Bf says he cant go outta town because of his dog?

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    Nov 17, 2011 6:21 PM GMT
    My bf loves his dog. I myself am a dog lover & have 1 but when ever I mention about us going out of town for 2 or 3 days he says he cant because of his dog.

    His mom & nephew live with him but says he cant depend on them to take care of the dog.

    I admire his dedication & devotion to something but if the occassion arises Id luv to surprise him & take him away for a few days & feel like I cant. Hell half the time he wont even stay all nite with me.

    Kennel is outta the question he says. What do I do? I love this man.
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    Nov 17, 2011 6:32 PM GMT
    Tell him he's being an idiot.


    Find a good kennel that gives them plenty of outside time with other dogs.. the dog will have more fun than you guys do..
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    Nov 17, 2011 6:59 PM GMT
    Or find a reliable professional pet sitter who will come to his home and feed/walk/play with the dog, bring in the mail, etc.

    And if that doesn't work, tell him that you need to be in a relationship with a guy who treats you as more important than his dog.
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    Nov 17, 2011 9:34 PM GMT
    There are pet-friendly hotels and resorts, if he won't go away without the dog, make it a place where he is welcome to bring it. If he still won't at least you'll know that it isn't the real reason he won't go.
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    Nov 17, 2011 9:37 PM GMT
    I don't think the dog is the problem. It's easy enough to find a pet sitter...
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    Nov 17, 2011 9:43 PM GMT
    redbull saidMy bf loves his dog. I myself am a dog lover & have 1 but when ever I mention about us going out of town for 2 or 3 days he says he cant because of his dog.

    His mom & nephew live with him but says he cant depend on them to take care of the dog.

    I admire his dedication & devotion to something but if the occassion arises Id luv to surprise him & take him away for a few days & feel like I cant. Hell half the time he wont even stay all nite with me.

    Kennel is outta the question he says. What do I do? I love this man.

    Tell him to bring the dog with you guys. I went to Key West with my dogs and I stopped at pet friendly hotels on the way down. It really wasn't a problem bringing them at all.
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    Nov 17, 2011 9:45 PM GMT
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    redbull saidMy bf loves his dog. I myself am a dog lover & have 1 but when ever I mention about us going out of town for 2 or 3 days he says he cant because of his dog.

    His mom & nephew live with him but says he cant depend on them to take care of the dog.

    I admire his dedication & devotion to something but if the occassion arises Id luv to surprise him & take him away for a few days & feel like I cant. Hell half the time he wont even stay all nite with me.

    Kennel is outta the question he says. What do I do? I love this man.

    Tell him to bring the dog with you guys. I went to Key West with my dogs and I stopped at pet friendly hotels on the way down. It really wasn't a problem bringing them at all.


    +1

    As I said, there are so many solutions. I don't think the problem is the dog. The red flag was when you said he won't hardly even spend a full night with you. You CAN leave a dog alone for 10-12 hours.
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    Nov 17, 2011 9:49 PM GMT
    Choose a trip that allows you to take the dog(s) with you.

    If he won't bite (your b/f, not the dog), then something's amiss.
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    Nov 17, 2011 9:49 PM GMT
    westanimas said
    joe122 said
    redbull saidMy bf loves his dog. I myself am a dog lover & have 1 but when ever I mention about us going out of town for 2 or 3 days he says he cant because of his dog.

    His mom & nephew live with him but says he cant depend on them to take care of the dog.

    I admire his dedication & devotion to something but if the occassion arises Id luv to surprise him & take him away for a few days & feel like I cant. Hell half the time he wont even stay all nite with me.

    Kennel is outta the question he says. What do I do? I love this man.

    Tell him to bring the dog with you guys. I went to Key West with my dogs and I stopped at pet friendly hotels on the way down. It really wasn't a problem bringing them at all.


    +1

    As I said, there are so many solutions. I don't think the problem is the dog. The red flag was when you said he won't hardly even spend a full night with you. You CAN leave a dog alone for 10-12 hours.


    +1
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    Nov 17, 2011 9:58 PM GMT
    redbull saidKennel is outta the question he says. What do I do?
    Tell him to grow up and realize that owning a dog requires financial responsibility as well as humane responsibility. In other words, tell him to drop a few bucks at the kennel and stop being a boring homebody.
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    Nov 17, 2011 10:24 PM GMT
    If he is concerned about small runs and neglect at a kennel, see if you can find one in your area that will pamper his dog so he would feel better about using it. For example. http://www.kennelclublax.com
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    Nov 17, 2011 10:39 PM GMT
    I partly agree that this is a legitimate excuse. But yet, as someone previously mentioned, a pet sitter is easy to find. I don't like leaving my dog alone or with anyone, but when I go away for the weekend (which isn't too often) a pet-sitter seems to be fine. I would never put my dog in a kennel.
    On the other, if I had a BF and he wanted to go away for a few days, unless we're flying, my dog is coming with us.
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    Nov 17, 2011 10:42 PM GMT
    rent an RV and take the dog camping.
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    Nov 17, 2011 11:03 PM GMT
    Sounds more like a phobia.
    Is he a psychologically sound person? No one really is, but there are medications to suppress our fears and anxieties. Alcohol being the most common.
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    Nov 17, 2011 11:04 PM GMT
    Buy him a dinosaur. He'll forget about the dog in a heartbeat.
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    Nov 17, 2011 11:06 PM GMT
    My dog fucking loves her kennel.

    They don't even cage her, she just stays out the whole time and plays in a big room with all the dogs.

    I hate bringing here there because its a 2 mile walk through the city and its expensive icon_razz.gif
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    Nov 17, 2011 11:37 PM GMT
    Here's where my mother use to always leave her dog when she had to go out of town.
    http://www.pamperedpawslubbock.com/

    That is a step up from just a kennel. Offer to pay for it. Maybe he can't afford a pet sitter or pet spa and is embarrassed to tell you.

    Like someone else stated, the red flag is when he won't spend the night with you.

    If he won't take the dog on the trip or allow you to put it in an "upscale" pet spa for a weekend, then the dog is just an excuse.

    Without knowing more specifics, it sounds like he's just hanging around temporarily and isn't really into you that much. Buyer beware. lol

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    Nov 17, 2011 11:50 PM GMT
    Hmm.. There are a million solutions to this problem. The issue is not the dog.
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    Nov 17, 2011 11:50 PM GMT
    Glad you are getting some good input! I think there is a reasonable answer, provided he wants to consider them! icon_smile.gif
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    Nov 17, 2011 11:53 PM GMT
    Next time he's at work, trade in his dog for a cat. You can leave those independent little suckers alone for a weekend with a little food and water and they're all the happier for it.
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    Nov 18, 2011 12:11 AM GMT
    I'm thinking he's too embarrassed to tell you he can't float that cost right now.
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    Nov 18, 2011 12:22 AM GMT
    Now it really is hard to go out of town when you have a dog. Kennel's are no good, especially if it is a big dog. My dogs (well my parents') are big and very hyper. They can't be stuck in a kennel all day.

    Good alternatives are to get a dog sitter that can come over and feed/walk/take care of the dog. Another option is a house sitter that will just stay at your house with the dogs the whole time. Of course, it needs to be someone you trust...
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    Nov 18, 2011 12:32 AM GMT
    Little_Spoon saidBuy him a dinosaur. He'll forget about the dog in a heartbeat.
    He won't forget about the dog. He'll use the dog as dinosaur treats to help train it. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Nov 18, 2011 12:48 AM GMT
    My bf and I travel a lot and we have two dogs...we just find a sitter, and leave them there or let the sitter come to our place to check up on em. We have occasionally brought our dogs with us as well.
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    Nov 18, 2011 1:07 AM GMT
    MuchMoreThanMuscle saidI don't know what to tell you, Redbull.

    I just got out of a situation from dating. One of the major problems for me was my former partner's unhealthy attachment to his dog.

    I saw right away that his bond with his dog was inappropriate.

    Does he sleep with his dog? I think this is a no-no and a sign that he needs/needed too much affection from his dog. When this is the case there is no master/dog relationship, it's more like an 'equal' friend dynamic - not good.



    Ehhh, I'm not so sure about all this. Some dogs don't have the same instincts around 'the pack' and being close to their owners. My dog sleeps next to me maybe half the nights out of the week, but he's a Whippet and they are definitely companion dogs that need to be close to their owners. There's no doubt that some dog breeds are simply happiest next to their owners.... it doesnt have to mean that the dog is unhealthy or that their owner has an unhealthy attachment.

    I do think refusing to travel for a weekend is odd, especially given that he has relatives who live with him who could care for it (unless they are really unfit to care for any living creature...?). This is something for you to discuss with your BF more. Sounds like an issue your BF is having.