My younger sister is being courted by a dyke!!!

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    Jun 03, 2008 1:30 PM GMT
    I just found out right now, my brother (20 years old) recently (as in hours ago) recieved this message from a female classmate of my younger sister:

    First message:
    Its me again...i hope you still remember me...ako po yong friend ni carol..txmate niya po DATI pero galit na sya sa akin...pwede po ba magrequest???sa bday po ni carol pwede po ikaw na ang kumuha ng gift na ipapadala coh sa LBC???last gift ko na yon para sa kanya at di na ako magpaparamdam sa sis mo...special person kasi sa akin ang sis mo...i hope u wont bignore me...gusto ko kasi syang sopresahin....kahit galit na galit sya sa akin....di ko pa din makakalimutan bday niya...and please...wag mo po sabihin na nagpadala ako ng message sayo...magagalit lalo yon sa akin...baka isipin niya if ano sinasabi coh sa'yo......PLEASE PO...pumayag ka po...reply ka po if pumapayag ka na....sorry po if nabala kita...

    Translated:
    It's me again... I hope you still remember me. I'm Carol's friend, her textmate BEFORE but she's mad at me... can I make a request? On Carol's Birthday can you please give her my gift that I'm going to send through LBC (A Philippine shipping service)??? It's my last gift to her, to show her my feelings... because your sister is a special person to me... I hope you won't ignore me... I want to surprise her... because she's really really mad at me. But I still didn't forget her birthday.. and please don't tell her I sent a message to you. She's just gonna get angrier at me, she might start to think I'm telling you stuff... PLEASE... agree. Please reply if you agree to do it. Sorry if I'm taking too much of your time.

    Second Message:
    You isnab {ignore} my message???thanks to your wide understanding...i hope you will guide your sister..and help her not to transform into boy...bye...

    WTF?!

    I'm really really freaked out right now. Our youngest has always been tomboyish. Blame it on growing up with two big brothers. But... what. the. fuck. is. this?! The girl sounds fucking obsessed. My younger sister is pretty and quite smart but she doesn't dress boyish at all. I can take it if she's lesbian but she's fucking SOPHOMORE high school!

    I just listened in to one of my older sisters giving her a lecture, and she said that my younger sister ought to stay away because Homosexuality is contagious. FUCK! I'm half-thinking of coming out RIGHT NOW.

    I'm really really freaked out right now... I'm starting to know how it feels to be a parent who finds out their son is gay... I DON'T want her to be lesbian. I really will understand if she is though, but goddamn that girl who sent those messages is CREEPY.
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    Jun 03, 2008 1:40 PM GMT
    Okay, I'm a bit calmer...

    I'm still lost as what to do. Should I talk to her? Come out to her? I'm closest with her in the family. icon_confused.gif
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    Jun 03, 2008 1:49 PM GMT
    hahahahahahhahah!!! the joys of high school.
    why does carole make it sound like your sis is THE LESBO by the last statement? your sis could be the potential heartbreaker here...
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    Jun 03, 2008 1:53 PM GMT
    She's tomboyish. She really might be lesbian, and I guess I'd be okay with that. But she's 13 ferchrissakes! icon_neutral.gif

    From what I gather, they were good friends ever since high school started (She just enrolled for for the junior year today, which is probably what prompted the message from this... stalker), and the girl probably started making advances so my sister broke the friendship. I'm not sure, since she won't talk about it.

    But that girl sounds devious, evil, and crazy and I don't want her anywhere near my sister! I'm gonna email her tomorrow.

    P.S. Carol is my sister.
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    Jun 03, 2008 2:31 PM GMT
    Regarding coming out in reaction to the situation, Sedative...if it feels right to do so, go for it. The situation of your sister's friend doesn't honestly sound like a big issue -- they're thirteen! -- but the reaction(s) of your family members could be. It could be a good time to 'gently guide' both Carol and the older sister who said homosexuality is contagious. Though the situation doesn't seem dire, it could be what my director of composition once called a learning occasion.
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    Jun 03, 2008 2:32 PM GMT
    Ohhh beware of teenaged lesbians (or any lesbians) they take obsessive drama to a whole nutha level....
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    Jun 03, 2008 2:58 PM GMT
    DJBens77 saidOhhh beware of teenaged lesbians (or any lesbians) they take obsessive drama to a whole nutha level....

    Speaking from experience, DJBens77? icon_razz.gif
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    Jun 03, 2008 3:04 PM GMT
    DJBens77 saidOhhh beware of teenaged lesbians (or any lesbians) they take obsessive drama to a whole nutha level....


    Hey now, be nice. If it weren't for the teenaged lesbians, I wouldn't have ever had a high school prom date! icon_razz.gif
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    Jun 03, 2008 3:19 PM GMT
    Sedative said I'm half-thinking of coming out RIGHT NOW.


    DOOOOO itttttt
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    Jun 03, 2008 6:26 PM GMT
    z....u look like superman on blue kryptonite in that pic. I'm not sure I like it...I've always seen you as more of a green lantern figure.

    Anyway...getting stalked in High School is just normal...give your sister the present, tell her its from her freaky stalker lesbo girlfriend and tell her you're fully turned on by the fact that she's a lesbo.

    That will freak her out enough that she should be in therapy for the next few years, getting her safely out of High School without ever having sex with anyone.

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    Jun 03, 2008 8:15 PM GMT
    1. Having a creepy gay/lesbian stalker does not make YOU a creepy lesbian/gay person. I had this kid call me once (back when i was 14 and still very in the closet), because i responded once to a Xanga (damn you Xanga!!!!) message he left me. He then used my Xanga to find my AIM info, sent me a message on AIM, and since i had an away message on with my phone number in it (Yeah, safe, right?), and he called me "just to talk" because i had responded to a message he left on my Xanga... wow kid, way to be forward.
    So anyway, shit like this happens all the time with high-schoolers, not that big a deal, just give her the dumb present.

    2. I knew I was interested in men when i was 10 years old. I discovered porn, it did nothing for me, then a week later i discovered gay porn, and i was fucking hooked. I'm not going to get into the whole preservation of innocence argument, as i usually get berated for that one, but ill just say that thirteen is more than old enough to realize your sexuality in my book.

    3. Come out of the closet when you are emotionally and mentally ready. You don't want to have a bad comming out experience because you came out during a period of drama or anger.

    4. Most importantly, what the fuck is this "i dont want her to be a lesbian" nonsense? Cmon, Sed, i expected a lot better from you. *smack smack* If your sister is a lesbian, she cant change that about herself, you know that, so you need to be a positive OLDER role model in her life and offer her the support she needs if she turns out to be a lesbian. I bet your parents wont be so keen on the idea, so she will need someone to offer her support, just like you turn to this website for the support of being gay ins a strictly anti-gay culture, and just like you will need her support when and if you come out of the closet to your family. Love your sister no matter who she is and what choices she makes in her life; you should know that man.

    p.s. even though im not a lesbian ( icon_smile.gif ) I was still very taken aback by your stereotyping of lesbians: "not a tomboy", "doesnt dress boyish", " courted by a dike"!?! Does that mean since im gay, i should run around in short shorts and rainbow banners, speaking with a heavy lisp? How can you expect mainstream society to ever learn to accept homosexuality if you further the stereotypes yourself?

    Homosexuality is part of life, and every individual is unique. You should not only accept this, but live it
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    Jun 04, 2008 7:30 AM GMT
    Ok I've slept. Everyone is less hysterical now. Come to think of it, I was the only one silently hysterical. LOL

    zebra stripesIt could be a good time to 'gently guide' both Carol and the older sister who said homosexuality is contagious.


    I did speak up when me, my older sis, and my bro were checking out the messages. I said something along the lines of "if she's lesbian, that's not really a problem, but she sounds crazy."

    DJBens77Ohhh beware of teenaged lesbians (or any lesbians) they take obsessive drama to a whole nutha level....


    Yeah, they do do that. Being strong individuals. icon_neutral.gif Also I just found out that one of my uncles before I was born also freaked out because one of my cousins (not his daughter) was being courted by a lesbian who was actually visiting their house looking for her. icon_eek.gif

    FunkapottomousDOOOOO itttttt


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    nooooooooooooo... I've really made up my mind not to do it until I'm independent. I've seen their reactions now, LOL, and I know they'll never stop interfering if I come out now. Heck, they'll probably pair me up with every girl they'll meet. But I do know they won't kick me out. At least that's a relief.

    tommysgunsThat will freak her out enough that she should be in therapy for the next few years, getting her safely out of High School without ever having sex with anyone.


    *smack!!!*

    Bearcub17:

    1) I dunno. I just feel like... bleh... the girl is giving a bad impression of homosexuality on our family and I'm the one who's ultimately gonna pay for it. And no, my brother won't take the present. We've decided to ignore her.

    2) I know. I was looking at men from as early as 9, had my first male crush at around the same age as my sis now. And heck I was molested at around that age (not a family member, and no emotional scars, so not a problem). But I never really accepted myself as gay until my late teens. I dunno... I think they're too young! High school in the Philippines by the way, starts at 12 and ends at 15. They're just a bunch of kids. icon_neutral.gif

    3) Thanks. I'm only on the friends stage now. Family is still a long way off. But I'll get there because I have to anyway. icon_confused.gif

    4) LOL I know I know. I feel like a hypocrite.

    Crap, it's just the 'older brother' syndrome I guess. icon_confused.gif

    And yeah I love her, she's my baby sister! And if she does turn out lesbian, I'm gonna be there. Ironic... her interests, language, even tastes in music is inherited from her closest [masculine] influence, her two older brothers... and one of them turns out gay. icon_lol.gif

    And yeah... sorry for using 'dyke' on the topic. I realized 10 minutes after posting it that it was an offensive term. icon_redface.gif I guess I really was just suffering from fried neurons. icon_wink.gif (Note I used 'really really freaked out' twice in the OP LOL).

    My issue is not their being lesbian, I guess. It's the stalkerish behavior. I talked to my brother and my older sisters yesterday and they've also been receiving creepy emails/text from this girl before this, except me, but then again, I don't post my contact details online. And she's visited our house a couple of times. icon_eek.gif

    I hope she stays away from my sister. Kinda hard to do since their school groups students into sections that stay together up until the end of high school - basically they'd be classmates until they graduate. Damn.

    And I doubt it would be taken up to the teachers at all since it would be a damaging scandal to both families involved, especially in a small community like our university town. If it doesn't get better I think I'll ask my sis to take it up to the school counselor or something. They can be expected to keep privacy on these kind of things.

    The way I see this, if I remember how I was in high school, the girl would probably interpret our family's disapproval of her affections to our youngest as a 'Romeo & Juliet' type of thing. And she'll probably act like the victim and redouble her advances on my sister. Fuck me, that's the last thing I'd want her to think.

    Then again... my sister has a mind of her own and she can probably fend her off just fine. Because she doesn't like her. But... dammit.

    It would still be dishonest to say that I wouldn't care if she was lesbian though, because I do. At least I have the justification that the girl who currently has her sights on my sister is really the predatory type. She's not even attractive. Oh crap, that sounds so shallow...

    Bah! Basta!

    I've decided not to email her after all. She'll just become the 'Romeo' and then I'll have to kill her. LOL Just ignore her, tell my sis to avoid her (which she already is doing anyway), and hope for the best I guess. icon_confused.gif I'll take Gigaram's advice LOL: "If you don't know what to do, then don't DO anything!"

    Thanks all for the advice including those who sent messages in private. Heh. I'm just weirded out is all.
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    Jun 04, 2008 8:33 AM GMT
    DJBens77 saidOhhh beware of teenaged lesbians (or any lesbians) they take obsessive drama to a whole nutha level....

    zimster said
    Speaking from experience, DJBens77? icon_razz.gif



    hahaha owned
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    Jun 04, 2008 6:19 PM GMT
    w00t, im glad you're calmed down and you admitted your mistakes.

    Sorry if i came off like an asshole; i tend to be quite a ranter icon_biggrin.gif

    If your sister does turn out to like women, she'll be lucky to have you as a rock of support!