM GMT
    dbf4543 saidI agree with Sahem.

    I was always told by my folks to remember that you made that choice for a reason. You gave it proper thought and attention when it happened so don't let time erase that. We so easily think of only the good times or happy bits. Just trust yourself and your reasons for the initial break-up and believe in your decision to end it.


    Hit the nail on the head here!
  • tuffguyndc

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    Nov 13, 2011 3:32 PM GMT
    actually, this is a tough one buddy. my rule of thumb is that you never go back once it ends. i always feel we broke up for reason and whatever that reason was it was a good enough reason for it to in. listen, at the end of the day no matter what others say the choice will be yours to make. i say make list of pros and cons. which ever has the most will give you your answer.
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    Nov 13, 2011 3:49 PM GMT
    hoggard saidwhat should i do?i am so confused by his act cos he is the one who broke up with me seriously wtf?

    btw he is British and im Chinese.

    First, I can't address differences in nationalities. They mean a lot to some, they mean little to me. Except as a matter of cultural differences, the things that may influence whether you do or do not find compatibility and get along.

    I once had a BF who broke up with me about once a month, sometimes more often. He never wanted to see or speak to me again, he hated me, etc, etc. A week or so later he was at my door, telling me how wrong he was, he really did love me. And this cycle went on for a year.

    Finally I accepted the offer of another guy who'd been on the sidelines, waiting for all this drama to end. And when I did, the old BF went nuts, said I had betrayed him, on and on. I told him I couldn't handle his rejecting me a least once a month. I had never rejected him, he rejected me. Some gay guys are like that, all about them. I can only play the yo-yo game for so long.

    Later he tried to break my new love & me up (but failed). Beware of that from your guy, who may be cut from the same cloth. I don't understand it, I can't explain it. All I can report is what I went through. Others here may attempt to analyze it, but I can't. Just beware of the Break-Up Queen.
  • TheAlchemixt

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    Nov 13, 2011 3:53 PM GMT
    Don't do it!
  • rnch

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    Nov 13, 2011 3:58 PM GMT
    HndsmKansan saidHe probably is just all hot and bothered and just wanted to screw you....




    yes, my first thought after reading the OP's first post.


    remember: "your ex IS your ex for a reason".



    hoggard, it sounds to me like you deserve better than this horny guy.
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    Nov 13, 2011 4:06 PM GMT
    Don't bother, he had his chance n obviously didn't want you then. Focus on the guy you're seeing, give him a chance.

    Talking from experience *sigh*,: good luck though.
  • rnch

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    Nov 13, 2011 4:10 PM GMT
    [quote][cite]Art_Deco said... Some gay guys are like that, all about them... Just beware of the Break-Up Queen.[/quote]



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    Nov 13, 2011 4:13 PM GMT
    Let him beg 1st .. then think about it .. xD
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    Nov 13, 2011 4:14 PM GMT
    tell him that you cheated on him while you were together, pause for a few seconds, then tell him he should go get tested and then say "im so sorry [his name]" and hang up and don't pick up when he tries to call you back.

    Let him panic for a few days then call him back and say "JK JK LOLZ. GOTCHA!"

    He'll sure as hell leave you alone after that.
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    Nov 13, 2011 4:26 PM GMT
    AvadaKedavra saidtell him that you cheated on him while you were together, pause for a few seconds, then tell him he should go get tested and then say "im so sorry [his name]" and hang up and don't pick up when he tries to call you back.

    Let him panic for a few days then call him back and say "JK JK LOLZ. GOTCHA!"

    He'll sure as hell leave you alone after that.


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    Nov 13, 2011 4:31 PM GMT
    RUN... not walk away.
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    Nov 13, 2011 4:33 PM GMT
    BlackCat90 said
    AvadaKedavra saidtell him that you cheated on him while you were together, pause for a few seconds, then tell him he should go get tested and then say "im so sorry [his name]" and hang up and don't pick up when he tries to call you back.

    Let him panic for a few days then call him back and say "JK JK LOLZ. GOTCHA!"

    He'll sure as hell leave you alone after that.


    You are SOO evil......I LOVE IT icon_twisted.gif hahahahaaha icon_lol.gificon_lol.gif


    i love it as well guess i am doing it tonight lol
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    Nov 13, 2011 4:34 PM GMT
    sahem62896 saidDon't do it...you'll be sorry.
    To quote my friend Karen Garrison: "Only way I can describe it is that it's like taking a bite out of the same turd twice."


    Where's that "like" button.
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    Nov 13, 2011 4:37 PM GMT
    Well you are dating someone and so moving on with your life. Assert yourself strongly to him on that point. If he still wants to wait for you then goo but he will have to show you that he is worth your time again. Right now he might be saying all this because you are dating and he is not.
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    Nov 13, 2011 4:39 PM GMT
    AvadaKedavra saidtell him that you cheated on him while you were together, pause for a few seconds, then tell him he should go get tested and then say "im so sorry [his name]" and hang up and don't pick up when he tries to call you back.

    Let him panic for a few days then call him back and say "JK JK LOLZ. GOTCHA!"

    He'll sure as hell leave you alone after that.


    Please do this. icon_smile.gif
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    Nov 13, 2011 4:47 PM GMT
    running11 said
    AvadaKedavra saidtell him that you cheated on him while you were together, pause for a few seconds, then tell him he should go get tested and then say "im so sorry [his name]" and hang up and don't pick up when he tries to call you back.

    Let him panic for a few days then call him back and say "JK JK LOLZ. GOTCHA!"

    He'll sure as hell leave you alone after that.


    Please do this. icon_smile.gif


    No, please DON'T do this. The guy deserves zero attention of any kind, though revenge fantasies are sweet.

    "Fooled me once, shame on you; fooled me twice, shame on me."
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    Nov 13, 2011 5:04 PM GMT
    MuslNorganLikr said
    running11 said
    AvadaKedavra saidtell him that you cheated on him while you were together, pause for a few seconds, then tell him he should go get tested and then say "im so sorry [his name]" and hang up and don't pick up when he tries to call you back.

    Let him panic for a few days then call him back and say "JK JK LOLZ. GOTCHA!"

    He'll sure as hell leave you alone after that.


    Please do this. icon_smile.gif


    No, please DON'T do this. The guy deserves zero attention of any kind, though revenge fantasies are sweet.

    "Fooled me once, shame on you; fooled me twice, shame on me."


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    Nov 13, 2011 5:15 PM GMT
    The past is dead dude, the past is dead.