Advice on a guy I really, really like

  • MyPersuasion

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    Nov 17, 2011 8:24 PM GMT
    I have been talking to a guy for a year now (online) we met here on RJ. I like him alot and we really clicked and made each other laugh. I told him that he's cute and I want to date or have something serious.But I think he still wants to mess around and explore his sexuality. He's Asian and younger than me. Even though we live far apart, we can still see each other at least twice a year. We could've met a few weeks ago but he couldn't. He asked me to fly over to see him and I said that I could. But then again I didn't want to just have sex with him and leave, like that. I want something special with him and to develop something mature. I tell him that hes' cute and I don't think he takes it seriously. But I am for real. I'm not like those other guys that just want to hit and quit. I'm more stable and want a life with someone. He wanted to skype me and I wasn't really comfortable with that. Because I think he just wanted to see my private parts. And I only did that because I didn't want him to get mad and reject me or stop talking to me. So, I showed him a lil bit. So, since then he doesn't talk to me anymore, he ignores my messages and emails. I had his number but I deleted it because I don't want him to think I'm a creeper and stalking him. But I really liked him, alot, and thought he was different I know he wants to see other guys, but they cant give him anything or at least what I can. I'm a better lover and I have alot to offer. There's alot of guys that want to be with me, date or LTR and even sleep with me. But I would save myself for him. But he doesn't appreciate all that I have done and would do for him. I even said we can spend the weekend together, but he takes it for granted. What should I do? Should I forget about him and pursue the other guys that care about me and want to be in my life? or should I wait until he realizes that all those guys out there are pervs and creepers and he might get into something he can't get himself out of?

    Thanks.

    P.S this was a practical joke between me and the guy I wrote this about LOL
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    Nov 17, 2011 9:24 PM GMT
    Just leave it alone. It seems you are in lust with him nothing more. People on the Internet have a way of showing only there best qualities, especially if they want to see your junk. It's best to have this conversation with someone you actually met. Since you are just online buddies its not worth your time and effort with this guy....
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    Nov 17, 2011 9:24 PM GMT
    I don't think there's much you can do. Id say try to put a chill on the crush you have for the guy. LDR's work for some but not many, at least not for very long. There's tons of great RJ guys in NYC. g/l
  • postyork

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    Nov 17, 2011 9:29 PM GMT
    Thebestlover said... Should I forget about him and pursue the other guys that care about me and want to be in my life? or should I wait until he realizes that all those guys out there are pervs and creepers and he might get into something he can't get himself out of?


    The first. Who knows when, if ever, he'll make the second realization (and as well, there's no accounting for who he'll run into while he's 'discovering himself' - he could find a great guy or three!). He seems to have already decided about you. Nothing you can do now - besides, it sounds like what he wanted and what you wanted were completely different.

    Move on, and find those other guys that want to care about you.
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    Nov 17, 2011 9:31 PM GMT
    Option 1: Tell him

    Option 2: Do nothing.

    kthxbai
  • TheAlchemixt

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    Nov 17, 2011 9:37 PM GMT
    Sounds like he's moved on, you should too.
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    Nov 17, 2011 9:46 PM GMT
    Your post indicates that you are imagining that you have a relationship. You should probably take a break from TV, social networking, gaming for a while. Don't feed your delusion by "meeting" people on line.
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    Nov 17, 2011 9:59 PM GMT
    *facepalm*

    You are not ready for a relationship and that's why you are projecting your "love" into someone that you know you would have no realistic chance to have relationship with (at least in the near future). Your feelings of separation from this guy and helplessness of the situation, are the indicators of your separation and helplessness of your relationship with yourself.

    Start looking for why you are feeling this way and find better feeling thoughts and people who make you feel better. You said you have plenty of pursuers, so why don't you give them a chance?
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    Nov 17, 2011 10:19 PM GMT
    Shorter version of all the above:

    LDR's rarely work. Especially with relatively immature (no offense intended here, but you're reading/projecting emotions into an e-crush that you'd like to turn into a relationship).

    In agreement with CityAznGuy and the others above - look to the guys you can hang with locally - build relationships (romantic and otherwise) with them and save your travel money for something that doesn't have a more than 90% chance of being an overpriced one night stand, if not a broken heart.
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    Nov 17, 2011 11:18 PM GMT
    he's not worth your time you deserve better. it's time to move on and find someone who is going to be into everything about you and not just how big ur penis is or how good you are in bed.
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    Nov 17, 2011 11:47 PM GMT
    I don't think that word means what you think it means.

    You're an idiot sock-puppet in any case.
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    Nov 18, 2011 12:12 AM GMT
    RedheadedRy saidI don't think that word means what you think it means.

    You're an idiot sock-puppet in any case.


    More likely a D-List.com refugee. There had been a flood of them over the past few weeks - throwing off the usual turnover of sock accounts.
  • whmature

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    Nov 18, 2011 3:11 AM GMT
    No matter what kind of the guy you are pursuing is like (he must be very cute, from your passion for him), I can only tell you are one guy deserving true love. Gook luck!