Private pics

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    Jul 19, 2007 7:17 AM GMT
    Y'know, guys, there are a lot of guys who I've become friends with, who are so beautiful within and without. Some who I love like they were my own kids, some as friends/brothers, and some I plain just have a crush on. But what I see is more than the body. It's the whole person. Some put themselves down or think they are not of worth because some boyfriend or date has made them feel like window dressing. It kills me to see people, REAL people, treated this way.

    Sometimes I would love to see their private pics, but I just don't feel it's appropriate to ask, because I don't want them to feel like an object to be oogled (sp?). Therefore, I don't ask.

    Nevertheless, I am a man, and just like them, I feel the pangs and longings too, and appreciate the erotic nature of the male body.

    I also don't feel that I should ask because I don't have any private pics up of myself. Just not fair (not that my out-of-shape body is anything to look at, here between jobs and gyms.

    So how do you all feel about this subject? Do you just ask, do you wait for them to offer or just unlock the pics or what?

    Let's hear your opinions and personal policies.
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    Jul 19, 2007 4:28 PM GMT
    I'm not ready to have everyone go running into the night screaming like little children or laughing so hysterically that they spill drinks on their computers. I can't be responsible for the psychological damage or physical damage that might occur.

    :)

    Chuck


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    Jul 20, 2007 12:51 AM GMT
    Thanks, Babe, you don't have any private pics any more than I do. LOL
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    Jul 21, 2007 6:24 AM GMT
    I personally don't ask. I guess i don't really care all that much about private pics.
  • Controtion

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    Jul 21, 2007 7:18 AM GMT
    I always just ask
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    Jul 21, 2007 11:42 PM GMT
    I would simply ask someone to see them. If they made them available to be seen then they had a reason to.

    Reid
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    Jul 24, 2007 9:58 PM GMT
    I never ask. Men ask me. And sometimes I let them look. but only if they are very nice to me or know how to ask properly. Or if they're hot!
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    Jul 25, 2007 3:44 PM GMT
    I just ask. If they put it uo its 4 ppl to see.
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    Jul 28, 2007 2:43 AM GMT
    Boldness goes a long way. When you want something you just simply and politely ask, otherwise your curiosity will get the best of you. I also believe that the private pictures aren't there to just lie idle and dormant, otherwise what's the use of posting them. When I saw a slot for private pictures what came to my mind was pictures that aren't for everyone to see but just the people that genuinely care and admire your body. The body is a work of art in its rarest form and I don't see a reason why someone wouldn't mind sharing their masterpiece. I think in this day and age, privacy is a little overated and that's why people grow up with so many phobias. If someone asked to see a private picture that I had posted I would actually be honored that they delighted in the same image that I delight in everyday, so to make a long answer short: just ask b/c u never know, maybe he was just waiting for the right moment when someone would ask!!!
  • bradsmith

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    Mar 27, 2008 1:03 AM GMT
    Asking politely seems very appropriate...you can even couch your request with something like "I'm not hitting on you" or "Purely in the interest of scientific curiosity..."...drat! Now I've given away all my lines!

    Guys put 'em out there for a reason...many people enjoy being objectified...to a certain anonymous extent...so, feed their fantasy!

    But just a point of fairness...if you don't have your own private pics, then it definitely reduces the other person's obligation to share their's...after all, it is called "sharing"!

    And don't assume that just because you don't, perhaps find your body image "hot" that someone else might not...it is truly a big, wide world out there...
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    Mar 27, 2008 12:48 PM GMT
    I gotten several requests to see my private pics. Curiously, I don't have any. icon_eek.gif
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    Mar 27, 2008 2:01 PM GMT
    I think honesty is the best policy. Just go confidently and unassuming (something that's possible with the veil of the internet) and just right out ask.

    I find a lot of guy's private pics are not necessarily of their package, rather, just more revealing shots. Sometimes even face shots, if they're still not quite comfortable with being fully out yet, which I find extremely cute? icon_confused.gif

    I don't mind if someone asks, even though I'm not allowed (by age, 21?) on here, to share photos. I think the body is an innocent, beautiful creation, it's just the human connotation of sexuality and filthiness that distorts that. There's no reason to accrue vanity with tons of erotic photos, but I don't see a problem with portraying every part of who you are, tastefully.

    Just be classy, and proud of yourself. Other guys have just as much a desire to see a guy when getting to know him as I do; it's give and take. icon_wink.gif
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    Mar 27, 2008 2:09 PM GMT
    My private pics aren't of me. I thought that it would piss Chucky off. Pity he aint here no more.
  • HndsmKansan

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    Mar 27, 2008 2:21 PM GMT
    For me it really isn't that important and I rarely ask on RJ to see someones private pics. I have one, get asked to see it, but for me it ranks relatively low.
    I'm on here for friendships and chatting.