yourname2000 saidGuy(s) in a monogamous relationship (gay or straight, legally married, or common law.)
Ah! That's an interesting one for me.
If it's a straight relationship, I assume it's monogamous,
but if it's a gay relationship my first question is
"Is it open or closed?"
For me, an "open 'relationship'" is neither "married" nor divorced, but some half-assed "we can't even commit to that" point in between....it's just a succinct way of saying "my roommate and fallback fuck buddy, when I can't bag someone more interesting."
Essentially, for me, "married" means off limits (whether gay/straight/quad-sexual/whateve)....since open relationship guys will fuck anyone they want, just like single people, I don't really consider them "married".
I appreciate those definitions are my own, but they serve my purposes (as language should): Married=not fuckable.
I have a couple of friends, a long-term, attractive, happy gay couple who were committed and monogamous. Until last week when one of them slipped up and was caught cheating. End of a beautiful relationship. I'm not sure which is more "half-assed:" that monogamous relationship that ended due to dishonesty and cheating, or an open one in which everybody is on the same page and honesty is easily achieved.
Or, if you think about it a little more, maybe neither of them are half-assed. Just different. Believe it not, just because you wouldn't chose to be in one kind of relationship, both are actually quite normal. And neither should be subjected to your bitter rant.