Help with His Ex

  • beauman1

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    Nov 15, 2011 2:19 AM GMT
    I started seeing an amazing guy a couple weeks ago and we are very into each other. We hang out every night, talk/text during the day and have been introducing each other to our friends.

    However, the problem comes with his ex-boyfriend that he only broke up with 2 weeks before we met. They lived together for 2 1/2 years and since they broke up his ex has been sleeping on the couch in the living room.

    I was told he needs to smooth things over with his ex before he wants to officially start dating, but he did agree to be exclusive. Most nights we stay at my place, but in the last week he has brought me to stay at his place, which he owns. Obviously this makes his ex very uncomfortable and suspects we are 'an item.' He treated to move out, but financially it likely isn't possible right now.

    He has had discussions with him and always tells me how they went and he said he's about half way to the point of getting him to understand. His considerations for his ex are very admirable considering he found out he was cheating on him since they started dating. I was just wondering if their was any advice I can give him or for me to be more supportive of his situation or to help him speed things along. He seems very stressed lately.
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    Nov 15, 2011 7:34 AM GMT
    Well... that's pretty intense. I really don't know what to say. It's a chance that things could work out for you both. I would give a shot but don't put all your eggs in the basket so to speak you know? good luck with that. icon_confused.gif
  • AntiHer017

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    Nov 15, 2011 7:43 AM GMT
    Ryan_Andrew saidWell... that's pretty intense. I really don't know what to say. It's a chance that things could work out for you both. I would give a shot but don't put all your eggs in the basket so to speak you know? good luck with that. icon_confused.gif


    AGREED
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    Nov 15, 2011 7:59 AM GMT
    Watch out...they are not done.
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    Nov 15, 2011 8:08 AM GMT
    Felicidado saidWatch out...they are not done.


    Been there, but actually in the ex's situation. Be careful. Not only can he be looking for a little rebound action, but if the ex is right there (possibly an emotional wreck who feels trapped and just wants to GTFO) who knows what can happen - especially if you are unavailable.

    Worst-case scenario though.
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    Nov 15, 2011 10:35 PM GMT
    hunny, your the rebound
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    Nov 15, 2011 10:41 PM GMT
    lilTanker saidhunny, your the rebound


    Yup, sorry to say. Lived with his bf for 2.5 years, broke up just 2 weeks ago, and still living with him? This ain't gonna last even if he stays broken up with his bf. Drama will ensue even if you don't want it to. I would have very low expectations.
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    Nov 15, 2011 10:42 PM GMT
    2 weeks?

    Dear god.

    Run.





  • Hokenshi

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    Nov 15, 2011 10:43 PM GMT
    Broken up 2 weeks after being together for 2 1/2 years, he meets you and decides he is going to try a new relationship...once he's sorted his ex...

    Sounds to be like he's hedging his bets, you might be the one he chooses, but after 2 1/2 years you can't just "end" a relationship, especially if you ex still lives with you. There must still be a lot of good feelings between them.

    Give the guy plenty of time, a little bit of distance when he needs it and be prepared for both outcomes - good and bad.
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    Nov 15, 2011 10:57 PM GMT
    OP must be fucking desperate to put up with that shit. icon_lol.gif
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    Nov 15, 2011 10:58 PM GMT
    beauman1 said
    Most nights we stay at my place, but in the last week he has brought me to stay at his place, which he owns. Obviously this makes his ex very uncomfortable and suspects we are 'an item.'


    Your new beau stays with you....then you go "hang" over there.... and the ex SUSPECTS you guys are "an item" ??
    ....You're kidding, right.... icon_rolleyes.gif