I don't want to change my body.

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    Nov 20, 2011 5:05 AM GMT
    I. Like me and I've never felt so diffrent when it came to guys normally I justt talk to people but I'm not even getting responses back I'm flat ignored so why is that? should I change just for attractive men (like work out untill my muscles or huge? Or keep waiting for someone to come around that likes me for who I am I guess?)
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    Nov 20, 2011 5:07 AM GMT
    Declarkmon88 saidI. Like me and I've never felt so diffrent when it came to guys normally I justt talk to people but I'm not even getting responses back I'm flat ignored so why is that? should I change just for attractive men (like work out untill my muscles or huge? Or keep waiting for someone to come around that likes me for who I am I guess?)


    If you like yourself, then don't change. You will find someone who will like you for the way you are. But if your expecting Prince Charming to ride on a white steed while his oiled up muscles shine in the sunlight to sweep you off your feet then well...

    Set realistic standards?
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    Nov 20, 2011 5:12 AM GMT
    Declarkmon88 saidI. Like me and I've never felt so diffrent when it came to guys normally I justt talk to people but I'm not even getting responses back I'm flat ignored so why is that? should I change just for attractive men (like work out untill my muscles or huge? Or keep waiting for someone to come around that likes me for who I am I guess?)


    On a basic level muscular men are more likely to reproduce than non-muscular men. But since our society is no longer based on who is the toughest and gays don't reproduce anyway then who cares. Working out is a healthy habit because it boosts your ego and actually makes you in better physiological shape. Do it for those reasons. Also, you're 18. Life sucks a little more because you're still stuck in school (are you?) and your under 21...so your pool of guys to chose from is more limited.
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    Nov 20, 2011 7:09 AM GMT
    I guess it just depends on what you like :
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    Nov 20, 2011 7:15 AM GMT
    Declarkmon88 saidI guess it just depends on what you like :


    Looks like you just answered your question.
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    Nov 20, 2011 7:21 AM GMT
    You're quite attractive and I know for a fact that there's a ton of men out there who would be interested in you. I myself am muscular and go to the gym a lot but I prefer basically anything else in other guys, big muscles isn't really a factor in what I do or don't find attractive in other guys.
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    Nov 20, 2011 8:26 AM GMT
    Don't work out "till you're huge" if you don't want to, you are attractive, if you weren't you would have to work out to compensate, but you don't need to, of course on RJ, many guys are all about muscle muscle muscle so of course RJ'ers' preferences skew towards muscle men, but that's not the real world... go to any gay porn site and the most popular category is always twinks icon_cool.gif
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    Nov 20, 2011 6:42 PM GMT
    you don't need to change. It takes time to find the right one. It doesn't happen overnight.
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    Nov 20, 2011 6:45 PM GMT
    Weight resistance does happen to have health benefits, too, you know.

    You can get into weight-lifting without it ruling or life or even really taking that much time.

    You like fine. Just meet more people.
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    Nov 20, 2011 6:59 PM GMT
    Hypnotico saidyou are attractive, if you weren't you would have to work out to compensate, but you don't need to


    I love the way you are innocently harsh icon_lol.gif
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    Nov 20, 2011 9:09 PM GMT
    Change can be good...sometimes...icon_wink.gif
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    Nov 20, 2011 9:10 PM GMT
    Your body will change on its own whether you want to change it or not.
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    Nov 20, 2011 9:13 PM GMT
    if you think youre "fat" or outta shape then someone please call jenny jones and Maury cause im OBESE !! * halleloo*
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    Nov 20, 2011 9:29 PM GMT
    Dude, you're 18 and have your whole life ahead of you. You're also a good looking young man. Your body WILL change, it's just that how it changes is up to you. And you will also likely change your mind and your outlook on life as well. Just relax and don't pay any mind to the assholes that ignore you. That's a reflection on them,not you. The only time you should change is for you and you only.
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    Nov 20, 2011 9:52 PM GMT
    Dude, you are attractive in my book. I like a guy with big lips and you'd be getting quite a bit of looks from guys here in SA. You also don't look gay so that could be part of it to. I have that problem myself. A lot of guys don't even know I'm gay and I just don't find it in myself to go out there and be flaunting myself or the fact I'm gay. I am just me you know. You are right about one thing though... don't change yourself. Change the things you want to change because you want to not cause you want to find a guy. The fact you're 18 and under 21 makes it hard to find guys. Keep doing you. Keep focusing on you. The right one will come around an apprechiate who you are, what you do, and like and eventually love you for you. Keep smiling handsome.icon_razz.gif
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    Nov 20, 2011 9:59 PM GMT
    You answered your own question. Find a guy who loves you- body and soul.