Nov 19, 2011 1:03 AM GMT
The backstory to this is as long and complicated as Lord of the Rings, so I'll post it at the bottom for those interested.
The summery is: had a date with a guy a decade ago, he never returned my calls, messages, but every couple years he contacts me wanting a second date and then never follows through.
Then three weeks ago we see each other at the gym. He messages me that evening. A conversation leads to scheduling a date, but our schedules don't mesh. He says to contact him in a week. I wait a week and contact him: he's going to be crazy busy with work for two weeks. I contact him after two weeks: he says he's just too busy to date.
I call him out and say that he's probably just not interested and using me as validation every couple years. He says, no, he's just too busy and he "sucks at life."
What the eff is going on here?
Am I right in assuming he's just not that into me? Or is he just really, really flaky and really bad at scheduling?
Backstory:
-met a guy a decade ago, we had our first date, he wasn't out, he was freaked out by being on a date with a guy. Never returned my phone calls or messages.
-the guy contacts me like five years later trying to be all "how have you been? wow, you look good!" blah blah blah. I don't respond. Partly vindictive, partly because he doesn't look as good as he used to.
-he keeps messaging me over the course of a year and finally I relent and say "I'll admit I haven't responded because I was being childishly vindictive, but I guess that's stupid, so... what? You want to have a second date all these years later?" He says yes, we set up date. He flakes, and is unresponsive to my "WTF?" message.
-a year later he messages me and indicates he wants another date, we set up date, he cancels before date due to schedule conflicts
-Two years later brings us to the present.
The summery is: had a date with a guy a decade ago, he never returned my calls, messages, but every couple years he contacts me wanting a second date and then never follows through.
Then three weeks ago we see each other at the gym. He messages me that evening. A conversation leads to scheduling a date, but our schedules don't mesh. He says to contact him in a week. I wait a week and contact him: he's going to be crazy busy with work for two weeks. I contact him after two weeks: he says he's just too busy to date.
I call him out and say that he's probably just not interested and using me as validation every couple years. He says, no, he's just too busy and he "sucks at life."
What the eff is going on here?
Am I right in assuming he's just not that into me? Or is he just really, really flaky and really bad at scheduling?
Backstory:
-met a guy a decade ago, we had our first date, he wasn't out, he was freaked out by being on a date with a guy. Never returned my phone calls or messages.
-the guy contacts me like five years later trying to be all "how have you been? wow, you look good!" blah blah blah. I don't respond. Partly vindictive, partly because he doesn't look as good as he used to.
-he keeps messaging me over the course of a year and finally I relent and say "I'll admit I haven't responded because I was being childishly vindictive, but I guess that's stupid, so... what? You want to have a second date all these years later?" He says yes, we set up date. He flakes, and is unresponsive to my "WTF?" message.
-a year later he messages me and indicates he wants another date, we set up date, he cancels before date due to schedule conflicts
-Two years later brings us to the present.
