My first time a guy

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    Jun 02, 2008 5:08 AM GMT
    Hey! Today I had my first experience with a guy and I hated it!! icon_confused.gif The guy was really good looking but I did not enjoy anything about it.

    I thought I was bisexual but now I wonder.. I might be straight after allicon_eek.gif


    Is it normal to hate everything about sex with a boy the first timeicon_question.gificon_question.gificon_question.gif
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    Jun 02, 2008 7:19 AM GMT
    Going to have to be a lot more specific before anyone can answer relevantly.
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    Jun 02, 2008 10:50 AM GMT
    I must admit you don't give us much to go on in terms of what you did not like. Maybe the guy was a jerk and did not make you feel comfortable. It could be there was just not any chemistry between the two of you. Just because the guy is really sexy does not mean everything will turn out well.

    There must be some reason why you thought you were bisexual. Was it just idle curiousity or were you fantasizing about having sex with a guy for a long time? Were you fantasizing about sex and developing crushes on guys?

    Despite this bad experience, the next time you see a cute guy walking down the street and you glance at him with lust in your eyes and heart then you are likely not straight!
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    Jun 02, 2008 12:26 PM GMT
    If it was a mere hookup... what did you expect? icon_razz.gif

    If you did anal and you didn't like it, you might be a top. icon_razz.gif Or you just need to follow zim's wondrous tips on being a good bottom somewhere in this forum. LOL
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    Jun 02, 2008 1:03 PM GMT
    Wysiwyg60 said Just because the guy is really sexy does not mean everything will turn out well.

    Same goes for my hotlist selection! icon_lol.gif
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    Jun 02, 2008 1:58 PM GMT
    Maybe you should ask Travv's bf if you can borrow him for a test drive...LOL!

    In all seriousness, maybe you should start out a little slower (maybe just making out with someone you like, for example?!) than full on....well, whatever it is you did.
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    Jun 02, 2008 2:38 PM GMT
    It was one experiance. Have all your experiances with women gone well? I know mine didnt. All my guy experiances havent been the best but I still knew I was gay. Give it another shot. What exactly did you not like about it? What did you do?
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    Jun 02, 2008 7:38 PM GMT
    I have to pretty much agree with everyone who has replied. You need to be a little more specific about what it is you didn't like. The first THREE guys I slept with I was like, "What the hell is so special about this shit!" There were no fireworks or electric current rushing through my body.

    Then I met John and that all changed! Sex is ALWAYS better when there is so connection deeper than just how hot he looks naked.
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    Jun 03, 2008 2:15 AM GMT
    Ok.. I feel so whorish to write that but I did anal for the first time (bottom). Also, he rimmed me and gave me a handjob....

    Anal sex did not hurt or anything.. It was just boring.... everything was so boringicon_sad.gif

    We did it in his SUV and we almost got caught twice..lol..

    And yes it was a hook up but I've been chatting with the guy for like a month before...


    To Gigaram:
    Yes I wanna borrow Travv.. hes the cutest thing EVER! lol... But I'm gonna stop before he thinks im stalking him...icon_lol.gif


    I like Gay porn a lot... but maybe real gay sex is just not for me...icon_confused.gif


  • MikemikeMike

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    Jun 03, 2008 4:23 AM GMT
    frigg how small was he??? Your first time it didn't hurt at all??? WTF. Maybe he's just a lousy lover??
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    Jun 03, 2008 5:02 AM GMT
    Well it hurt a little bit at the beginning but then it was alright... and he had a big dick (Id say about 7.5 inches)... we put a lot of lube (I was tight, lol)...

    I cant believe im writing about that..lol.. Im usually such a private person.. I guess I dont mind cus theres plenty of whores on this website icon_lol.gif (no offense to anyone)
  • MikemikeMike

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    Jun 03, 2008 5:18 AM GMT
    Did u just say whore...hahahaha

    Well I'm about the same size in the pants and thick, and if not taken I'd make you wider and wizer. Well maybe you are a top like me. Or bi or neither. I think you'll figure it out.
  • MikemikeMike

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    Jun 03, 2008 5:20 AM GMT
    OMG I just looked at your profile/age. I recant my false offer. God you're 18. Nuff said.
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    Jun 03, 2008 6:23 AM GMT
    MikemikeMike saidOMG I just looked at your profile/age. I recant my false offer. God you're 18. Nuff said.



    Lol!... im not into older guys anywayicon_lol.gif... well the real question is am I into guysicon_question.gif lol
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    Jun 03, 2008 6:58 AM GMT
    The real question is what were your expectations for your first time? Did he meet your expectations and did you get what you wanted? Are you a bottom?

    I would say explore the gay community a bit more, see what you like. Try making out first, if they can't turn you on while making out how is that going to change if your naked. Also could it have been the place you were having sex, one my ex loved sex in public, I really couldn't get into it that much.

    Was it your first time having sex period, sometimes we place expectations on an experience and what comes through isn't what we expected. If you like guys though, feel free to like them, if you don't than find what does.

    Some people just don't enjoy being a bottom, its just not in them. Don't let it get you down.

    Also no one really has a first good time, I regret my first time and didn't actually have that amazing sex experience till about the 8 time.
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    Jun 03, 2008 7:08 AM GMT
    Just get drunk and pretend it never happened. icon_razz.gif
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    Jun 04, 2008 2:17 AM GMT
    An Rjer once said to me," You don't have to have anal sex to be gay." And that's exactly it. There's no constituency that says if you like guys you also have to do the butt nasty as well. Try other forms of sexual contact and see if you can't figure your feelings out, eh?
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    Jun 04, 2008 3:36 AM GMT
    Dude, I went through the same thing! I did not like my first sexual experience at all. I met up with this random kid, we made out in my room, and i was so nervous I couldnt even fucking get it up icon_lol.gif

    So since i was soft, I started giving him head,then i flipped him over and ate his ass (which was actually pretty sexy)until he said "let me do you", flipped me over, and then said "nevermind, you're too hairy"... icon_mad.gificon_mad.gificon_mad.gif What the fuck!

    So then he tried to fuck me, but he was half soft by the time he got the condom on, and i was a virgin, so he couldnt get it in, and he ended up just fucking my face and leaving (which was actually the only part I really like icon_twisted.gif ).

    BUUUUUUUT he later apologized, we fooled around again a few times, and then we finally fucked (my first time, his with a guy) and it was fucking awesome! He had be growling like a fucking bear, man (tee hee icon_biggrin.gif )

    So moral of the story: it will get better. A lot better. A whole fucking lot better. You just gotta be comfortable, in a better fucking enviorment than a jeep, and with someone you're close to.

    Give it a few more tries. I used to think I was bi too, but girls just dont do it for me, and I love fucking guys, using a dildo, eating cum, etc. icon_razz.gif
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    Jun 04, 2008 5:46 AM GMT
    BearCub17 said Give it a few more tries. I used to think I was bi too, but girls just dont do it for me, and I love fucking guys, using a dildo, eating cum, etc. icon_razz.gif


    Well I've done it with girls and I liked it!... anyway tonight I did it again and it was a little better but then again.. a little boring... I looked at the Kinsey scale and I think I'm a number 2 maybe 3.

    You know, it seems to be really easy for some of you guys cause you've always known you were gay... not me.... I started to really like watching gay porn and then I made the assumption that I was Bi. At first I was attracted to girls only....

    I know im not gay... and since I had sex with guys I can't say I'm totaly straighticon_rolleyes.gificon_wink.gif.. soicon_question.gif
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    Jun 04, 2008 7:13 AM GMT
    Why are you so insistent on putting a label on your sexual attraction? Be whatever the fuck you want to be. If you find a hot guy that your attracted to go for it, if you don't find an attractive girl. Hell have a threesome, youd be amazed at how amny girls want to guys at the same time, but only if their willing to do stuff each other as well. One of my hottest nights was me sucking off a buddy while he was carpet munching. Everybody was happy that night.
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    Jun 04, 2008 1:59 PM GMT
    Do whatever you feel is comfortable. If you think having sex with girls is nicer then do so.
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    Jun 04, 2008 4:40 PM GMT
    lol dam your first gay experience is almost as bad as mine. My guy was cute and everything but he wasn't very nice person icon_sad.gif a short bj then alot of jerking no kissing no nothing icon_sad.gificon_redface.gificon_neutral.gif
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    Jun 04, 2008 9:06 PM GMT
    wizer1989 said

    Ok.. I feel so whorish to write that but I did anal for the first time (bottom). Also, he rimmed me and gave me a handjob....

    Anal sex did not hurt or anything.. It was just boring.... everything was so boringicon_sad.gif

    We did it in his SUV and we almost got caught twice..lol..

    And yes it was a hook up but I've been chatting with the guy for like a month before...


    To Gigaram:
    Yes I wanna borrow Travv.. hes the cutest thing EVER! lol... But I'm gonna stop before he thinks im stalking him...icon_lol.gif


    I like Gay porn a lot... but maybe real gay sex is just not for me...icon_confused.gif[quote]

    If you like gay porn then you will undoubtedly like gay sex, this guy might not have done it for you though. Also, if you were in a SUV and you were worried about being caught, that might have impacted on your experience.

    Next time try a nice romantic evening followed by some quality time in a private spot (e.g. a bedroom) where you can engage in foreplay then sex. Also you maybe the kind of guy that needs to have feelings for the guy before you really enjoy the sex. Men are not all the same when it comes to sexual behaviour!

    Don't feel bad that your first experience was not fireworks, mine was not either (it was "nice" though).
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    Jun 05, 2008 12:43 AM GMT
    My first time everything was great except the anal sex.

    There's been a guy or two where the whole experience was just....blah. Maybe you're partner was just bad at sex.
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    Jun 05, 2008 12:56 AM GMT
    And maybe it was the fact that it was in a car and you were worried about being busted. I'm sure the body contact was kind of limited.

    How was the kiss?