Question for young guys who like older guys

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    Nov 21, 2011 11:16 PM GMT
    I've searched the forum, found a few topics addressing this, but they were old threads so I figured I'd just start a new one.

    I have a couple of questions. Most of these are coming from a dating/relationship point of view rather than a hookup.

    -Why do you like older guys? What physical and/or emotional qualities do they have that you like?

    -If you were attracted to and felt a connection with an older guy, is there a maximum age difference where you would draw the line? (10 yr?, 20 yr? more?)

    I'm asking for a few reasons. I like younger guys for a lot of reasons (some of those reasons are in my profile), but I just want to be realistic about it. Plus many of the 20 and 30 yr olds I've met or dated were far more mature than a lot of guys my own age.

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    Nov 21, 2011 11:22 PM GMT
    Well, I like older guys because I find that they are more into the types of activities I am more into. Young guys like me, who are in their early 20s, are very much into clubbing, partying (meth) and so forth, while I am more into fitness, movies, documentaries, and so forth. Simply put, I have more in common with a 35 year old than a 24 year old.

    (note, I know Im an immature jackass on these forums, its the one place i can be a kid, but you know what? Their are far more people who are more immature than I am and who are older so shove it.)

    As for the physical aspect, men dont peak out until 35. I find that guys who are at or around that age are: Hairier, musclier, more rugged, have rough leather hands, and so forth. All these things are turn-ons to me. Granted, once and a while a young masculine rugged guy comes along that makes me go "wow" but older men do that to me so on and so forth.

    As for the equality part, for someone my age I am much more advanced in my field as well as my career. I work as a financial advisor in the LGBT community, so far have been well received, and I give talks on Social Security, the new rules of money, etc etc, to people who are my parents age and older.

    And my all time favorite part of going after older guys is, that because I am younger, I tend to get the cream of the crop. They are usually very handsome, rugged, muscular, and masculine. As such, I get to be a little more on the pickier side because Im smoother, younger, all dolled up, and I look oh so innocent in person!

    Does this give you a general idea?
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    Nov 22, 2011 12:41 AM GMT
    When I was a teenager, I was really into older men. I found the submission thing hot.

    Then I got that through my system and am now into guys my own age. I like older men as friends because they've lived through the 80s (and before) and seem to always appreciate how relatively good things have become for gays... I prefer men who speak about the world, not bitch about it.
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    Nov 22, 2011 12:50 AM GMT
    Chainers said
    Does this give you a general idea?


    Yes, it does. Thanks. (but you did seem to stop at 35 icon_confused.gif )

    I know what my perspective is, I'm just curious how a younger guy thinks because when I was younger I was never that much attracted to older guys.

    I've read some of the other threads, and it's kind of encouraging. I think age difference bothers me more than him, but it shouldn't because I'm good friends with some guys in their 20s who seem to like me and want me around, and I get along with them perfectly. So why not a gay guy that age in a relationship situation?
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    Nov 22, 2011 12:51 AM GMT
    I relate to older people more. I guess. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Nov 22, 2011 12:56 AM GMT
    Like a dude above said, I relate better to older guys. Currently in a relationship with a 38 year old. Older men are secure in who they are and know what they want, which is sexy and makes communicating MUCH easier. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Nov 22, 2011 12:56 AM GMT
    Um I like Corvin just relate more to older people. I have never hooked up and never did.

    I just don't like too. And guys my age don't understand that, the majority at least.

    Older guys understand the emotional satisfaction of being in a relationship. I also have been told I'm too mature for someone my age. That's always been some form of a problem in my life. But not when I'm around people in their 30's 40's.

    I don't have an age limit or cap. But I was gonna say I wouldn't date someone over 50, but for you boo boo I'd make an exception. icon_wink.gif

    Oh and older men are rugged and sexy. They have that like "I know what you like and I can give it to you cause I'm experienced" vibe to them, physically as well. icon_smile.gif
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    Nov 22, 2011 1:03 AM GMT
    i prefer to date guys my age up to 35 due to age range but why i choose to date older men are because they are more mature and are possibly ready to settle down in a ltr instead of men my age or lower
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    Nov 22, 2011 1:05 AM GMT
    30-36 is my age range for guys I usually, key word usually, find most interesting as they tend to relate more to my parents who i am close with and find their activities much more interesting than people my own age 20-27.

    Plus older men 'tend' to be much more of a conversationalist and can hold back urges to do things most people my age can't hahaha!

    Just take a look at the average age of my hot list....
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    Nov 22, 2011 1:13 AM GMT
    I'm always amazed in threads like this how many men in their 20s state how other men their age don't appreciate certain values like monogamy, clarity, etc... It seems like there are LOTS of other men in their 20's with those values, or they claim to.
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    Nov 22, 2011 1:20 AM GMT
    RIGuy60 saidI've searched the forum, found a few topics addressing this, but they were old threads so I figured I'd just start a new one.

    I have a couple of questions. Most of these are coming from a dating/relationship point of view rather than a hookup.

    -Why do you like older guys? What physical and/or emotional qualities do they have that you like?

    -If you were attracted to and felt a connection with an older guy, is there a maximum age difference where you would draw the line? (10 yr?, 20 yr? more?)

    I'm asking for a few reasons. I like younger guys for a lot of reasons (some of those reasons are in my profile), but I just want to be realistic about it. Plus many of the 20 and 30 yr olds I've met or dated were far more mature than a lot of guys my own age.



    You are 51- and with a straight face you can claim that many of the 20 year and 30 year olds are far more mature than guys who are in their 50s. Are you kidding me with this BS?

    None of the 20 or 30 years that I have met have ever been more mature than guys my age. The fact that you meet so many of them that you claim are - indicates to me either you live in a bubble universe or else you are on the the same wave length as said 20s and 30 years old. i.e. not mature.

    Be that as it may - you do not have to make any excuses for liking guys who are so much younger than you are. You are an adult, they are adults you may be preying on younger guys due to your own lack of maturity. But that's between the two of you. Enjoy it while you can. There will always be guys who are in dysfunctional relationships.

    Enjoy.

    5 years younger is my max
    10 years older is my max
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    Nov 22, 2011 1:35 AM GMT
    The filter here at any age is AVAILABLE. However you stereotype an age group what makes the big difference is the individual circumstance of being single. There are reasons why a 40 year old is still looking for Mr Right and has not found him. 20 year olds have a better percentage of normal guys that don't have personality attributes that preclude them from dating.
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    Nov 22, 2011 1:42 AM GMT
    MadeNUSA said
    RIGuy60 saidI've searched the forum, found a few topics addressing this, but they were old threads so I figured I'd just start a new one.

    I have a couple of questions. Most of these are coming from a dating/relationship point of view rather than a hookup.

    -Why do you like older guys? What physical and/or emotional qualities do they have that you like?

    -If you were attracted to and felt a connection with an older guy, is there a maximum age difference where you would draw the line? (10 yr?, 20 yr? more?)

    I'm asking for a few reasons. I like younger guys for a lot of reasons (some of those reasons are in my profile), but I just want to be realistic about it. Plus many of the 20 and 30 yr olds I've met or dated were far more mature than a lot of guys my own age.



    You are 51- and with a straight face you can claim that many of the 20 year and 30 year olds are far more mature than guys who are in their 50s. Are you kidding me with this BS?

    None of the 20 or 30 years that I have met have ever been more mature than guys my age. The fact that you meet so many of them that you claim are - indicates to me either you live in a bubble universe or else you are on the the same wave length as said 20s and 30 years old. i.e. not mature.

    Be that as it may - you do not have to make any excuses for liking guys who are so much younger than you are. You are an adult, they are adults you may be preying on younger guys due to your own lack of maturity. But that's between the two of you. Enjoy it while you can. There will always be guys who are in dysfunctional relationships.

    Enjoy.

    5 years younger is my max
    10 years older is my max


    Wow dude this is like the second time you made a completely judgmental post for no reason? For someone who is so mature and old you have certainly figured out how to stereotype and generalize, guess in your next 50 years you could figure out why that is bad. Enjoy forever alone loser.
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    Nov 22, 2011 2:01 AM GMT
    Trollileo said
    Chainers and I pretty much have the same opinions.
    You had better correct yourself young man!..

    OpinioN, You and he definitely have different opinionS!


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    Nov 22, 2011 2:03 AM GMT
    Hmm the pot calling the kettle black haha.
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    Nov 22, 2011 2:04 AM GMT
    MadeNUSA saidYou are 51- and with a straight face you can claim that many of the 20 year and 30 year olds are far more mature than guys who are in their 50s. Are you kidding me with this BS?


    I never said I was a mature 50 yr old. And maybe you and I differ on our definitions of maturity. Most of the guys my age that I've dated (notice how I'm not generalizing by saying ALL) I found to be very jaded , snobby, wishy-washy, or worse. On the other hand, I've had a few dates recently with guys 24-30 yr old, and I have nothing but admiration for them. They were honest, hard-working, energetic, open-minded, non-judgemental (something you should learn) and very easy to talk to.
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    Nov 22, 2011 2:07 AM GMT
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    Trollileo saidMy entire life people older and higher in power/stature than me have been bringing me up to their level in sense of humor, responsibilities, expectations, etc... Rather than talking down to me.

    I'll talk down to you if you're feeling the lack of it, Trolli.

    So, let's see if I remember how to do this.

    Isn't ums the widdle cute boy? :pinches cheek:

    Hm, that doesn't sound quite right.
    You owe me a new keyboard.. this one is gonna short out in na munite!
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    Nov 22, 2011 2:07 AM GMT

    -Why do you like older guys?

    I don't really know, but I just find most of them, incredibly attractive.


    What physical and/or emotional qualities do they have that you like?

    I like the fact that most of them are mature, wise... who am I kidding? They're super hot, that's why icon_razz.gif

    -If you were attracted to and felt a connection with an older guy, is there a maximum age difference where you would draw the line? (10 yr?, 20 yr? more?)

    The oldest men I've been with have been in their late 40s, but I would go for a 60 year old, too, I mean, I've seen some pretty hot 60 year olds! icon_twisted.gif and the fact that he could be my grandpa is really hot!

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    Nov 22, 2011 2:07 AM GMT
    older guys are hot because they know what they're doing in bed.
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    Nov 22, 2011 2:11 AM GMT
    Trollileo said
    TropicalMark said
    jpBITCHva said
    Trollileo saidMy entire life people older and higher in power/stature than me have been bringing me up to their level in sense of humor, responsibilities, expectations, etc... Rather than talking down to me.

    I'll talk down to you if you're feeling the lack of it, Trolli.

    So, let's see if I remember how to do this.

    Isn't ums the widdle cute boy? :pinches cheek:

    Hm, that doesn't sound quite right.
    You owe me a new keyboard.. this one is gonna short out in na munite!
    What the hell are you two doing...
    Hopefully gettin a rise outta you! Oooooh that sound kinky! icon_lol.gificon_lol.gificon_lol.gif
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    Nov 22, 2011 2:13 AM GMT
    Hypnotico said
    -Why do you like older guys?

    I don't really know, but I just find most of them, incredibly attractive.


    What physical and/or emotional qualities do they have that you like?

    I like the fact that most of them are mature, wise... who am I kidding? They're super hot, that's why icon_razz.gif

    -If you were attracted to and felt a connection with an older guy, is there a maximum age difference where you would draw the line? (10 yr?, 20 yr? more?)

    The oldest men I've been with have been in their late 40s, but I would go for a 60 year old, too, I mean, I've seen some pretty hot 60 year olds! icon_twisted.gif and the fact that he could be my grandpa is really hot!

    The testosterone is RAGING! woah! Down boy, down!
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    Nov 22, 2011 2:13 AM GMT
    Trollileo said
    TropicalMark said
    Trollileo said
    TropicalMark said
    jpBITCHva said
    Trollileo saidMy entire life people older and higher in power/stature than me have been bringing me up to their level in sense of humor, responsibilities, expectations, etc... Rather than talking down to me.

    I'll talk down to you if you're feeling the lack of it, Trolli.

    So, let's see if I remember how to do this.

    Isn't ums the widdle cute boy? :pinches cheek:

    Hm, that doesn't sound quite right.
    You owe me a new keyboard.. this one is gonna short out in na munite!
    What the hell are you two doing...
    Hopefully gettin a rise outta you! Oooooh that sound kinky! icon_lol.gificon_lol.gificon_lol.gif
    You can't see it, but I'm facepalming right now.
    Is that the ONLY thing you're doing with that hand?????
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    Nov 22, 2011 2:15 AM GMT
    TropicalMark said
    Hypnotico said
    -Why do you like older guys?

    I don't really know, but I just find most of them, incredibly attractive.


    What physical and/or emotional qualities do they have that you like?

    I like the fact that most of them are mature, wise... who am I kidding? They're super hot, that's why icon_razz.gif

    -If you were attracted to and felt a connection with an older guy, is there a maximum age difference where you would draw the line? (10 yr?, 20 yr? more?)

    The oldest men I've been with have been in their late 40s, but I would go for a 60 year old, too, I mean, I've seen some pretty hot 60 year olds! icon_twisted.gif and the fact that he could be my grandpa is really hot!

    The testosterone is RAGING! woah! Down boy, down!


    mmm nice icon_razz.gif I don't know why but I'm feeling very hungry!
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    Nov 22, 2011 2:16 AM GMT
    Trollileo said
    TropicalMark said
    Trollileo said
    TropicalMark said
    Trollileo said
    TropicalMark said
    jpBITCHva said
    Trollileo saidMy entire life people older and higher in power/stature than me have been bringing me up to their level in sense of humor, responsibilities, expectations, etc... Rather than talking down to me.

    I'll talk down to you if you're feeling the lack of it, Trolli.

    So, let's see if I remember how to do this.

    Isn't ums the widdle cute boy? :pinches cheek:

    Hm, that doesn't sound quite right.
    You owe me a new keyboard.. this one is gonna short out in na munite!
    What the hell are you two doing...
    Hopefully gettin a rise outta you! Oooooh that sound kinky! icon_lol.gificon_lol.gificon_lol.gif
    You can't see it, but I'm facepalming right now.
    Is that the ONLY thing you're doing with that hand?????
    The other hand is using the multitasking. I'm making dinner right now.
    Hmmmmmm Multitasking........icon_wink.gif
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    Nov 22, 2011 2:16 AM GMT
    Hypnotico said
    TropicalMark said
    Hypnotico said
    -Why do you like older guys?

    I don't really know, but I just find most of them, incredibly attractive.


    What physical and/or emotional qualities do they have that you like?

    I like the fact that most of them are mature, wise... who am I kidding? They're super hot, that's why icon_razz.gif

    -If you were attracted to and felt a connection with an older guy, is there a maximum age difference where you would draw the line? (10 yr?, 20 yr? more?)

    The oldest men I've been with have been in their late 40s, but I would go for a 60 year old, too, I mean, I've seen some pretty hot 60 year olds! icon_twisted.gif and the fact that he could be my grandpa is really hot!

    The testosterone is RAGING! woah! Down boy, down!


    mmm nice icon_razz.gif I don't know why but I'm feeling very hungry!
    No dinner? You poorboy! Lemme feed ya!