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First real breakup...

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    QUOTE Nov 18, 2011 12:36 AM GMT
    Never felt this shitty before... Its like you wanna hold on til the very last minute. Feels bad broskis. icon_sad.gif
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    QUOTE Nov 18, 2011 12:42 AM GMT
    icon_sad.gif Sorry buddy. Shit sucks.

    Edit: BUT... you're a good looking dude. The first break-up is always a mother fucker. After that, it's not that they get easier, it's just that you learn how to deal with the emotions. Just don't let it bring you down too far.
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    QUOTE Nov 18, 2011 12:43 AM GMT
    cock meat sandwich helps
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    QUOTE Nov 18, 2011 1:00 AM GMT
    MrPolish saidcock meat sandwich helps


    sounds delicious right about now.
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    QUOTE Nov 18, 2011 1:29 AM GMT
    Awww bro, broseph, brosephine baker, throw in some porn it'll be aight
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    QUOTE Nov 18, 2011 1:31 AM GMT
    broskis...Like Oh Mehh Gawwd! LOL
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    QUOTE Nov 18, 2011 1:32 AM GMT
    Time to distract yourself with good sci-fi movies and sweet sweet Christmas ham.
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    QUOTE Nov 18, 2011 1:38 AM GMT
    Claystation saidAwww bro, broseph, brosephine baker, throw in some porn it'll be aight


    Sounds like a plan. Broseidon, lord of the brocean.
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    QUOTE Nov 18, 2011 1:39 AM GMT
    hrhnick said
    Claystation saidAwww bro, broseph, brosephine baker, throw in some porn it'll be aight


    Sounds like a plan. Broseidon, lord of the brocean.


    Thats Brocules to you bro
  • Scorpio1113 Posts: 90
    QUOTE Nov 18, 2011 4:36 PM GMT
    Broke up with my boyfriend too, so I am sorry to hear that. Time is our only friend icon_smile.gif
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    QUOTE Nov 19, 2011 3:28 AM GMT
    Hang in there. Cry, get angry, blow off steam. Then move on. At least there's never a second first time.
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    QUOTE Nov 20, 2011 5:47 PM GMT
    Time to update that RJ profile!
    Then go out to a noisy bar full of broskis for some brewskis. Pick one of the teams from the football game on TV, and irrationally root for them. (Unless it's the Pats or the BC Eagles. Then you're being rational. :winkicon_smile.gif
    It's all about gettin' it out'cha system.
    Losing somebody you love to a breakup is just about only the second-worst thing to losing them to death. Don't pretend that it's gonna be easy at first. It's more of the proverbial "process."
    One thing that works for some people is to imagine the new ex in unattractive ways: spinach hanging from his teeth, a dribbly nose, chomped-down fingernails, etc. If you keep hearing his voice, picture it when it's hacking, or maybe it whining stuff like, "I don't FEEL like it."
    Jerk off to memories of some of the hotter sex you had. Be happy that those memories were made. They'll be there as long as you have the capacity for memory. This is part of "gettin' it out'cha system" too. It helps you put everything into perspective - that was then.
    ((("broski" hug))) icon_biggrin.gif

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5_hZyzst6i0
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    QUOTE Nov 20, 2011 5:56 PM GMT
    hrhnick saidNever felt this shitty before... Its like you wanna hold on til the very last minute. Feels bad broskis. icon_sad.gif


    I feel the same way, it just isn't working out for me. Gonna do it tonight, not looking forward to it at all. icon_sad.gif
    Our personalities are just to different and adds a little to much stress to my life outside of work.
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    QUOTE Nov 20, 2011 6:19 PM GMT
    Claystation said
    hrhnick said
    Claystation saidAwww bro, broseph, brosephine baker, throw in some porn it'll be aight


    Sounds like a plan. Broseidon, lord of the brocean.


    Thats Brocules to you bro


    Sure Brokenups
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    QUOTE Nov 20, 2011 6:33 PM GMT
    My first one put me into therapy.

    My second one took three years to get over.

    My third and most recent took 8 months.

    From this sampling of personal experience and from chatting with a lot of other "broken up broskis", I've developed...

    Iguana's Rules of Breakup (for relationships that last a year or more):

    1) It will take on average 18 months to recover, without finding someone else.

    2) Finding someone else is usually the final cure.

    3) You shouldn't "try to be friends" with your ex right after the breakup. This puts you into a horrible limbo land of confusion and just extends your recovery time. It's best to take a complete break from each other until you're both detached. No in person, no email, unfriend on fb and other sites, etc.

    4) Don't try to date for the first 6 months. It's gonna suck. But DO have some one night stands with hot boys if you can.

    5) Spend most of your initial breakup time on yourself! Make a TODO list of all the things you've always neglected for yourself. Go to the dentist. Get that cool new haircut. Hire that trainer. Buy that mountain bike and start riding. Take that trip to Eastern Europe. You get the idea. Make yourself your best friend.

    6) You know you've finally detached when you stop talking about, thinking about, and dreaming about the ex, and on the rare occasions that you do think about him, you remember mostly the positive things about the relationship. You don't get cranky about the negative things, but realize they were always there to begin with, and because of them, you've learned a bit more about what you need to make a relationship work, so even those negative memories are really a positive for you.

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    QUOTE Nov 20, 2011 7:26 PM GMT
    I hope you feel better now bro.

    hrhnick saidNever felt this shitty before... Its like you wanna hold on til the very last minute. Feels bad broskis. icon_sad.gif
  • OklahomaBreak... Posts: 167
    QUOTE Nov 21, 2011 1:12 AM GMT
    Went through this back in September and it was horrible. We went from "I love you so much" to "We should go separate ways, but you're a great guy" in less than a week. Time is the best medicine, but be careful not to hang on. Don't Facebook them, pay attention to any of their social messaging, try to not see them out, and basically cut all types to the guy. If you want to be friends that's good, but give yourself time to see him as just a friend.

    If you're like me there's a part that will always love him, but after a few months I realized it is better this way.
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    QUOTE Nov 21, 2011 1:19 AM GMT
    icon_sad.gif Sorry to hear!

    At least you can get into a relationship without freaking out that you're gonna get hurt and running away.... lol. Avoidance is so hot right now.....

    Can we have a pity party?

    But really.... time will heal all wounds, as hard as it is. Keep your chin up.
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    QUOTE Nov 21, 2011 1:19 AM GMT
    Feel your pain bro. Just got dumped yesterday. Too bad we're not closer, i'd take you out for a drink. God knows I need one.
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    QUOTE Nov 21, 2011 1:20 AM GMT
    ABC_123 saidFeel your pain bro. Just got dumped yesterday. Too bad we're not closer, i'd take you out for a drink. God knows I need one.


    awe poor baby. let me take both of you out
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    QUOTE Nov 21, 2011 1:26 AM GMT
    somewherenew said
    hrhnick saidNever felt this shitty before... Its like you wanna hold on til the very last minute. Feels bad broskis. icon_sad.gif


    I feel the same way, it just isn't working out for me. Gonna do it tonight, not looking forward to it at all. icon_sad.gif
    Our personalities are just to different and adds a little to much stress to my life outside of work.


    I hope he does not read this before you meet tonight ;)
  • Chunner Posts: 87
    QUOTE Nov 21, 2011 1:34 AM GMT
    MUSIC HELPS

    You need a break up mix. I made one when I was dumped hard. I was broken because I had never been broken up with ever and then the first time it happened it was mean and hurtful.

    LINDA RONSTADT'S YOURE NO GOOD has to be on it! Best break ups song ever!

    Also hit Mariah Carey's Someday, Kelly CLarkson's All Ready Gone. And if you like country REBA: Strange, Consider Me Gone, Turn on the Radio, A NEW LOVE!!!!!

    Music helps! Nothing SAD! Stay away from sad break up messages!
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    QUOTE Nov 21, 2011 1:46 AM GMT
    Aggieboy said
    ABC_123 saidFeel your pain bro. Just got dumped yesterday. Too bad we're not closer, i'd take you out for a drink. God knows I need one.


    awe poor baby. let me take both of you out


    let's go, i'm ready
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    QUOTE Nov 21, 2011 2:03 AM GMT
    chunner saidMUSIC HELPS

    You need a break up mix. I made one when I was dumped hard. I was broken because I had never been broken up with ever and then the first time it happened it was mean and hurtful.

    LINDA RONSTADT'S YOURE NO GOOD has to be on it! Best break ups song ever!

    Also hit Mariah Carey's Someday, Kelly CLarkson's All Ready Gone. And if you like country REBA: Strange, Consider Me Gone, Turn on the Radio, A NEW LOVE!!!!!

    Music helps! Nothing SAD! Stay away from sad break up messages!


    Music does help.

    I say anything by Mariah Carey icon_smile.gif
  • barriehomeboy Posts: 2470
    QUOTE Nov 21, 2011 2:18 AM GMT
    Love never ends well. But we keep seeking it out. We're guys. We love the chase and the conquest. We're like dogs chasing cars. Unlike dogs, we catch them, and then we end up feeling like you do right now.I don't have a happy message, other than to say another car will come along soon. Our brains feel the pain but our cocks have short memories.