Have You Ever Been In A Fight?

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    Nov 18, 2011 9:03 AM GMT
    Since this whole gay teen suicide season started I have been wondering, are there gays who fight back? Or fight at all? Because I feel like there aren't, enough at least. As gays we pride ourselves for being very diplomatic, among other things.

    But we all have to fight. Some times diplomacy fails and where it fails combat comes in. Yes some of you may say it is barbaric, but fighting physically has gotten some of the most powerful nations (and people) where they are. Like sometimes you have to fight.

    I myself am not very confrontational, but if the occasion calls I have no problem punching someone’s front teeth in.

    This is the most recent confrontation I had. I remember I was in a park one time with my friend and his little brother and these black boys were talking smack about us. We obviously didn’t care and didn‘t pay attention. But then they decided to throw things at us and I think one of the things they threw hit my friend’s little brother. So I walked over there and pushed one of em over the railing bars. Told em if they wanted to throw something else and they didn’t do shit.

    Another time where I got into a minor scuffle with someone was at the grocery store. And actually this one was the most recent one. I went with my sis and this guy was blocking the aisle and would not move so I said excuse me and I went though the small space between this dick and the food. He said some curse word in Spanish so I responded and he came up to my face and asked what I said. My sis got in the middle to try and stop us and he told her to shut up and get out of the way so I pushed him. He pushed me and I guess tried to punch me. So I grabbed him by his shirt and shook his ass and threw him. He fell and completely threw everything around him to the floor as he was attempting to hold onto to something. Some guys then decided to hold us back. And I got kicked out of the store because I was the one who made the mess. Haha.

    Any of you guys have stories?

    And yes I know those are hardly fights but they are the most recent my full fledged fights are from when I was a kid. Haha.
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    Nov 18, 2011 9:38 AM GMT
    I think that many gay guys question themselves and question their abilities. They are raised to think they are lesser men then straight guys. So when the situation happens, they back down.

    But the reality is that being a gay man doesn't negate that you are first and foremost a man. Those two experiences influenced you; you now have the knowledge that you CAN fight back and the confidence that comes from that is incredible. If more gay guys would reach beyond their comfort level and stand up for themselves, they would be happier. I went through the process and I already am more comfortable.
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    Nov 18, 2011 2:09 PM GMT
    I'm not afraid to spend a night in jail till the arraignment judge finds me not guilty of homicide by reason of self-defense. icon_wink.gif
  • HndsmKansan

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    Nov 18, 2011 2:14 PM GMT
    Not as an adult, I did as a kid a couple of times. Sometimes you just have to stand up for yourself, even if it means getting your ass kicked.

    I didn't however. The first fight I was in when I was 14, I hauled off and knocked the shit out of the kid who was making fun of me. He was so shocked, he tried to get away, but I chased him down and let him have it.

    The second fight was more of an even match, two teachers broke it up and I ended up getting a lecture from the principal about how I could ever do such a thing, being an honor student and such. I just told the principal that everybody has to stand up for who they are.

    I was also a little kid... I didn't grow up until later. I don't seem to have any issues with anybody these days.
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    Nov 18, 2011 2:16 PM GMT
    Growing up I was in a couple of fights with different kids. I was bullied until I spent the summer working out and then fought back that fall. It all stopped once I fought back and fought back hard.
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    Nov 18, 2011 2:17 PM GMT
    Yea i sure have when i was little and as an adult
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    Nov 18, 2011 2:27 PM GMT
    I have not been in a fight serious fight since college. I was always fight in elementary school and junior high. I got into two really big fights in high school and only once since. I agree gays and lesbians need to learn how to defend themselves. Its not like gay men are women and can be overpowered by a guy. But then again there some who think they are
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    Nov 18, 2011 2:36 PM GMT
    I have never really been in a good fight. A few years ago I kicked a guy out of the party and on his way out he sucker punched me in the face. He was a little guy though so it was more of a flick to the nose. It made me pause for a second to realize that the little shit just punched me. By that time I had all my friends around me.

    I tried to get to him but there were at least 10 friends between us that didn't want me to go to jail. I was diving over people and everything trying to get him. My friends had to basically get me on the ground and hold me there until I relaxed. So, I guess I can be kinda a hot head, alright?
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    Nov 18, 2011 3:00 PM GMT
    Proud to say I never had to lower myself to fighting.
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    Nov 18, 2011 3:06 PM GMT
    Upper_Cdn saidProud to say I never had to lower myself to fighting.
    I've never had to lower myself to being a coward who walks away.
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    Nov 18, 2011 3:10 PM GMT
    Some people have to resort to fighting to rise above the low life.
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    Nov 18, 2011 3:18 PM GMT
    Upper_Cdn saidProud to say I never had to lower myself to fighting.


    Do you think there may be occasions when fighting is the only option?
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    Nov 18, 2011 3:28 PM GMT
    Yupe had to fight in elementary, Middle and Highschool. icon_lol.gif
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    Nov 18, 2011 3:30 PM GMT
    credo said
    Upper_Cdn saidProud to say I never had to lower myself to fighting.


    Do you think there may be occasions when fighting is the only option?


    There is nothing wrong for standing up for your self. I heard someone say in a conversation about a dad who told their son that " I'll never be upset with you if you are the one to end the fight, but if you start it, I'll be angry with you"

    I thought this was logical and respectful.
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    Nov 18, 2011 3:33 PM GMT
    Oh... I have been in a fight twice, to defend my self against a bully in high school and some idiot in a bar.

    They both left with their big mouth and tail between their legs!
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    Nov 18, 2011 3:37 PM GMT
    i've thrown down with my dad a couple of times. Getting physical is really the only way to provoke me into doing the same (thank god). But once you do its kinda scary.

    Anyway, the last time my dad had called me out to his workshop (in the garage) to "have a talk". Usually means he wants to talk to me alone for all the wrong reasons. He started spewing his bullshit parenting "advice" and i kept talking him off (explaining WHY what he said was bullshit). He didn't like that so he hooked his foot under a heavy metal mechanic's stool and flung it at me. It hit me in the shin and i just saw red. I think the next thing i remember we were stalemated on the floor with my mom and lil' bro (8 years younger poor kid) standing over us screaming. I may not have won many fights but i WILL stand up for myself.
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    Nov 18, 2011 3:42 PM GMT
    Damn right I have (considering some of the rough areas i've lived/been in).

    Vary rarely though, I can probably count how many times on both hands.

    Mostly in my school/teenage days, as self-defence- nobody really tried messing with me again afterwards; so self-defence works, ppl, just sayin'.

    I never start them (i'd much rather fight in MMA classes/competitions), but if belligerent fools get in my face and throw blows/attack my friends, they will be quickly and effectively be put right back in their place.

    In fact, some idiot tried to attack/rob(?) my friend on Halloween, I tried to diffuse the situation, he wasn't receptive to reason; he pushed and feebly hit me in the side of my head, so I hit back and head-butted him in the nose/mouth. KO.

    The end.
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    Nov 18, 2011 3:51 PM GMT
    i used to fight all the fucking time. i gotta say in high school when i got pushed around for being all fucking punk or whatever and gay i fought back then and that was good shit but as i got older id get in bar fights and fights on the street just cuz i was insecure and felt like people were judging me or talking about when they werent or if they were what does it matter?
    the last fight i got in was pretty bad. i broke my hand and ive got a few scars on my head. my knuckle floats down my hand. i dont live my life like that anymore cuz i can recognize now actin out like that is a sign of weakness. its much harder to walk away when someone is running their mouth. thats what being tough is.
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    Nov 18, 2011 3:56 PM GMT
    Not since I was a kid... now I don't let things esculate to the point that you're throwing punches...that's how people get killed.
  • Latenight30

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    Nov 18, 2011 4:05 PM GMT
    I've had to fend off red-necks a few times.
    I'm a pretty level headed person. I would fight if it came down to it, but I can either diffuse a situation or I know what to avoid.
    I have always been afraid that I wouldn't stop at simple defense. I think some where there is a deep dark switch that if turned on, I might just go Micheal C Hall on someone.
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    Nov 18, 2011 4:06 PM GMT
    Thank goodness I haven't had to as an adult, but should the situation arise I where I was forced to fight I would. Mom always said, "if they hit you, hit them 10x harder and make sure they think twice about throwing another punch." Haha. Gotta love her for that!
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    Nov 18, 2011 4:06 PM GMT
    Yes.

    The first fight I got in was with the guy who was bullying me.

    He tried to hit me and I hit him back.

    He stopped bullying me that day.
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    Nov 18, 2011 4:12 PM GMT
    new2lp saidThank goodness I haven't had to as an adult...



    Its shocking the number of times guys have gotten pissed off with me while driving and pull up at a red light and want to get out and "settle this". Like, grown middle-class men! WIth legit jobs and nice cars! I had a guy chasing my Miata in a Tundra wanting to confront me after he almost ran me over drifting into my lane in a turn and i honked at him! I went to pass his dumb ass so as not to repeat the experience and he starts RACING ME! Peoplez iz nutz!
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    Nov 18, 2011 4:14 PM GMT
    Yep I've been in several fights and they were brutal ones too. Make no mistake about it, I might look passive and submissive but my parents didn't raise a punk AT ALL. When I get into fights it's always a win/win situation for me. How? Simple: I go all out (nothing is off limits) and if someone get's the best of me now, they better make sure they paralyze me because I always settle the score later.
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    Nov 18, 2011 4:15 PM GMT
    I'd fight if I had to, if there's no other way out... but it hasn't happened to me yet (except minor stuff in school).