Straight men at gay clubs?

  • dantheman88

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    Nov 21, 2011 12:42 AM GMT
    This I dont get, especially the ones you see with no girlfriend around. I just dont get it....last night I hit on a guy at a club and he tells me "sorry, but Im straight" he probably was straight but do you think some gay guys use this line to get rid of the guy hitting on them? In my opinion I would never use this line on a guy im not interested in.

    What do you guys think?
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    Nov 21, 2011 12:48 AM GMT
    so many possibilities:
    - gay but trying to get rid of you
    - gay but not out yet
    - straight but there with friends
    - straight, there to pick up all the straight women
    - straight on a dare
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    Nov 21, 2011 12:50 AM GMT
    Some gay clubs attract quite a few straight women and if they are one of the few straight men there, the numbers could work in their favor. But on the other hand, it probably is a good excuse to get rid of a guy of who you have no interest.
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    Nov 21, 2011 12:52 AM GMT
    Iceblink saidSome gay clubs attract quite a few straight women and if they are one of the few straight men there, the numbers could work in their favor. But on the other hand, it probably is a good excuse to get rid of a guy of who you have no interest.
    But that lie could come back to haunt him, if they wind up in the same circle of friends one day...
  • emailaddress

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    Nov 21, 2011 12:56 AM GMT
    does it really matter they are straight or gay when they are not interested? you dont get it regardless.
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    Nov 21, 2011 12:58 AM GMT
    bhp91126 said
    Iceblink saidSome gay clubs attract quite a few straight women and if they are one of the few straight men there, the numbers could work in their favor. But on the other hand, it probably is a good excuse to get rid of a guy of who you have no interest.
    But that lie could come back to haunt him, if they wind up in the same circle of friends one day...



    Maybe, but gays are big enough population today that we have a lot of circles.
  • OklahomaBreak...

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    Nov 21, 2011 1:04 AM GMT
    My straight friends come to the gay bars/clubs I go to all the time. One goes for women and cheaper/better drinks and another likes the ego boost from all the attention even when the people there know he's straight. The latter has told me he wishes being gay was simply a choice b/c he could have sex every night if he wanted. haha. I have no problem with straight allies coming to gay bars as long as they don't try to change them.
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    Nov 21, 2011 1:12 AM GMT
    I once went to a popular gay bar in South Beach (Twist) with a straight guy just to see what gay bars are all about when we were on vacation in Miami Beach. After about 5 minutes we left.

    The experience is dehumanizing lol. When you enter the bar, there are guys lined up in the hallway looking at you like a piece of meat. Did not understand what was that all about.

    The only good thing inside the gay bar is the model-like bartender wearing close to nothing. Other than that, it's all guys with the exception of some straight women and transvestites. It was boring. I wouldn't go back to any again.


    dantheman88 saidThis I dont get, especially the ones you see with no girlfriend around. I just dont get it....last night I hit on a guy at a club and he tells me "sorry, but Im straight" he probably was straight but do you think some gay guys use this line to get rid of the guy hitting on them? In my opinion I would never use this line on a guy im not interested in.

    What do you guys think?
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    Nov 21, 2011 1:45 AM GMT
    Gay clubs are full of friendly straight women. Music is better too
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    Nov 21, 2011 1:48 AM GMT
    he's probably a "fag stag" or a "lesbro"...............lol
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    Nov 21, 2011 2:21 AM GMT
    I would have told him to prepare himself...

    Then I'd go up to some outrageous drag queen and say, "That dude has the major hots for you!" icon_twisted.gif
  • barriehomeboy

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    Nov 21, 2011 2:23 AM GMT
    Well, in Toronto, single chics go to gay bars to find guys who like to dance and won't hit on them. Now, the str8 guys have figured that out and they go to the gay bars to find the chics who are not lesbians. We're getting pushed out of our own bars by the str8 people!
  • str8hardbody9

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    Nov 21, 2011 2:27 AM GMT
    emailaddress saiddoes it really matter they are straight or gay when they are not interested? you dont get it regardless.


    I totally agree. The guy is not into you.
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    Nov 21, 2011 2:30 AM GMT
    barriehomeboy saidWell, in Toronto, single chics go to gay bars to find guys who like to dance and won't hit on them. Now, the str8 guys have figured that out and they go to the gay bars to find the chics who are not lesbians. We're getting pushed out of our own bars by the str8 people!

    Damn bachelorette parties. There needs to be a law.
    http://slog.thestranger.com/slog/archives/2009/03/23/gay-bars-in-chicago-ban-bachelorette-parties
    One more then I'm turning off my google.
    http://www.salon.com/2009/03/23/bachelorettes_at_gay_bars/
    The vote is unanimous. Tacky. To say the least.
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    Nov 21, 2011 2:31 AM GMT
    He's a douchebag. Enough said.
  • newral

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    Nov 21, 2011 2:31 AM GMT
    eddie13 saidhe's probably a "fag stag" or a "lesbro"...............lol


    lesbro?
    haha... and what exactly is that?
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    Nov 21, 2011 2:32 AM GMT
    Sometimes I bring my straight friend along to gay clubs. He's very comfortable with his sexuality so he doesn't mind. Of course there will be times that I'd be chatting with someone and he'd be by himself. Although when somebody comes and talks to him, he wouldn't right away dismiss the guy and say he's straight. He would be friendly and entertain a conversation until I arrive and save him.

  • vintovka

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    Nov 21, 2011 3:08 AM GMT
    I have a pretty diverse group of friends so if I'm hanging out with a gay friend and a straight friend it's not unusual for the three of us to end up at a gay bar. These days there are women to look at, but most of my straight friends are just as unlikely to hook up in a bar as I am, so ordinarily we are just using it as a place to hang out where there's fewer meatheads than in the average straight bar.
  • tuffguyndc

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    Nov 21, 2011 3:14 AM GMT
    why is that so many gay and lesbians have issues with straight people being at a gay bar? i really do not understand that. can some please explain this to me?
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    Nov 21, 2011 3:14 AM GMT
    Very conflicted on this subject. One part of me thinks it's great that at -- at least for some people -- orientation is getting to be less of an issue and they feel comfortable in mixed groups. But on the flip side, if that doesn't come with "I'm a guest in your space, and I'll play by the house rules" but instead a certain arrogance, and then the management starts taming the entertainment and people have to start behaving differently to avoid offending them, then no, not cool.

    As far as your particular problem, it's hard to say. However, if you bring your straight friends to the club, please keep them on a leash at all times so they don't cause problems LOL
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    Nov 21, 2011 3:14 AM GMT
    tuffguyndc saidwhy is that so many gay and lesbians have issues with straight people being at a gay bar? i really do not understand that. can some please explain this to me?


    Because eventually it won't be a gay bar anymore.
  • XiongWei

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    Nov 21, 2011 3:18 AM GMT
    What does it matter if he's straight and in a gay bar. If a girl said 'why is a gay guy in a straight club' there'd be uproar. Just let people be people and go where they wanna go. Sure it sucks when you think there's a chance with a guy and he turns out to be straight, but I mean, that's just life. It's not as if girls don't do the exact same thing to us only to find out we like guys.

    One time, i was in a gay bar with my friend as it was his birthday and that was where he wanted to go. Now - I don't normally frequent these places, and I dress... well. I wear XXL hoodies and baggy jeans most of the time. So I'm standing at the bar trying to get a drink when this guy comes up to me, stands between me and my friend (a girl) and asks me in a belligerent voice if i'm straight. Now i'm not sure what the right answer was there, but i went with the truth, and he walks off. I definitely got the feeling that he was going to be a dick about me being in a gay bar if i was straight. The thing is, I have every right to go into a public bar no matter what my sexuality, or how I am perceived by others. I'm sure many people will disagree with me here, this is just my personal opinion.
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    Nov 21, 2011 3:24 AM GMT
    I thought bars could discriminate against who they choose to let in. Not that I condone it but there are places that dont let "colored people" in (still in 2011). They aren't that vocal about it, but they have every right to deny access to whomever they choose to.

    Just ask Oprah. All that money, and she still couldnt get into that french jewlery store... icon_eek.gif
  • ChilaxinJOCK0...

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    Nov 21, 2011 3:35 AM GMT
    When I go to the gay club I often drag 2-3 straight friends with me. When they get hit on I usually walk over and say that theyre my bf and to back off lol so yea, they might just be str8 boys hanging out there having a good time with friends or somethin
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    Nov 21, 2011 3:37 AM GMT
    But stright guys can"t danceWell, in Toronto, single chics go to gay bars to find guys who like to dance and won't hit on them. Now, the str8 guys have figured that out and they go to the gay bars to find the chics who are not lesbians. We're getting pushed out of our own bars by the str8 people!