I just don't get it....what the F&%K is up with this?

  • muscle_grower

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    Nov 22, 2011 4:55 AM GMT
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    Okay here's my question - I have been chatting on phone, IM, and texting with some pretty cool guys from RJ. Nothing serious, talk about life, workouts, men, etc.

    I recently started to text and talk on the phone with this guy from Nebraska (I'm in Colorado) and we have had great conversations and texts over the past 6 weeks. Everything from work, past relationships, exchanging pics, workouts, and the occasional sexting. we would text each other a few times a day and it was nice to hear from each other.

    Last week the texts suddenly stopped. I sent him a few texts to see if he was okay and he said he was "very busy". So, I decided to not bother him. Three days went by and I decided to send him a text to say "Good Morning". No reply. I then went to RJ to send him an email to see if he was okay only to find that the chickenshit blocked me. Not sure of the reason, but not important. I sent him a text asking him what was up with the no reply to the texts and the RJ block and never heard from him. I sent a follow-up telling him it was all good and I wished him well.

    Here's what I am confused about: Why are guys who are in their 40's acting like junior high kids. What's up with the blocking and no communication. It's not a big deal if he told me that he wanted to move on and not communicate - I'm a big boy and it's okay. But to stop communicating and block someone without reason is a bit childish.icon_question.gif

    So, what's up with this? It makes me want to become more guarded and perhaps jaded on who I chat with on RJ and I think I might be missing out on knowing some really nice guys. Anyone have any insight into this odd behavior?
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    Nov 22, 2011 5:00 AM GMT
    It's really not all that odd. Seems to be how most guys operate these days. It's going to be a rare occasion when a guy will actually say he's no longer interested in chatting/texting. I do agree that blocking you was taking it a bit far, though.
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    Nov 22, 2011 5:01 AM GMT
    So many threads on here about the same thing. And the common theme is texting. Texting is a sure-fire way to ruin a good thing. If you're going to try and do the long distance thing, you had better make sure you chose a method of communication that conveys feeling the best, and texting ain't it! Texting is a dead, lifeless form of communication that's only slightly better than carving messages on a rock. The next time you meet someone you like, tell them upfront that you don't text.
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    Nov 22, 2011 5:19 AM GMT
    I'd say the distance between the two guys was a bigger problem than the texting. Six weeks is a good run, though, I think. It's difficult when you're sensing some kind of chemistry and there's no wam body to touch or physically interact with. Sometimes it can be total frustration!
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    Nov 22, 2011 5:22 AM GMT
    He found something new and shiny to look at.
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    Nov 22, 2011 5:24 AM GMT
    xrichx saidHe found something new and shiny to look at.

    icon_lol.gif An even better point than anything I said.
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    Nov 22, 2011 5:26 AM GMT
    unfounded7 saidI'd say the distance between the two guys was a bigger problem than the texting. Six weeks is a good run, though, I think. It's difficult when you're sensing some kind of chemistry and there's no wam body to touch or physically interact with. Sometimes it can be total frustration!

    Kind of the way I feel about you. I can see you but I can't fuck you. err... I mean, get fucked by.... Oh nvm! I'm all frustrated now
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    Nov 22, 2011 5:29 AM GMT
    waimea saidKind of the way I feel about you. I can see you but I can't fuck you. err... I mean, get fucked by.... Oh nvm! I'm all frustrated now

    Except you're sock puppet. And while I think sock puppets are fun, I don't have sex with them. icon_wink.gif
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    Nov 22, 2011 5:33 AM GMT
    Shinra_Tensei said
    unfounded7 said
    waimea saidKind of the way I feel about you. I can see you but I can't fuck you. err... I mean, get fucked by.... Oh nvm! I'm all frustrated now

    Except you're sock puppet. And while I think sock puppets are fun, I don't have sex with them. icon_wink.gif


    We'll see about that icon_wink.gif

    Just as I thought.
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    Nov 22, 2011 5:42 AM GMT
    His girlfriend probably got back into town and you know how them girls can get
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    Nov 23, 2011 5:23 AM GMT
    I wanna see which thread gets more replies. Go! icon_lol.gif
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    Nov 23, 2011 5:25 AM GMT
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    Nov 23, 2011 5:30 AM GMT
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    Nov 23, 2011 5:32 AM GMT
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    Nov 23, 2011 5:38 AM GMT
    Back to the original topic, some guys.....well, a lot of guys......are just flakes. People don't know how to communicate, so they just take the easy way out. It's just something that you have to get used to.

    *** goes to block the OP for no reason ***

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    Nov 23, 2011 5:43 AM GMT
    The other thing is, it's really easy to dismiss a guy when there's no face to face interaction. There's no emotional bonding. You each become just another screen name on the internet, and it's pretty easy to drop a guy with a push of a button.

    Also, unless you guys saw each other on live web cam, there's a strong possibility the other guy was a fake. And the pics he gave you were of someone else.

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    Nov 23, 2011 5:47 AM GMT
    It must be a slow night. I'm going to bed. Nite!
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    Nov 23, 2011 5:49 AM GMT
    xrichx saidThe other thing is, it's really easy to dismiss a guy when there's no face to face interaction. There's no emotional bonding. You each become just another screen name on the internet, and it's pretty easy to drop a guy with a push of a button.

    Also, unless you guys saw each other on live web cam, there's a strong possibility the other guy was a fake. And the pics he gave you were of someone else.



    Actually it's just as easy to dismiss the guy after you've already had sex. Like, what else is there to do? Get married and get preggers?
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    Nov 23, 2011 3:05 PM GMT
    I dunno. I still think it's possible the guy was fake.
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    Nov 23, 2011 3:11 PM GMT
    Probably lost interest. Don't take it personal. I'd say just keep moving forward. icon_smile.gif
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    Nov 23, 2011 3:47 PM GMT
    Summary:

    1. Most men (protip: not just us 'mos) are self centered douchebags. And age is no guarantee of reduced douchiness/better social skills. If anything, things might be worse as the clock for many 40+ gays is racing them down the path of being old, fugly and foreveralone. Ergo, they are out to plow as much ass or get as much cock into their holes as possible before being packed off to Wilton Manor, or the retirement home.

    2. Since most guys who are looking for "love" on Grindr, Adam, etc will drop you (or you'll want to drop them) after a single fuck, how much more so are you of less value as a collection of pretty pixels and some texts, than as a flesh bag with to RandomDoucheGuy for the sexing?

    The interwebs have a lot of good uses, but by and large, creating stable and long lasting relationships is not one of them as a rule.
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    Nov 23, 2011 3:52 PM GMT
    xrichx saidI dunno. I still think it's possible the guy was fake.

    Very possible. Given the distance between the two guys not great, possible if he was a fake, he became threatened.
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    Nov 23, 2011 3:58 PM GMT
    muscle_grower said It's not a big deal if he told me that he wanted to move on and not communicate - I'm a big boy and it's okay. But to stop communicating and block someone without reason is a bit childish



    He told you. He just didn't say it verbally
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    Nov 23, 2011 4:00 PM GMT
    In the other thread on the same subject by the OP, Hypnotico found a cached version on Google of the guy the OP had been talking to and is now a deleted profile.

    http://webcache.googleusercontent.com/search?q=cache:9Oz1RsrY7F4J:www.realjock.com/nebr_rangerxlt+&cd=1&hl=en&ct=clnk
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    Nov 23, 2011 4:46 PM GMT
    AlphaTrigger saidSummary:

    1. Most men (protip: not just us 'mos) are self centered douchebags. And age is no guarantee of reduced douchiness/better social skills. If anything, things might be worse as the clock for many 40+ gays is racing them down the path of being old, fugly and foreveralone. Ergo, they are out to plow as much ass or get as much cock into their holes as possible before being packed off to Wilton Manor, or the retirement home.

    2. Since most guys who are looking for "love" on Grindr, Adam, etc will drop you (or you'll want to drop them) after a single fuck, how much more so are you of less value as a collection of pretty pixels and some texts, than as a flesh bag with to RandomDoucheGuy for the sexing?

    The interwebs have a lot of good uses, but by and large, creating stable and long lasting relationships is not one of them as a rule.



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