Flab. :

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    Nov 18, 2011 5:15 PM GMT
    Flab and all. Feel so uninteresting to people though. still a very closeted person and I'm still unsure of whether I'm straight or not. one part says no the other screams a definite 'yes!'. only 18 years old here. I wanna get fit and ripped well not exactly ripped but atleast a decent bod. around my campus there always so many hunks aound, one in particular I think I have a crush on. bah. as you guys know, being fat and all, (although my friends insist that I'm not really FAT) but I know it myself. all those issues of self confidence and stuff. it sucks a lot. just wondering how could I build up or work out? I need pointers, like... what kind of workout or daily habit or eating habits sould I pick up, so I can slowly work to a slimmer and fitter bod. Any pointers, guys? btw, my height's at.. 168 and my weight's at... 80+ to 75 ish. just additional info if any of you wanna know more so you can help.
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    Nov 18, 2011 8:22 PM GMT
    Interesting. Yer profile states that you are 31.

    Check out the workout and diet plans THAT ARE CLEARLY OUTLINED ON THIS SITE.

    When you feel you are ready, participate in the forums and get to know some of the guys here. You will quickly learn who you feel most comfortable asking for advice.

    Ideally, post a few pics so that members can see where you are at and whether or not they can relate to your fitness level. That is the best way to get relevant advice from RJ Dudes.

    Most importantly, before you do ANYTHING - make sure you are doing it for yourself. To be healthier and happier. NOT for someone else on a webcam.

    Good luck!!!
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    Nov 19, 2011 11:42 AM GMT
    haha I know. wrong age. :/ still thanks! I didnt really think that there would be someone who would actually post a reply! Greatly appreciate your help. and yeah mostly I'm doing it all for myself. and yeah I wanna be healthier and happier, thanks alot!
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    Nov 19, 2011 1:21 PM GMT
    Here are a few thoughts that might help you:

    1. No one is going to do this for you. The way to get fit is to get up and start the process.

    2. It is not easy. Most of us are not gifted with the great genes that make you look ripped without even trying. The guys on this site (and the ones you are seeing IRL) put a lot of time and effort into looking good.

    3. Getting your attitude in shape is as important as losing the weight. Lack of self-confidence and poor self-image will undermine your efforts very effectively. You have to get your head in the right space and not lose your focus.

    4. It's a lifestyle. The gym, sports, diet, nutrition, and all of the components that make up healthy, active living may involve a lifestyle change for you. The great thing is that adopting this lifestyle means that you'll make friends who are also interested in the same things, and most likely, they'll be the kind of guys that you want to meet.

    5. Do it for yourself. Living healthy,being active, having a positive attitude, and eating right are things that will make your life better. Don't try to do these things for another guy. Do them for you.

    6. Don't do it alone. Going into the gym as an overweight guy trying to figure out how to use equipment and make an exercise routine can be really intimidating. Go in with the attitude that you aren't perfect and that you need to learn, and then talk to people about fitness. Ask questions. Talk to a trainer. Find guys who are examples you'd like to follow, and ask them about their routines. And if people act like jerks when you ask them questions, move on to someone else who will take the time to answer.

    The guys on this site can be extremely helpful to you, especially when you've got questions. There are also a lot of guys who have made big transitions from being very overweight to being ripped. They post pictures and thoughts about their transitions, and you can find a bunch of threads in the forums about this.

    Good luck, and keep posting your thoughts so that we can see your progress!