Has anyone ONLY been in long-term relationships?

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    Nov 21, 2011 1:48 AM GMT
    I have. I'm just curious to see if anyone else has had this experience.

    The first guy I ever dated ended up being together with me for over three years. Then, the second guy I ever dated has become my second and current long-term boyfriend. We've been together for 14 months.

    I have never gone on a date with any other guys, no hookups either. I know this might sound weird to some.

    My previous and current boyfriends were both met on match.com. I did a lot of profile searching and did exchange some messages with other guys but these can hardly be considered "dating" other guys.

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    Nov 21, 2011 2:40 AM GMT
    I usually go on a lot of dates, and I'm highly selective.. so when I find someone to put the effort into I usually end up staying with them for a long time.
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    Nov 21, 2011 3:10 AM GMT
    I have been with my man for almost 4 years now. We found each other on gay.com did not have sex tell we started being exclusive, and we are really happy, as anyone we have our tuff times as any couple but its been great and can't imagine anyone else in my life at the moment. Its tuff work but well worth the effort icon_smile.gif
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    Nov 21, 2011 3:14 AM GMT
    Yeah really didn't do dates, both of us haven't had hook ups. and we've now been together over 8 years. We just were lucky and both knew we wanted each other!
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    Nov 21, 2011 3:17 AM GMT
    me11 saidI have. I'm just curious to see if anyone else has had this experience.

    The first guy I ever dated ended up being together with me for over three years. Then, the second guy I ever dated has become my second and current long-term boyfriend. We've been together for 14 months.

    I have never gone on a date with any other guys, no hookups either. I know this might sound weird to some.

    My previous and current boyfriends were both met on match.com. I did a lot of profile searching and did exchange some messages with other guys but these can hardly be considered "dating" other guys.

    Thoughts?


    Still in the same relationship I have been in since coming out. 3 years and 7 months. No complaints here and madly in love
  • XiongWei

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    Nov 21, 2011 3:22 AM GMT
    I had one hook up as soon as i came out that I wanted to take further but the other guy didn't, then a while later I was seeing this older guy, but realised that I didn't want to start anything right before university and broke it off, but we never had sex or anything cause i wanted to take it slowly. Since then I've been in three year long + relationships.
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    Nov 21, 2011 3:33 AM GMT
    I really don't date guys that are serial-daters or ones that I know do a lot of hookups. Promiscuity really is a turn off.
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    Nov 21, 2011 5:23 AM GMT
    me11 saidI have. I'm just curious to see if anyone else has had this experience.

    The first guy I ever dated ended up being together with me for over three years. Then, the second guy I ever dated has become my second and current long-term boyfriend. We've been together for 14 months.

    I have never gone on a date with any other guys, no hookups either. I know this might sound weird to some.

    My previous and current boyfriends were both met on match.com. I did a lot of profile searching and did exchange some messages with other guys but these can hardly be considered "dating" other guys.

    Thoughts?


    This counts as a long comitted relationship?:

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qM-PfEA8tp8
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    Nov 21, 2011 5:39 AM GMT
    Relationships? I forget what that means.
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    Nov 21, 2011 7:56 AM GMT
    This most recent relationship I was in was the shortest and I think a lot of things panned agaisnt us early on. I hate to say it like that but it's true. I wonder if we will get back together but I guess we'll just have to see what happens.My first bf/fiance and I were together for 7 years before he passed away on 9/11. My second bf and I were together for almost 4 yrs. And my most recent one... almost 3 months...I need LTR's ... I look for quality and for something that's going to last. I don't have time to be dicking around or any of that... it's not me. I mean... I'd love to have had an idea straight relationship with a guy as fucked up as that sounds but yeah... That's why my fiance and I worked out so well because we both wanted that. He had his past relationships before me where he did whore around but he wanted to be different when we met. I'm glad he was. I hope I can meet someone whom has that respect and dignity for himself again.
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    Nov 21, 2011 9:05 AM GMT
    If I enter a relationship, my intention is for it to be long term. I've only been in about five relationships. Two were each 2.5 years and then one was nine months with another at 4 months and then another at one month.

    I go on a LOT of coffee dates, and usually never follow up on a second date because they didn't pass the examination. icon_razz.gif But there have been several situations where I've gone on four or five dates and thought it was heading into relationship-land, only to find out the feeling wasn't mutual. Ah well. For the best, I think.
  • Bowyn_Aerrow

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    Nov 21, 2011 9:58 AM GMT
    I have been with 8 sex partners my whole life - 45 years.

    6 of those were honest attempts at relationships. Mind 4 of those relationships ended badly, with violence, while only 2 actually struck me, the first killing a bartender at some bar one night. The 4th had meth and anger issues - the meth was not a problem because I also was dating meth too... He just like to go out in pubic and beat up strangers for shits and giggles... That was a problem, I tired quickly of bailing him out of jail it was a bit more than I could afford in a relationship.icon_wink.gif

    Then there are two who were my 'slut era' lasting a whole week....icon_rolleyes.gif I discovered I lack the ability to find pleasure with a stranger.

    The 5th was completely the opposite of the others, but ended up having some serious issues...

    I'm currently on my 6th, and we have been at this 14 years now....

    Most other gays think I'm still a virgin, no real experience....


  • PipHop

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    Nov 21, 2011 10:39 AM GMT
    I hope my next boyfriend will be the one (though I'm trying not to put too much pressure on myself or any potential guy) that I spend the rest of my life in monogamous love with. As for hook ups, I don't do them because I think I'd feel cheap. I made an exception for one guy though, but I knew him a long time before I made the decision to go there with him and it was a great experience; however, I'm just built for LTR's lol
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    Nov 21, 2011 7:16 PM GMT
    QUOTE AUTHOR GOES HERE6 of those were honest attempts at relationships. Mind 4 of those relationships ended badly, with violence, while only 2 actually struck me, the first killing a bartender at some bar one night. The 4th had meth and anger issues - the meth was not a problem because I also was dating meth too...



    There really should be a thread about domestic violence among gays. It can be emotional and/or physical. I think this is an area that needs more attentions because it just isn't acceptable. Nobody deserves this.