First time help

  • Fire_Stick

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    Nov 16, 2011 7:09 AM GMT
    I am 28 and have never fooled around with a man but have always wanted to. I never have because I am super nervous about being with a man and being put out there as gay.

    I am looking for a man who is open to explore their sexual side with me at a slow pace and see where it goes. There is no pressure to throw in a porn and get right down to business, if that happens great but if either one feels uncomfortable then that's where it stops.

    The question I have is how do I go about finding good men to help me with this? I have looked at craigslist and it just creeps me out and don't want to bother the people on real dating sites because I am not necessarily looking for a boyfriend but more a person to help me explore who I am.

    Can someone please help me.

    Are there any wed site for people like me?

    Thank you,

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    Nov 16, 2011 12:46 PM GMT
    that is going to be hard to come by since most men by nature are horn dogs. make friends. I had to admit it but i've slept with a few of my gay guy friends when I curious at first and I mean it helped me figure myself out. It dosen't happen now though.
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    Nov 16, 2011 5:39 PM GMT
    Gay men tend to full around with friends. Or at least full around and then become friends later. Most of the time there really is no emotional connection or weirdness unless one guy really likes the other.

    That really didn't answer your question at all. Sorry.icon_eek.gif
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    Nov 16, 2011 5:58 PM GMT
    The hardest thing you can do is admit you want to do this, and then following through, so congrats on getting this far!

    Now you could search through profiles on here and ask guys, but you'd have to have multiple photos and be verified for someone to take the leap. You could use sites such as Adam4Adam or Manhunt and specify in the profile what you said here. You'll be surprised at how many men out there like to help and walk men through these new things. Take your time and see what unfolds. You are in control here, even if it seems like you can't find anyone.

    Good luck!
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    Nov 16, 2011 7:24 PM GMT
    You're in San Diego. There's a huge contingent of gays downthere. Plus there are military bases all over that area. Turn on grindr whenever you're near one and you should get plenty of offers. A lot of military guys are bicurious as well.

    Happy hunting man.
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    Nov 16, 2011 8:06 PM GMT
    Sounds like you need a virgin
  • Suetonius

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    Nov 16, 2011 8:29 PM GMT
    As someone replied to you in July, "you can start by posting pics on your profile."

    You are not likely to find anyone on RJ. Since you became 2 years younger since July, if you could just shave off a few more years to say 22, you might get a better response in the gay website world, assuming your pics looked the part. I would keep looking on Craig's list -. At least up here, there are lots of Craigslist guys looking to play with first-timers. Since you only want a sexual experience, and no attachments, there are guys out there willing to help.. Post your own ad on Craigslist and see what response you get. There are a lot of guys that would like to play with a 10 inch virgin.