Married Men

  • ytOwen

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    Nov 21, 2011 7:48 AM GMT
    What do you think when you hear the words Married Men?
    Do you think of a gay man married to a gay man?
    Do you think of a straight guy married to a straight woman?
    Do you think of a gay man trapped in a straight marriage?
    Something else?


    Put down your first thought that comes to mind.
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    Nov 21, 2011 8:05 AM GMT
    Two individuals that are legally married.
  • BradHunt

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    Nov 21, 2011 8:08 AM GMT
    xrichx saidTwo individuals that are legally married.

    I like that. End of condo?
  • masculumpedes

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    Nov 21, 2011 8:33 AM GMT
    A straight guy married to a straight woman...icon_neutral.gif
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    Nov 21, 2011 8:35 AM GMT
    malefeet saidA straight guy married to a straight woman...icon_neutral.gif


    same for me
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    Nov 21, 2011 9:02 AM GMT
    ULmatt said
    malefeet saidA straight guy married to a straight woman...icon_neutral.gif


    same for me


    Unfortunately, +1

    Also, with an undertone of unfaithfulness. I don't know why.
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    Nov 21, 2011 11:00 AM GMT
    cold said
    ULmatt said
    malefeet saidA straight guy married to a straight woman...icon_neutral.gif


    same for me


    Unfortunately, +1

    Also, with an undertone of unfaithfulness. I don't know why.


    Yeah.
    + something about forbidden attraction.
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    Nov 21, 2011 11:41 AM GMT
    A man married to a woman.
    Regardless of whether one of them is gay!
  • ytOwen

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    Nov 21, 2011 9:08 PM GMT
    yourname2000 saidGuy(s) in a monogamous relationship (gay or straight, legally married, or common law.)


    Ah! That's an interesting one for me.
    If it's a straight relationship, I assume it's monogamous,
    but if it's a gay relationship my first question is
    "Is it open or closed?"
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    Nov 21, 2011 9:12 PM GMT
    ytOwen said
    yourname2000 saidGuy(s) in a monogamous relationship (gay or straight, legally married, or common law.)


    Ah! That's an interesting one for me.
    If it's a straight relationship, I assume it's monogamous,
    but if it's a gay relationship my first question is
    "Is it open or closed?"



    To rephrase:

    If it's a straight relationship, I assume the guy cheats.
    but if it's a gay relationship my first question is
    "Are you a cheater or are you honest?"

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    Nov 21, 2011 9:16 PM GMT
    Depends on the context of the conversation.
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    Nov 21, 2011 9:35 PM GMT
    yourname2000 said
    ytOwen said
    yourname2000 saidGuy(s) in a monogamous relationship (gay or straight, legally married, or common law.)


    Ah! That's an interesting one for me.
    If it's a straight relationship, I assume it's monogamous,
    but if it's a gay relationship my first question is
    "Is it open or closed?"

    For me, an "open 'relationship'" is neither "married" nor divorced, but some half-assed "we can't even commit to that" point in between....it's just a succinct way of saying "my roommate and fallback fuck buddy, when I can't bag someone more interesting."

    Essentially, for me, "married" means off limits (whether gay/straight/quad-sexual/whateve)....since open relationship guys will fuck anyone they want, just like single people, I don't really consider them "married".

    I appreciate those definitions are my own, but they serve my purposes (as language should): Married=not fuckable.



    I have a couple of friends, a long-term, attractive, happy gay couple who were committed and monogamous. Until last week when one of them slipped up and was caught cheating. End of a beautiful relationship. I'm not sure which is more "half-assed:" that monogamous relationship that ended due to dishonesty and cheating, or an open one in which everybody is on the same page and honesty is easily achieved.

    Or, if you think about it a little more, maybe neither of them are half-assed. Just different. Believe it not, just because you wouldn't chose to be in one kind of relationship, both are actually quite normal. And neither should be subjected to your bitter rant.

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    Nov 21, 2011 9:39 PM GMT
    jpBITCHva said
    DJBoston said Believe it not, just because you wouldn't chose to be in one kind of relationship, both are actually quite normal. And neither should be subjected to your bitter rant.

    Not happening. This would require yourname to actually develop some empathy for other people and get away from his narcissistic navel-gazing.


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    Nov 21, 2011 9:40 PM GMT
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  • ytOwen

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    Nov 21, 2011 10:14 PM GMT
    I'm terribly fond of chicken satay.
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    Nov 21, 2011 10:15 PM GMT
    OOOPS! Sorry guys, wrong forum.
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    Nov 21, 2011 10:16 PM GMT
    Every time I see that phrase on here I think of married guys who like to fuck around with gay guys. They don't come out because they already have a family and don't want to ruin their lives.
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    Nov 21, 2011 10:22 PM GMT
    yourname2000 saidFor me, an "open 'relationship'" is neither "married" nor divorced, but some half-assed "we can't even commit to that" point in between....it's just a succinct way of saying "my roommate and fallback fuck buddy, when I can't bag someone more interesting."

    Essentially, for me, "married" means off limits (whether gay/straight/quad-sexual/whateve)....since open relationship guys will fuck anyone they want, just like single people, I don't really consider them "married".

    I appreciate those definitions are my own, but they serve my purposes (as language should): Married=not fuckable.


    Not fuckable for you, fine. Not "married" and only "roommate and fallback fuck buddy" - damn, for a sometimes smart guy you can be a total asshole. icon_evil.gif

    Why do these threads always have to go there?
  • ytOwen

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    Nov 21, 2011 10:23 PM GMT
    Back on topic, I actually admire couples who can successfully manage a committed, but open relationship. Perhaps this reflects my bohemian back ground.
  • stratavos

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    Nov 21, 2011 10:35 PM GMT
    a man in a legally recognized committed relationship, sealed with a ring
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    Nov 21, 2011 11:06 PM GMT
    Personally, no longer 'trapped'...icon_eek.gif
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    Nov 21, 2011 11:08 PM GMT
    MarriedAdam saidPersonally, no longer 'trapped'...icon_eek.gif

    Some say gay men are not designed for marriage, or that marriage was not made for the gay man.
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    Nov 21, 2011 11:13 PM GMT
    ytOwen saidWhat do you think when you hear the words Married Men?
    [...] Put down your first thought that comes to mind.
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    wow!, now I can actually get legally married in my home state without being untrue to myself! ... If only I would find that MAN!
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    Nov 21, 2011 11:13 PM GMT
    The very first thing that came to mind were all the guys who used to come on to me when I was younger.
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    Nov 21, 2011 11:15 PM GMT
    In the context of this den of sodomites, when I see a forum topic called "married men," I expect it to be about hooking up with a closeted gay guy who is married to a woman.